(tried to add to my previous post, but it wouldn't let me, so I had to make another one)
John, would you explain how you can be leaning against something and in control of your own balance at the same time?
I think that if I lean against some thing or person, by definition I have given up control of my balance. Certainly, I can regain control in a moment, but not while I'm still leaning.
I think there is a difference between being "on balance" and being "in control of your balance". If I lean heavily on a wall, I am no longer balancing completely on my own, but I have the ability to regain my balance quite easily, so I have control.
So I actually disagree with the statement that apilado can
never be a shared balance. (If 2 people want to dance that way, they can)
I agree that the couple (and the people that make up the couple) have
control of their balance even if they are sharing weight and dependent on each other to avoid falling over while weight is shared.
I also think that in reality (as opposed to theory), even when they aren't trying to share weight, people are likely to have at least MOMENTS during the dance when they really rely on the other for balance and that this happens more than people think it does. It is just the reality of one of the ways humans find and maintain balance...
a tactile reference to an object outside ourselves.
We also use sight, our innner ear equilibrium and the sensations beign sent to our brain from the part of us in contact with the floor (hopefully our foot) which is another example of tactile reference to something outside ourselves.
Its much harder to balance with your eyes closed. Its very hard to balance if your whole leg is numb. Its harder to balance with a cold messing with the fluid and air in your skull.
And its easier to balance if you have TWO tactile reference points... one at the floor and one higher up. Even a very light touch (no pressure or weight) can help you stay on balance. (Ballet dancers at the barre find this out pretty quickly)
Because you are moving when you dance tango, the need for this contact and the amount of it varies. That's the
reality. Yes we all want to think we are "on our own balance" and have total control of it completely independent of our partner. But the truth is that only VERY advanced dancers do. Most of us actually do use our partner for balance to some extent. This can be noticable to the partner or not depending on how dependent we are and on how much difference there is in the size and bulk of the 2 people.
The GOAL is to be in total control of our own balance ALWAYS and to never need the other person to achieve it except when the dance is deliberately sharing weight (but I'd argue that there is still control).
The reality is that few recreational dancers are capable of that, and its better to recognize and accept that fact, especially if you are trying to teach them to dance.