Misspendragon
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I had a talk with both studio managers and Pro regarding comps, moving from silver to gold, and my goals. The meeting was their initiative and except for needing to sacrifice some of my lesson time, I didn't mind it at all.
I told them I would like to get to open gold without delay, but to get there by earning it; and explained that by earning it I meant that I perform better with each comp (I'm improving), and that I place relatively well. I asked for dancing at the Gateway Dancesport Championship and/or the New York Dance Festival first in gold, because after Empire, USDC, and Paragon I will have several months to prepare with the new routine. I would like to do both comps for different reasons and asked for both well in advance, hopefully they will happen and in closed gold.
They want me to place 1st in four comps with a final only and/or in the top 3 with a semifinal before I move up to closed gold and offered that we sit down again after Paragon and talk. I agreed to that.
In practical terms this means that I need two more comps with a final in which I place 1st OR two more comps with a semifinal in which I place top 3. Now, USDC I consider out of my reach as far as that goal (which is NOT to say I won't do my absolute best to win it, of course) which leaves Empire and Paragon. Since it's doubtful I could win either, I'm now praying for a semifinal in each.
I consider all this relatively fair, even if 'improvement' cannot be measured simply in winning, therefore I wish the requirement was more like 'show marked improvement from one comp to the next in technique, commitment, performance, and self-confidence' and maybe 'place top 2 in a comp with a final only and place in top 4 with a semifinal,' which allows for some wiggle room at least, but I can live with the rules. I hope they will show some flexibility and will still be happy if I place let's say 4th at USDC, if that happens (if I even make the final), that's all.
On the positive side, at the end I honestly told all three of them that I felt rather hurt by the "if you don't like it you can leave" comment that was made last time, and the studio manager apologized and reassured me that it won't happen again. I appreciated how quickly and sincerely she acknowledged that the comment was "unprofessional" (her word), it really helped me to trust her and our dancing process more.
The only real downer this week is the fact that I've just gotten my first-time-ever irregular period, which given my age (and the fact that it was preceded by me sweating through the sheets at night which just never happened to me before except when I had COVID), officially marks my entering perimenopause. I know the massive hormonal changes and fluctuations will impact my dancing in various ways (stamina, bone density, muscle mass loss, etc.) so I'm a bit bumped out by this, but I guess I will just have to train even harder, that's all.
I told them I would like to get to open gold without delay, but to get there by earning it; and explained that by earning it I meant that I perform better with each comp (I'm improving), and that I place relatively well. I asked for dancing at the Gateway Dancesport Championship and/or the New York Dance Festival first in gold, because after Empire, USDC, and Paragon I will have several months to prepare with the new routine. I would like to do both comps for different reasons and asked for both well in advance, hopefully they will happen and in closed gold.
They want me to place 1st in four comps with a final only and/or in the top 3 with a semifinal before I move up to closed gold and offered that we sit down again after Paragon and talk. I agreed to that.
In practical terms this means that I need two more comps with a final in which I place 1st OR two more comps with a semifinal in which I place top 3. Now, USDC I consider out of my reach as far as that goal (which is NOT to say I won't do my absolute best to win it, of course) which leaves Empire and Paragon. Since it's doubtful I could win either, I'm now praying for a semifinal in each.
I consider all this relatively fair, even if 'improvement' cannot be measured simply in winning, therefore I wish the requirement was more like 'show marked improvement from one comp to the next in technique, commitment, performance, and self-confidence' and maybe 'place top 2 in a comp with a final only and place in top 4 with a semifinal,' which allows for some wiggle room at least, but I can live with the rules. I hope they will show some flexibility and will still be happy if I place let's say 4th at USDC, if that happens (if I even make the final), that's all.
On the positive side, at the end I honestly told all three of them that I felt rather hurt by the "if you don't like it you can leave" comment that was made last time, and the studio manager apologized and reassured me that it won't happen again. I appreciated how quickly and sincerely she acknowledged that the comment was "unprofessional" (her word), it really helped me to trust her and our dancing process more.
The only real downer this week is the fact that I've just gotten my first-time-ever irregular period, which given my age (and the fact that it was preceded by me sweating through the sheets at night which just never happened to me before except when I had COVID), officially marks my entering perimenopause. I know the massive hormonal changes and fluctuations will impact my dancing in various ways (stamina, bone density, muscle mass loss, etc.) so I'm a bit bumped out by this, but I guess I will just have to train even harder, that's all.
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