Burnout

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samina said:
read thru the thread. have tried to recall any feelings of dance burnout and can't, only times where it was simply "time to rest", and i don't believe that ever lasted longer than a couple weeks. and frankly, those times may have all been inspired by "needing to rest the pocketbook" more than the body or the spirit. never had any thoughts of wanting to quit or feeling weary of a routine or momentum.

sounds like this isn't the norm. but, well, there it is. hiatus or no...can't imagine life without dance, now.
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I totally with you on this. I've been taken off from dancing for 2 weeks. Actually that was the plan and talked to my pro. And the drama started and I was going to quit with pro. But, I changed my mind and was going to go back to the dance floor right away. My pro suggested me to take a week off and i'm now dying on my couch thinking about going back to dance.
 
I'll admit that there are times when I feel that things are getting old and stale, but that only occurs when I'm not at a dance. I don't feel that way when I am dancing though.
 
samina said:
those times may have all been inspired by "needing to rest the pocketbook" more than the body or the spirit. never had any thoughts of wanting to quit or feeling weary of a routine or momentum.
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I concur. For me, I haven't had a chance to get burnt out because between babies and non-dance-related injuries and surgeries, I haven't been able to do much dancing. I wish I had such a dance schedule that I could even come close to burnout. :(
 
Has anyone had success motivating a burnt out partner? Lately my dh has no enthusiasm for anything other than AT. He used to be very motivated in all of our classes. I could continue lessons in other dances without him, but we are social dancers and the main reason we started was to have time together and to dance with each other. I suspect his change of heart is in part due to the loss of our favorite teachers (and something of a going-out-of-business atmosphere in one of the studios where we take lessons), but also I have observed him getting impatient now when he can't pick something up quickly. Would he benefit from a break or should I push him to continue?
 
DancingMommy said:
I concur. For me, I haven't had a chance to get burnt out because between babies and non-dance-related injuries and surgeries, I haven't been able to do much dancing. I wish I had such a dance schedule that I could even come close to burnout. :(
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i hear ya. i kept a grueling schedule all last year, hit up 13-14 comps...only whet my appetite. :cool:

thing is, tho...taking time when needed to heal, rest, reconnect with one's purpose, take care of self & personal matters...these things are all important. so someone may experience "burnout" and it's simply that some of those other things have fallen by the wayside and need attention, and that's normal.

i'm a hard-working lazy-person who needs (and takes) a lot of personal time to just "be", and i know that's what allows me to maintain an intensity about something i love over time.
 
New in NY said:
Has anyone had success motivating a burnt out partner? Lately my dh has no enthusiasm for anything other than AT. He used to be very motivated in all of our classes. I could continue lessons in other dances without him, but we are social dancers and the main reason we started was to have time together and to dance with each other. I suspect his change of heart is in part due to the loss of our favorite teachers (and something of a going-out-of-business atmosphere in one of the studios where we take lessons), but also I have observed him getting impatient now when he can't pick something up quickly. Would he benefit from a break or should I push him to continue?
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I'm sorry to hear that, New in NY. Perhaps there are some situational factors rather than personal limitations that are keeping him from picking things up as quickly?

-taking on too much new material at once?
-bad group classes?
-working on technical points that require multiple things to be working together?

If so, maybe a break not from the frustrating dances, but rather a break from the usual approaches? Otherwise, I think a break would be a good idea, maybe picking up a dance style you've never done before. :)
 
Thank you, TC. In giving this some thought, now I think the problem may indeed be taking on too much new material at once, in the sense of learning too many dances at one time. He and I learn very differently. I can pick up and remember steps relatively quickly (though it doesn't improve much from there; I am technique-challenged) and I never confuse steps between dances. So I really enjoy learning new dances to be able to dance to all types of music. It takes DH longer to learn the step and until recently he would sometimes confuse steps between dances. And of course he has the real burden of remembering the steps as the leader. So to be fair, it seems we should pull back on the variety of dances we are learning. ... Except I am getting very interested in learning WCS ...
 
I'm glad you may have identified the problem. I don't think you have to cut back on the number of dances. Instead, maybe you could cut back to something like 1-2 steps or technical points per dance. Or instead of studying two dances in a week, do one dance a week and alternate. :)
 
similar to burnout

I am getting frustrated with the sexism of dancing, and wish there was a group where both men and women took turns dancing lead and follow....

Every few months, i feel like quitting. But either I find a woman at a dance that will lead me a little bit, or some class teaches a move where the woman momentarily hijacks the lead, and I manage to keep going.

--Carey
 
After almost 3 weeks off with my pro, I had a lesson on last Friday. I was so unhappy 3weeks ago before I dropped a bomb to my teacher. The first lesson after all drama, it was like a dream. 50minutes felt like 5minutes. I think the break I had was timingwise,a correct decision.
 
BR-folk-square said:
I am getting frustrated with the sexism of dancing, and wish there was a group where both men and women took turns dancing lead and follow....
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Hmmm, I'm not sure I agree about the sexism. I think that there are two roles, neither better than the other, just different. There may be a tradition of each gender assuming a particular role, but IMO there isn't anything chromosonal that predisposes them to that role. There are people out there who enjoy dancing both roles. I hope you'll get to visit my area sometime. :)
 
New in NY said:
Has anyone had success motivating a burnt out partner? Lately my dh has no enthusiasm for anything other than AT. He used to be very motivated in all of our classes. I could continue lessons in other dances without him, but we are social dancers and the main reason we started was to have time together and to dance with each other. I suspect his change of heart is in part due to the loss of our favorite teachers (and something of a going-out-of-business atmosphere in one of the studios where we take lessons), but also I have observed him getting impatient now when he can't pick something up quickly. Would he benefit from a break or should I push him to continue?
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He's not burned out...he's going over to the dark side. It happens. ;)

I'm mostly kidding.

Don't push. Whatever you do, don't push.
 
BR-folk-square said:
I am getting frustrated with the sexism of dancing, and wish there was a group where both men and women took turns dancing lead and follow....

Every few months, i feel like quitting. But either I find a woman at a dance that will lead me a little bit, or some class teaches a move where the woman momentarily hijacks the lead, and I manage to keep going.

--Carey
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What sort of sexism do you find/where do you find it?

Is it a question of bristling at the whole men lead/women follow thing, or is there outright discrimination going on where you're learning?
 
in my times of burnout...I find that a break is essential...and if we are talking about dealing with a husband, if there is one thing I have learned after 24 years of marriage, it is never push a man to do something he doesn't want to do, unless it is a matter of life and death
 
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