Ok, then in 2 parts:
The first one staying in the thread:
I would take my time to listen, until you feel sure where the one is,
@ticolora
Sometimes you don't hear it right away, but after a while you surely do. As I mentioned before, you sound like an experienced dancer, so you will feel it for sure.
I wouldn't really advice this:
What I wanted to express only is: do not mind, simply start dancing, @ticolora , even Cubans do not take it that strictly in an social dancing environment.
because of this:
But I find that musicality is crucial with salsa.
But then, in the end, it depends of how perfectionist you are. I don't like dancing on a beat that doesn't feel groovy for me, and dancing on the 3 for me feels like really heavy, but this is always depending on the tune.
On a Cumbia song dancing on the 3 feels great, for instance.
The second part - the Clave thing - comes as a PM,
@opendoor 