Guilty Fun Dancing with DP !

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dancingirldancing

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Me and comp DP likes going social dancing together ... the problem is we enjoy dancing with each other way to much to want to share each other with other people. We are just really happy dancing together.

We dance with other people maybe 1-2 times during the night and sometimes not even that.

I feel really guilty because the social scene around here is follow heavy.

However, we tried dancing with different people and we really don't enjoy it as much as dancing with each other.

Is this rude ?

We just don't want to come across as rude ...

A lady commented to DP that he should be changing partners ...

In that case we may as well stop going altogether as DP really don't want to change partners .... I on the other hand don't mind even though I have to admit that I would rather dance with DP than anyone else in the room !
 
How rude to tell anyone who they should be dancing with!

Maybe you should stop dancing with anyone else at all. At least at the socials I go to, there are a handful of couples who come together and dance only with each other. Everyone seems to accept that. But they've done that since the first day they showed up, so it might be hard to switch now.
 
You're in Australia, yes?

Where I am, it's the norm to dance only with your DP, if you have one. In fact, the only people who swap partners are the singles and close friends.
 
I'm not going to say "rude." I will, however, say, "stand-offish," "cold," "distant," "removed," "isolating," "arrogant," and, "impolite." None of which excuses the rudeness of the woman who rebuked your partner. Whether you're right or wrong, she was more so for trying to dictate how you should socialize.

Social dancing is both dancing and social. People do it because they love to dance but also as a social activity. Otherwise we would just have freestyle practice sessions in the studio. You're not obligated to dance with other people when you go out, but failing to do so not only misses the point but sends the message that you hold yourself apart from the community.

Because my girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship when we do go out dancing together we spend nearly the entire night dancing with each other but we'll still make sure to do a few songs with other people these are:

- Mixers/games/other dance "events"
- When one of us is taking a break
- Songs or dances we know the other person doesn't like
 
IMHO there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to dance with your DP exclusively. However; I suggest that you choose a venue in which this is the accepted practice. By excluding other partners at social dances, you may be giving the impression that you are anti-social.
I know of someone that loves to dance period; yet their DP pretty much refuses to dance with anyone else. This has caused friction amongst our circle of friends and quite frankly the uncooperative member of this partnership is now ostracized. Unfortunate; yet that is often what happens when one is perceived as being standoffish in a social setting.
 
You can make yourself happy. Or you can make others happy. If a situation comes where you can't do both at one time, then you'll have to choose. And live with the consequences of that choice.
 
Mind you, we are not anti social in that we chat and have a lot of friends in the social scene and they are okay with us dancing together exclusively.

However, it is the newer people who does not know us who sometimes think we are snobs.

We do make an effort to know everyone we just dont generally dance with anyone else.
 
dancingirldancing said:
However, it is the newer people who does not know us who sometimes think we are snobs.
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Though it may sound harsh, I reiterate: who cares? Carry yourself with honesty, respect others, and live a good life--what more can you do to please people? People are never satisfied, so I don't try to please everyone. I dance with everyone at social parties, but I do so because it is my job. If I paid money to go somewhere and dance, I really don't care what someone else thinks of who I dance with. Until they started paying me for my time and my entry ticket, I'd do whatever I pleased.
 
dgd, you are too funny!

Remember when you were worried about this DP and did NOT look forward to practicing with him? Now he is the lead you want to dance with the most! :p
 
Josh said:
<snip> If I paid money to go somewhere and dance, I really don't care what someone else thinks of who I dance with. <snip>
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Thank you!

I take it from the OP that we're talking about events in a public ballroom, nightclub or dance studio - all commercial venues. The owner may call it a "social" and call you a "guest" but that's just marketing jargon. If you pay, you are not a guest - you are a patron. You don't have to work the room.

You are required to behave politely, of course.
 
Do what you want. No one says that you have to rotate at a social dance. There are couples at the socials that I go to that dance exclusively.
 
I completely agree, it's your prerogative to dance with whomever you want. And I love dancing with DP--that's why she's DP.

But at studio socials we try to make at least one round to dance with everyone who accepts, so no one feels left out. And also to ease along new people and visitors to the studio. The studio attendance can be large, but not completely out of side for us to accomplish this.

If it's a really large formal affair with a massive amount of people, though, this is not practicable, in the time available. So we'll ask a few other people, especially if they came alone and don't have a partner...
 
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