Dilemma

[quixotedlm]

Just bought ticks for NW salsa congress and about to reserve hotel spots. Suddenly remembered that a (salsa) friend is hosting his wedding reception on one of those days. A big chunk of my (non-addicted) salsa friends will be there, and I already RSVP'd him and said that I'll go. Wondering what I should do - return early from congress or change my RSVP to 'maybe' and not go...

 

[africana]

:shock:
you want us to tell you if your friend is more important than a congress? LOL!

(dude that's hella personal)

 

[quixotedlm]

:shock:
you want us to tell you if your friend is more important than a congress? LOL!

(dude that's hella personal)

correction - 'salsa' friend. isn't anonymity such a great thing - don't have to agonize over personal dilemmas alone. Now I can simply post on DF

on a side note - i find americans to be so incapable of being empathetic when it comes to personal issues. They are so stuck up on the notion of privacy and compartmentalization that they almost lose the ability to have perspectives on other peoples lives (without being gossipy about it). Of course this generalization doesn't fit all, but seems to fit a lot

 

[africana]

I don't even consider myself "american" but i guess it takes time to build interpersonal skills

 

[Tony_Salvi]

Dude...I would just go ahead and go to your friend's wedding reception. Unless something's changed there will be other congresses this year and another NW congress next year. Try and see if youcan sell them off or something. If you can't make a profit, at least come as close as possible.

 

[BugBear]

I just came back from a wedding
You really shouldn't miss it. Not just because you already said that you will be there. If you friend invited you, then it will mean a lot to him/her if you are there.

 

[MacMoto]

Depends on how big a friend this salsa friend is to you I suppose -- only you can answer that. Personally, since you can still attend part of the congress, doing both sounds to me like a good compromise. And if there will be a lot of other salsa dancers at the reception, your friend may arrange to have some salsa played at the reception, so you can still get some dance fix (you can take your salsa CDs with you just in case :twisted: ).

 

[naturallove]

Just bought ticks for NW salsa congress and about to reserve hotel spots. Suddenly remembered that a (salsa) friend is hosting his wedding reception on one of those days. A big chunk of my (non-addicted) salsa friends will be there, and I already RSVP'd him and said that I'll go. Wondering what I should do - return early from congress or change my RSVP to 'maybe' and not go...

Only a hard-core salsero would see this as an issue! LOL If I were you're friend, I'd be PO'ed-but I'd almost understand. Almost. I'd still be very, very angry at you and not speak to you for some time..but I'd almost understand. I'd say just go to part of the congress and then head for the reception. There are so many salsa congresses each year-all over the world-at least 6-7 official congresses on the east coast alone (and that's not even counting the festivals, etc.). I can only imagine what's going on over there on the West Coast. So, I'd agree with MacMoto-go the congress, have a good time, and then go to your friend's wedding. (And hope he/she never stumbles across this thread!)