Competing with a partner you're not married to?

Yeah, we're trying not to let the pressure get to us.

It's actually not a bad situation -- when we lose, we'll think, "Well, ok, they've been doing this a lot longer than we have". But, if we win, we get to say, "And they've been doing this longer than we have!" :wink:
 
swan said:
That's the tough part...All my ex-partners, their other half invariably became "THE" issue...My better half, well, in another thread, we've already established that he's a Saint :lol:

I may be having some luck with the potential new partner (yes, I'm having few try outs... :)) I can't wait to have a partnership that's more stable and we can talk more about dance than try to sort out the other parties' off the floor personal issues...
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Did you split swan?
 
It's quite common in the competitive world that people partner with someone who's not their s/o...also there are also people partner with their s/o, either way could be working, depends on the person and how dancing is working out...
 
I haven't ever been involved with a dance partner, but I know a couple of people who have danced a lot with their significant other, and there is a real sweetness and loving touch to their dancing that I certainly don't have with my dance partner. It's beautiful to see, even if they are not as highly trained.

On the other hand, I don't think I could do it. I really value my time on the floor with my dance partner because it's my opportunity to do something for myself and work on my own thing. Maybe I'd feel differently under other circumstances.

As it is, the current non-dancer boy has no qualms about my dancing, but still comes to all my competitions to cheer me on

Compare with a previous boyfriend who not only didn't like that I was dancing with someone else (and my partner was engaged to someone else, so it was totally unfounded) but when I offered to wait and dance with him, he would promptly declare that he wasn't into that sort of dancing and would never do it. Needless to say, that did not last.
 
Whatever you do don't dance with someone if you or your partner has a SO if there's any risk of things becoming personal.


Otherwise you'll be fine. It's just dancing, then, as long as your SO is ok with it.



What really sucks is when you're hell keen on your dance partner and she either has a SO, or is just plain not interested. Makes the Tango an interesting exercise, though.
 
oh then I'm relieved, swan;) you guys looked good, hate to see couples split...

yap understand your pain of having partners have personal "issues" so not able to focusing on dancing related issues...nondancing s/o's could be annoying if they don't show understanding:(
 
dancingirldancing said:
Does anyones life partner get jealous/suspicious with your dance partner ?

How do you address it ?
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Probably a good first step is to be open and honest with your life partner. A good start to that is not pursuing life dreams in other countries without telling your life partner. If you can't do that, then you've got bigger problems than dance related ones.
 
Wooh, you got me there :) BUT the thing with being honest is that your SO can just say NO. He hasn't really said NO because I have not really asked but he is the kind of person who once saying NO really means it. Not negotiable.

What then ? Either I stop dancing or I break up with my SO.

Considering we have been together for over 10 years I probably choose the former.

I really have to approach it carefully.
 
I have good news, DH actually suggested I find a partner (with my pushing actually).

Making it sounds like it is his idea work out well actually !

Now, I just have to hunt for a partner...
 
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