Emotional Attached

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SwingWaltz

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Do you find yourself emotional attached to your dance partner? It's not nessarily love, but it's not as simple as friendship either, it's hard to explain. I'm feeling a mix of wonderful emotions, I would think of the partner but I can't really explain what it is that I am thinking about. Confused? Me too!
 
SwingWaltz said:
Do you find yourself emotional attached to your dance partner? It's not nessarily love, but it's not as simple as friendship either, it's hard to explain. I'm feeling a mix of wonderful emotions, I would think of the partner but I can't really explain what it is that I am thinking about. Confused? Me too!
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I know what you're talking about. My partner and I get it. We're very good friends, and we understand each other completely. We very very rarely fight.
 
Two of my dance partners are good friends, and the third my boyfriend. So yeah, I guess I'm emotionally attached to them. One in particular. ;)

But then, we're not all that serious as far as dancing goes (only collegiate competition) so there's not as much emotional drama to guard against.
 
SwingWaltz said:
Do you find yourself emotional attached to your dance partner? It's not nessarily love, but it's not as simple as friendship either,
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It's rather simple, actually. Dance is a different kind of art. Painters paint canvasses; potters sculpt pots; quilters quilt, etc. A dancer is the art...the dancer is the dance. So, when we dance, we are not dealing with an externality, be it; passion (how it touches us emotionally), reaction (how it makes us feel), desire (the will to want more), endorphines (how it affects us physically).

These are all very intimate stimuli. Dance, esp. BR, is very intimate...very sensual...often, very sexy. All of these feel goods...these warm fuzzies are always to/by/with our partners, and can often become confused with the appropriate emotion. Are students really in love w/ their pros, or ams w/ their partners, or are we all just infatuated with the feelings that we receive from dancing?

Dare I say, you are definitely not alone in this one.
 
Nicely written AH - a very complex set of feelings. Perhaps every woman falls a bit 'in love' (for want of a better term) with thier dance pro, if they work long enough together. and I suppose sometimes there is a bit in the reverse direction too (though I doubt its that frequent). I think the thing is not to deny it but to compartmentalize it as a part of your dance partnership and not get deluded that its anything more than the dance itself. If you can pull that off the dancing becomes just that bit more genuine.
 
elisedance said:
Nicely written AH - a very complex set of feelings.
I think the thing is not to deny it but to compartmentalize it as a part of your dance partnership and not get deluded that its anything more than the dance itself.
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Merci, but, though "compartmentalize" is a good word, one should not be so recessed to delusion either. many successul romances have been borned of succssful partnerships.
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yes - but I hazzard to guess that many more have been delusional on one side or tother :) I think safest to assume that the 'relationship' is solely a dance one until there is proof of anything further - and then I would still be a bit sceptical.
 
My thoughts on it...

There is genuine interplay between male & female energies in good partnership dancing. It is primal and feels good on a deep level. No avoiding it if there is connection & harmony. But it only has the *meaning* that the individual or couple give it. And if we're feeling romantically, sensually, or sexually needy, it's easy to project meaning onto it that isn't backed up by compatibility and shared purpose. Same thing if our concept of "relationship" is limited and we think that those feelings must ipso-facto "mean" something more than just being a positive experience, however wonderful and open-hearted in the moment.

But us humans generally being confused about what we want, it's easy to get confused by these feelings...ergo the plethora of threads like this. :)
 
And lay off the married people!!! (My former husband was stolen, not to mention other attempted steals by students and partners!)
 
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