How to flirt, and why.

pygmalion said:
Yes, you can. I do it all the time. :-)
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See I flirt all the time too, with men I do want, and usually get a result. Not always, usually. But then I am single. Flirtation can lead to more of the superficial stuff, but may never lead to romance.
 
wonderwoman said:
See I flirt all the time too, with men I do want, and usually get a result. Not always, usually. But then I am single. Flirtation can lead to more of the superficial stuff, but may never lead to romance.
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I am single and I think that there's a difference between flirting and goal-oriented mating behaviors. Of course, I'm old, so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. *shrug*
 
I can't think of anything I'd say for the sake of harmless flirting, that wouldn't be used to indicate genuine interest, short of an open verbal invitation lol
 
wonderwoman said:
I can't think of anything I'd say for the sake of harmless flirting, that wouldn't be used to indicate genuine interest, short of an open verbal invitation lol
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Subtlety is what flirting is all about, ww. Your experience, IMHO, is not with flirtation. It's with pairing off, which is certainly valuable in its own right. But flirtation is different. It doesn't have a goal, even though it may achieve an end while you're not looking.
 
Ok.. hehe, I seem to be batting 1000 today. This doesn't bode well for my plans to both dance and cook tonight as well. lol
 
I suppose it all depends on how you define flirtation. All the time, I am paying attention to the reactions to what I say and do. If it is flirtation as sport, I have to be sure it is not taken seriously. If it is flirtation with a view to pairing off, I'm paying attention to see if it is being taken seriously.
 
toothlesstiger said:
I suppose it all depends on how you define flirtation. All the time, I am paying attention to the reactions to what I say and do. If it is flirtation as sport, I have to be sure it is not taken seriously. If it is flirtation with a view to pairing off, I'm paying attention to see if it is being taken seriously.
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Yup.

ETA. I guess I should clarify. I think that flirting is a standalone activity that can be used as part of a goal-oriented mating ritual. Flirting is not mating, in and of itself. Flirting is a tool in the mating tool box. It's also a tool in the personal interaction tool box, IME, regardless of attraction, sexual orientation or gender. The mating-related flirting I used to do (I'm on a dating hiatus) had a little je ne sais quoi that my personal interaction flirting never will. I also think that propositioning potential short term flings is not flirting. It's something else.
 
Flirting doesn't have to be with what you say, either.

Can be through eye contact, smiling, body language, etc.
I flirt with customers at work...pretty much out of instinct. (Not all of them of course...just the cute ones XD ). They feel slightly happier about their shopping experience.

I got flirted with today :D. A sales girl in my favourite clothes shop. She was very lovely.
 
toothlesstiger said:
For the benefit of those dancers who ain't getting no action (dancing action, I mean, get your mind out of the gutter), I'm starting this topic on flirting, how and why.

To get the ball rolling, flirting is that set of behaviors by which we signal to someone that we are interested in them, ah, romantically.
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What if we're not interested in them romantically and just want to dance with them?
 
I get the feeling WW isn't quite as coordinated--or have the same amount of experience--at it as you.
 
Not to mention if you're having a bad day already, why tempt fate? THAT will be the day the cat's underfoot and the phone's ringing while the pot's boiling over and you forget the handle's not insulated....
 
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