Ok so I went to my second highschool dance (my first one was the freshman only dance so we all kinda stood around and talked) and all the upper-classman were grinding. I was a lil freaked out at first because everyone was dancing up on eachother with teachers just watching. Anyway since they were dancing the freshman had to grind too so everyone I knew was grinding and stuff. Well I kinda got in the mood and started dancing a lil too, most of it was with a few friends of mine with girls dancing around too but then we started grinding and it got really crowded and I got nervous and went and got something to drink. Ok so my main problem is how do I know when a girl wants to grind or not?
highschool dance wasn't what I expected it to be
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Hi GreatHype! Welcome to Dance-Forums!
Just keep in mind that there are other threads around here on this topic, and I would recommend searching and reading some of these.
Also, try taking some dance lessons in something like salsa or mambo or rumba, and then you can show up to a dance with something really cool to show the girls.
Just keep in mind that there are other threads around here on this topic, and I would recommend searching and reading some of these.
Also, try taking some dance lessons in something like salsa or mambo or rumba, and then you can show up to a dance with something really cool to show the girls.
i did look at some of the other threads but i didnt really get what it was about, i mean everyone was smooshed together and i didn't feel good about because i didn't know if any girls wanted to dance with me. And its not that i don't want to dance that way its just i don't want to look like a fool dancing with a girl that doesn't want to dance with me
Joe
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If she jams her tuches into your groin, it's a dead giveaway.
fascination
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you're on a tear this morning aren't ya?
Twilight_Elena
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fascination
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and the corruption of minors continues
I hope the girl has enough sense to tell you no if she doesn't want to dance. Otherwise the situation sounds like it would be uncomfortable for both of you.
Anyway, looking like a fool is in the eyes of the beholder. I wouldn't worry about it. Just dance, have fun, and again I suggest taking some lessons and learning how to really dance. You won't feel like a fool then, and you'll get plenty of attention from the girls, too.
that does seem like good advice, but no one did. I don't know I think I have created a bad image for myself, whenever a girl that I like comes to talk to me I always seem uninterested but I'm not I just don't want to look like a fruit-cake or something.
Also I would love to do the salsa at a dance, my mom watches that one show "so you think you can dance" or something and I always see these beautiful women doing the salsa or something on there and it looks like a lot of fun. Then again it still ties into the first part, I've already dug my hole and I don't know how to get out of it. I don't know how to talk to a girl.
dgcasey
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I hate to tell you this, and I'm sure there will be those that disagree with me here, but "grinding" ain't dancing. It may look like it on the surface, they may call it dancing, it may be accepted as dancing, but it most certainly is not dancing.
If you know ballroom or salsa or swing, then hit the floor and do those dances. About the second time you go spinning past, throwing in a couple of UATs and hammerlocks, all the other ladies will be looking at the two of you all starry-eyed and wishing they were dancing like that and wishing their boyfriends could dance like that. Of course, all the guys will be looking and thinking, "what a &#%@," and be wanting to take you out behind the gym and beat the crap outta you, but hey, that's the price you pay for real dancing.
PasoDancer
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OMG- I have kinfolk in distant lands!
dgcasey
New Member
Huh??
And therein lies the cure for your problem. The first thing you do, after you've learned a few steps, is to walk up to a young lady and (now pay close attention here, I know this is complicated) you say, "May I have this dance?" Yes, I know, it's five long words and studies have shown that getting them in the right order seems to be crucial. But, trust me on this, it is a start. Now, 99 times out of 100 the young lady will say something to you that will resemble the word "yes." When she does, don't act like a deer caught in the headlights. Hold out your hand, take hers and lead her to the dance floor. (Another quick note, just because she said "yes" to this question, does not mean she will say yes to other questions that your buddies say she will. Trust me on this.)
Now, after the dance is over and she says, "You dance so well," don't just look down at your feet, kicking at the floor and mumbling something about just getting started or how you're not that good. Look her right in the eye (not her chest) and tell her that you'd never be able to dance so well without a great partner.
After that dance she will probably introduce you to a couple of her friends, who will be looking at you with that expression that says, "Please ask me to dance." Then you just hold out your hand and say again, "May I have this dance?" Now this will be your second time through that phrase so it should be flowing a little easier by now. (Just a hint, you may want to practice that phrase in a mirror for an hour or two before going to the dance.)
By the time you have danced two or three dances, you may even be invited to sit down with them and, now comes the hard part, actually talk with them. Just a quick word of advice, don't start waxing poetic about the '68 Mustang with 351 Cobrajet engine or how what's-his-name played in the Colts game on Sunday. They won't care about those things. What they will care about is how long you've been dancing, where you take your lessons and what your favorite dances are. By then, hopefully, you'll be able to come up with a few things to say and won't be stumbling over your words. Like my daddy used to say, "My tongue covered up my eye teeth and I couldn't see what I was saying."
The cure for being unable to talk to the ladies is to just get out there among them and interact with them. Yes, they are scary creatures and there are times they can make you want to go over to the nearest wall and bang your head against it a few times. But, the ladies love to dance and they love a man that knows how to dance. Then, as Hitch would say, "your only job is not to say something stupid."
Joe
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Muhahahaha! My work here is done.