Birthday Prezzies :D
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Not sure about cultural significance of getting people flowers where you are... I'm usually a lot less overt and get them gift certificates to their favorite store or restaurant. Bookstore gift certificates are my favorite as a recipient, followed by gift certificates to electronics stores (preferably at least $100 US. 
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).Lita_rulez
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squirrel said:Flowers are fine if you ask me!
Flowers are indeed fine.
The only thing you have to worry about, is learning the flower language before you create the composition you want for them.
Each flower has a particular meaning.
As long as you choose your flowers carefully and know their meaning, you can offer flowers to anyone and not be accused of "trying to seduce" that person, because you can allways explain what the composition you have created means.
For example, you could create a composition thats says your admiration, friendship and thanks them... no one can ever blame you for doing so.
After that, wether you want to throw in a flower meaning "secretly in love" in the midle of the bouquet and offer her a book on "the hidden meaning of flowers" is up to you :wink:
MacMoto
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cocodrilo
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Flowers wilt & die and eventually get thrown away. A gift that would last a lifetime would be more appreciated, IMHO. A compilation of your favorite songs(on CD or cassette), a handmade birthday card or a trinket that the recipient may collect(cats, owls, elephants, for example). Getting gifts of music has always been the most memorable gift for me. I remember those dozen red roses I got, but I still have that kick-butt dave Matthews CD that my buddy gave me for my birthday a few years ago!
Lita_rulez
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cocodrilo said:
Well, everything fades in time... even the person you are giving the gift to. A birthday is nothing less than celebrating you have one less year left to live.
Music does get old, especialy when it is a "best of" of someone else's music.
A hand made birthday card or a trinket are just some of the many examples we could give of the loads of useless junk that crowds allmost everyone's garage or basement or whatever. We have no use for them, hell, we sometimes don't even like them, but we have a hard time throwing them away for they are birthday gifts...
I do not believe in something you offer that should last forever, except for a selected few (and that often turns out to be jewelery) and from a selected few (usually kids) because for something to actually last long enough with someone to qualify for the "forever" deal, it has to be both useable on a regular basis and enjoyed by the person you make that gift to.
Those gifts take time to select, require that you know the person well, and are more often then not rather pricy.
Personnaly, I'd rather have something wonderfull that won't last forever, but I will enjoy so much the memories will still be with long after the present is gone, than something I will look at, or listen once or twice, then store in a cardboard box, and look out every ten years when I move into a new house and say "what the hell is in that box and why have I not thrown it out years ago ? Oh, that's right... that's in there...
borikensalsero
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Danoo,
The point is to get something that you give from the heart, whether it is the Flowers, or the CD. When the person thinks back they will think of you, the memories, and how you went out of your way to do something for them.
The flowers are good because a lot of women love them, especially if they come out of nowhere, they will always remember that day, and look upon it with a smile.
The best gift you can give someone is one made out of humanly love, despite what it's physical representation might be. That is of no worries, if you do it out of the goodness of your heart, you can do no wrong.
CDs are good because they object will always be there, there so the person can smile of past events that make life meaningfull... The same with flowers, the difference being that the person has the object there to always remember you by...
It is up to you, if feel like getting flowers, do it, if you feel like making a card, do it, because, it has been my experience, that a girl will dearly hold to something that a person has hand crafted for them, even if it is horrible. For it means that you dare go out of your way to prove to that person how much their presence in your life means to you!
Remember, the gift matters not, what count is the goodness from the heart that comes with it. Close your eyes, listen to yourself, and you'll know what to get.
Good luck
The point is to get something that you give from the heart, whether it is the Flowers, or the CD. When the person thinks back they will think of you, the memories, and how you went out of your way to do something for them.
The flowers are good because a lot of women love them, especially if they come out of nowhere, they will always remember that day, and look upon it with a smile.
The best gift you can give someone is one made out of humanly love, despite what it's physical representation might be. That is of no worries, if you do it out of the goodness of your heart, you can do no wrong.
CDs are good because they object will always be there, there so the person can smile of past events that make life meaningfull... The same with flowers, the difference being that the person has the object there to always remember you by...
It is up to you, if feel like getting flowers, do it, if you feel like making a card, do it, because, it has been my experience, that a girl will dearly hold to something that a person has hand crafted for them, even if it is horrible. For it means that you dare go out of your way to prove to that person how much their presence in your life means to you!
Remember, the gift matters not, what count is the goodness from the heart that comes with it. Close your eyes, listen to yourself, and you'll know what to get.
Good luck
how about i wrap myself in a ribbon and send myself to her with a birthday card plastered on my forehead from u in your hand writing telling her something like:
"BEST WISHES.. ENJOY!"
:lol: :lol: :lol: :wink:
seriously, personaly i like getting wicked perfumes for ladies.. mucho sexy 8)
"BEST WISHES.. ENJOY!"
:lol: :lol: :lol: :wink:
seriously, personaly i like getting wicked perfumes for ladies.. mucho sexy 8)
peachexploration
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borikensalsero said:
Boriken is right. One of the attornies in my office gave all the ladies one live red rose for Valentines Day four years ago. I let it dry and keep it my inspirational book. Every once in a while, I take it out to brighten my day. Good Luck, Danoo.
Lita_rulez
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borikensalsero said:Danoo,
The point is to get something that you give from the heart, whether it is the Flowers, or the CD. When the person thinks back they will think of you, the memories, and how you went out of your way to do something for them.
Good luck
I am still much hung up on my idea that "Crap is crap and is destined to be thrown out. Crap from the heart is kept because it comes from the heart, but still, I'm not sure I'd like to be remembered every decade by a mere "why the hell did I ever keep that crap ? Oh, that's right, he offered it to me... he was sweet (not to bright on the presents though)"
However, I have to agree with boriken on the point he makes : what matters is that the gift shows you went out of your way to do something for that person.
So by all means, please do not get a gift certificate if you care about that person.
It is one of the worst presents ever for a woman (and me) and here is a good example why.
I used to go to school in a rather renown Paris school (top 5) so obviously, you get to meet a few people from rather "fortunate background"
There was this one girl, who was the daughter of a movie producer. I remeber she came out crying on the day of her birthday.
I sat with her and asked her why she was so sad.
She told me :
"my dad just gave me my birthday present this morning. He came into the kitchen, pulled out his check book, took his nice pen, and said "well, honey, you are today 16 years old, so you get 16 hundred francs, there you go, happy birthday" handed it to me, pecked me on the cheek and went to work."
At first, I was amazed at how this could bum her out. I mean, 1 600 FRF, that is almost 250 euros, or by today's rate, roughly 300 USD. It seems like a big amount of money today, imagine what it represented when I was 16 and had yet to earn any money on my own.
But then she explained it to me :
"He does not even care about me enough to stop 10 minutes and figure out what I like or dislike. He could have looked at a magazine to see what was trendy, buy it in my favourit colour, or gone to the megastore and bought the latest hit CD, but no, that would be too much precious time spend on his unimportant daughter... giving away money with a check written in 30 seconds on a corner of the sink is enough time to give in one year according to him..."
Do make a gift from the heart. If you do it, do it because you care enough for the person that you want to please them. If you don't care enough to find out what they like, or come up with something you can do to please them, then don't make the gift, it's not worth it, and it's meaningless...
peachexploration
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Hmmm, I'd rather have crap from the heart than heartless crap but that's just me. :lol: :lol:
This person may also have a good idea of what the teachers like as well. [/quote]
danoo said:
This person may also have a good idea of what the teachers like as well.
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