Dwts - Week 5 - Spoilers

[mamboqueen]

Plus...she'd be getting torn to shreds for ditching her kids in favor of Hollywood during what must be a rather difficult for them all.

yeah...the fact that she's leaving is probably really a nuisance to a lot of people, but I agree, unless you've been walking her shoes....

 

[mamboqueen]

Oh I know lol. I just think that if a person is that overloaded with work etc. that you need to take a break from everything. I think that if the divorce is affecting her this badly, then how will she be able to handle the tour amongst everything else? She's going to have a breakdown eventually if she doesn't stop and take a break. Anyways, I still am not giving her a benefit of a doubt. But celebrities have gone through worse and much worse than what she's going through and they kept working without us realizing everything else was going on.

Everyone has choices in life to make, and you know what? You can't give a rat's patootie about what anyone else thinks or says about them. She's looking out for numbers 1-4 (herself, 3 kids). I think you don't have children...but you'd be surprised at how differently you look at things once you do. Your priorities shift tremendously. And if they don't, you probably shouldn't have had kids.

 

[SPratt74]

Exactly...

Again - until you have walked in her shoes -- or boots, in this case, no one can't say what she should or should not do...

It's just my opinion. Sara will do what Sara wants to do regardless of what anyone says here. But again, I've seen celebrity couples go through worse and they are still working etc. I give them so much credit for doing so as well. Heck my own family has gone through divorce but everyone still worked and went on with their lives. That's bringing a personal touch to this. So, I'm sorry, but Sara is not the only person that's ever gone through a divorce.

 

[mamboqueen]

It's just my opinion. Sara will do what Sara wants to do regardless of what anyone says here. But again, I've seen celebrity couples go through worse and they are still working etc. I give them so much credit for doing so as well. Heck my own family has gone through divorce but everyone still worked and went on with their lives. That's bringing a personal touch to this. So, I'm sorry, but Sara is not the only person that's ever gone through a divorce.

Yeah, I suppose you could look at someone like Tatum O'Neill as a good example of someone whose parents divorced and made Hollywood their priority....hmm...maybe Sara wants more for her kids.

 

[MindyK]

Everyone has choices in life to make, and you know what? You can't give a rat's patootie about what anyone else thinks or says about them. She's looking out for numbers 1-4 (herself, 3 kids). I think you don't have children...but you'd be surprised at how differently you look at things once you do. Your priorities shift tremendously. And if they don't, you probably shouldn't have had kids.

Exactly...

Also - last year, I think I read that Drew said that if his baby came during the competition, he'd step down - no question...

Sara makes her living by singing... she does not make a living by being on DWTS... it's extra stuff that can be dropped before singing could be...

 

[SPratt74]

Everyone has choices in life to make, and you know what? You can't give a rat's patootie about what anyone else thinks or says about them. She's looking out for numbers 1-4 (herself, 3 kids). I think you don't have children...but you'd be surprised at how differently you look at things once you do. Your priorities shift tremendously. And if they don't, you probably shouldn't have had kids.

That was kind of cruel. Like I said in my other post, my family has gone through a divorce (a couple of them in fact my sister and my mom) and everyone worked. You can't stop your life when something goes bad. That's how I was raised. Yes you can get mad and what have you, but you go on with life. If I were in Sara's shoes, then I would have continued with DWTS. That's just how I was taught. I'm sorry if you think that is wrong, but again that's my opinion.

 

[dancindude66]

Being an instructor and recently divorced with 2 children, I can say that she is unquestionably making the right choice. After all we are talking about the mental and emotional well being of her children and after all...it is just dancing and entertainment isn't it? I have had students slow down on lessons and even have to stop before because of divorce and the emotional turmoil it causes.
Also, I don't understand what she "did" to the other people on the show...other then get off before she would have had to otherwise.

 

[mamboqueen]

My parents were divorced, too. And thankfully my mother made a lot of decisions that were in her kids' best interests. I'm not saying *you* personally shouldn't have kids, and I did not mean to say anything that you would perceive as cruel, but I think that if you expect people to give you the benefit of the doubt, perhaps you should extend it to others.

 

[SPratt74]

Yeah, I suppose you could look at someone like Tatum O'Neill as a good example of someone whose parents divorced and made Hollywood their priority....hmm...maybe Sara wants more for her kids.

Actually, I was one of her biggest criticizers.

Sara if she wants to help her kids needs to stop everything and just concentrate on them. If she doesn't then that to me says she just wanted out of DWTS. I'm sorry, but you don't just stop one thing if you are that upset.

 

[MindyK]

That was kind of cruel. Like I said in my other post, my family has gone through a divorce (a couple of them in fact my sister and my mom) and everyone worked. You can't stop your life when something goes bad. That's how I was raised. Yes you can get mad and what have you, but you go on with life. If I were in Sara's shoes, then I would have continued with DWTS. That's just how I was taught. I'm sorry if you think that is wrong, but again that's my opinion.

But again - DWTS is not Sara's job...

What is supposed to happen to her kids? If she kicked him out, the seven year old is in school - she has to be home, doesn't she?

 

[SPratt74]

Sara makes her living by singing... she does not make a living by being on DWTS... it's extra stuff that can be dropped before singing could be...

But Sara is on the road more with her singing. How is that going to be more helpful to her kids?

 

[dancesportgirl21]

You can't stop your life when something goes bad. quote]

The thing is that dancing isn't her life and IMO she didn't seem to enjoy it as much as the other celebrities. And just because a divorce is a divorce doesn't mean it's the same for everyone. Things happen, we'll all live from not seeing her dance, I hope she makes it through whatever she's going through.

 

[SPratt74]

My parents were divorced, too. And thankfully my mother made a lot of decisions that were in her kids' best interests. I'm not saying *you* personally shouldn't have kids, and I did not mean to say anything that you would perceive as cruel, but I think that if you expect people to give you the benefit of the doubt, perhaps you should extend it to others.

I do give people a benefit of a doubt more so than what I should probably. I gave Sara a benefit of a doubt when the pregnant rumors started to fly. I thought well that's great if she is and I even put in a congrats to her. But to me whether or not you are going through something at home, if you promise to be somewhere then you should fulfill your promise. Sara signed a contract. ABC will probably change it next season in case something else like this comes up. I know though if I had things that came up at home (and I had) then I still would have to work. But I don't make the kind of money that Sara makes to be able to not work. And that's great that Sara does, but I still don't think it's right to drop one thing and nothing else. I'm sure that ABC will change that around for next season though.

 

[mamboqueen]

I do give people a benefit of a doubt more so than what I should probably. I gave Sara a benefit of a doubt when the pregnant rumors started to fly. I thought well that's great if she is and I even put in a congrats to her. But to me whether or not you are going through something at home, if you promise to be somewhere then you should fulfill your promise. Sara signed a contract. ABC will probably change it next season in case something else like this comes up. I know though if I had things that came up at home (and I had) then I still would have to work. But I don't make the kind of money that Sara makes to be able to not work. And that's great that Sara does, but I still don't think it's right to drop one thing and nothing else. I'm sure that ABC will change that around for next season though.

So, just one question. The gig on DWTS is more important than her childrens' well being and her own mental state?

 

[SPratt74]

But again - DWTS is not Sara's job...

What is supposed to happen to her kids? If she kicked him out, the seven year old is in school - she has to be home, doesn't she?

Yes, but Sara should be at home too then. She shouldn't be out singing while leaving them home with a nanny or someone else to take care of them until they can make arraignments about the kids.