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pygmalion

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Earlier this week, one of my dance teachers referred me to two possible dance partners, and I'm trying to choose which one to approach. One is an older (not old) gentleman I've known for a couple years -- a social dancer with a few bad habits to overcome, but a pretty good dancer and a nice guy. The other is relatively inexperienced, in my age group, open to new challenges, and drop-dead gorgeous.

I'm looking for a reliable, platonic dance partner to practice with and potentially compete with. Basically, I've given you all the information I have about the two men.

Just curious. If you were me, which would you choose and why?
 
Oh yeah, and both are reasonably fit, well-proportioned, and of reasonable height. And they both do smooth and rhythm dances.
 
I'd say it depends on your priorities. The older gentleman sounds like he'd probably be more of a sure bet as far as a reliable practice partner with less possability for any problems regarding a platonic partnering. The younger guy sounds like a more viable competition partner, but with more room for some partnering drama as well... (although any and/or all of this could be entirely off base, especially working from such limmited background data!)

HTH
 
Sad, sad, sad. After all the moral support I've doled out in the past months, you'd think somebody besides SD would come to my rescue with handy-dandy advice. :cry: :lol:

I guess I'm forced to make my own decision. So I'm making a dance "date" with each of them, to talk about goals and try things on for size. Worse case scenarios: I end up with two partners, or else none. *shrug* Either way is no worse off than I am now.
 
SDsalsaguy said:
I'd say it depends on your priorities. The older gentleman sounds like he'd probably be more of a sure bet as far as a reliable practice partner with less possability for any problems regarding a platonic partnering. The younger guy sounds like a more viable competition partner, but with more room for some partnering drama as well... (although any and/or all of this could be entirely off base, especially working from such limmited background data!)

HTH
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Ditto!

Pygmalion said:
Sad, sad, sad. After all the moral support I've doled out in the past months, you'd think somebody besides SD would come to my rescue with handy-dandy advice.
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Remember the animal that DF has become? It's tough getting through all the posts now!! :) The best way to decide is to have some face-face interaction with each of the potentials. There are things that we can learn from a person in person that are impossible to find out any other way. And you have alreday decided to do it, so that's great. :)
 
pygmalion said:
So I'm making a dance "date" with each of them, to talk about goals and try things on for size. .. ..
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Pygmalion, I think your way is the best way. Meet with both of them and make sure it's a good fit and go with your instincts. I don't have much to go on as far as suggesting either of them. I will just say just drill them like crazy in the dance interview as I know you will. :wink: The only other suggestion I can make is to make sure they are as SERIOUS about dance as you are if not more. Committment wise and Financially as well. I don't mean to sound superficial but if you're planning on competing, it could get quite expensive for both of you. Let us know how it goes. :D :D
 
IF you want strictly platonic go for the older guy. He seems to be a little head of the curve already anyway. I know from personal experience dancing all the time with a cute girl my age and can get tough, even though I'm engaged- my fiance is still in Argentina so I have pick up dance partners where I can until the paperwork is done. And I'm a good boy but don't think thoughts haven't crossed my mind :twisted:.
 
Yup. My thoughts exactly. That's why I mentioned that the younger guy is a real looker. I mean, a cutie. That's relevant, even though I'm not looking. Long, hot and sweaty dance practice sessions ... Well, you know. :oops: :lol: May as well avoid any problems up front. I'll still probably talk to them both, but, in the absense of any other info, I'd go for the older guy.
 
The flip side is, the older guy might not have the ability to improve that the younger guy has. If the two are at about the same ability level in terms of body mechanics (rib isolations, hip movement, body control) then you probably should go with the younger guy.
 
Okay. Okay. I'll schedule my two dance "dates," probably a public ballroom dance where both ballroom and Latin get played, and see what I see. *shrug*
 
I'd probably go for the younger guy... Bad habits are hard to break! But a clean slate is easierr to fill with the good stuff. Maybe you could split a lesson with both guys (one at a time) with your coach and see what he thinks about the partnership. That could definitley play a part in how you decide.
 
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I think I'm going to go with the suggestion of dancing with them both, and getting my coach to help me pick. Although I must admit, the deathmatch idea has its merits! :lol:
 
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