In the tango I know and love, there is a high degree of harmony between the two dancers. Doesn't mean they are doing the exact same thing, of course, but they are not each dancing their own separate dance!
I completely agree - thats why i am am afraid that we are talking at cross purposes. If we draw music analogies the first violin is not disharmonous, or plays a different song, or is out of synch because they play more notes than the second violin. (As long as they stay within the "pulse" of the orchestra/ the piece they are playing).
I think we are actually talking about two different things simultaneously - let me try to disentangle:
1) Can we be in synch if we don't step identically? In simple cases it is quite obvious that we can - e.g. in a calesita/giro one partner does not step at all, and the other one steps a lot. If we are pedantic all the "invisible" weightshifts of the leader are the leader stepping three times where the follower steps twice, e.g. the conventional entry to the ocho is Leader: sidestep to the left, tiny sidestep to the right, sidestep to the left while the follower does sidestep to the right, backstep to the right. (this is probably the most common example where fancy footwork of one partner is invisible/not synched by the other partner, and we still stay in harmony - but all invisble weightshifts are examples were the leaders and followers footwork is independent of each other)
Would you feel different about this concept if the double time accent of the follower is completely under the control of the leader? e.g. if i lead a cross, but don't stop when she crosses but do a complete walking step, which will make her do double time walk, cross, weightshift walk , while i just do a single step? Or, if i lead lopsided progressive ochos while half timing her walk, i.e.
| Follower: | Leader |
| pivot | dissociate |
| small step / cross towards 3 o clock | step towards 11 o clock |
| pivot | un-dissociate (associate?) during the step |
| step towards 11 o clock | same step continues |
| pivot | dissociate |
| small step/ cross towars 3 o clock | step towards 11 o clock, small outside saccada if this time we are moving from the crossed to the parallel system, |
| pivot | associate during the step |
| step towards 11 o clock | same step continues |
so i am walking half her speed?
2) Should the follower do things that are not lead?
I think this is a tricky question, because it this becomes very conditional.
First i think everybody is ok with followers doing embellishments like toe taps (if they are not changing the geometry and pulse of the couple - which requires some skill).
If we are ok with this embellishment then we should in theory also be ok with the follower doing 3 steps instead of one - they still arrive at the same point, on the same leg, and if they are the theoretically perfect follower with perfect technique the leader will not even notice this.
Now i would say that the same way the invisibility of the leaders weightshift is often more a suspension of disbelief by the follower than them really not noticing the leader did something as leaders we should also offer the followers the same courtesy, and accept some degree of visibility of their footwork.
And now we are getting into even trickier territory - if we accept 3 steps instead of one can we accept 2? this changes the geometry of the couple, puts us into the cross system, and all kinds of weirdness happens. But as a leader who navigates a chaotic ronda we are accustomed to weirdeness, and of course we can deal with this, but is it good for the dance?
And this goes to the heart why these are advanced follower skills - they require the follower to understand the geometry of the couple, the music, the geometry of the leader. My teacher used to tell my partner that as soon - and only - when she knew that i as the leader was comitted to a step she could do whatever she wanted. How to figure out if a leader is committed? first musicality - if the leaders dance has a understandable relationship with the music then musicality serves to telegraph the leaders intentions, and the follower can be with, or even ahead of them. If the leader is not musical the follower is always playing catch up, and of course can't do things that are not lead. My teacher used to call this being "trustworthy" as a leader.