I almost give up dancing because of politics !

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dancingirldancing

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I am in the situation where I am caught in the war between coaches and the war between one of our coach and my partner and everyone else in between. All the ugly politics and over inflated male egos.

Let's just say things got really really ugly !

This has caused extreme stress for me and to be honest I feel like giving up dancing altogether or at least giving up competing.

My words have been twisted and used against me, against my partner, and against my coach.

It really is a very bad time in my life.

I feel like making a clean start and let this ugliness subsides.

Sorry to rant but DFers feel a lot more like a friend at the moment compared to everyone else in my life.
 
Take a long break from the intensity of the situation you find yourself in competition or not, call it,,,,,a sabbatical per se. Go social dancing, visit a different studio on a mini vacation - ******* and renew your mind and spirit. Assess if it's worth it - to you - especially if the situation does not change. You may find yourself on a totally different track when you remove yourself from the "stuff". Wishing you a healthy stress free - environment.
 
Listen to the coach you trust the most. To heck with everyone else. They'll hate you for the time being, but just ignore them and their whispers.
 
I think you'll find a lot of people on the forum have been through that. No need to apologize for your (cryptic) rant. Good luck!
 
I dont care if people talk about me. This is more about my latin coach and standard coach fighting about who should get priority over us. I would say something positive about one coach and the other coach would turn it around and use it against the other coach. I would say something to pacify the situation then it get used against me like I am saying something bad about one coach or another.

They kept on fighting over who should be teaching us at what time (mostly they want to teach us at the same certain hours) and it became a bit about who do we give priority over ! They also bag each other a lot behind each other's back. It really is sickening !

They also want us to to concentrate on latin/standard to the dismay of the other teacher.

To make matter worse, my partner just refused to take charge at all and play dumb hence shifting the responsibility to sort out all issues to me.

Our results have gone down the drain no matter how much practice we put in.

We have started fighting rather violently (we were very calm people before this and get along well).

I dont want to talk to my partner because I feel he is full of s.... He was agro because he thought I pushed him too hard. We spoke of breaking up so many times it is not funny. We even physically hurt each other during practice ! Feels like we should just ....

Then there is this girl who eyed my partner for herself, and this guy who eyed me for himself....

Everyone at the studio is either with him or with me ... a bit r u with me or against me ... they all have opinions about where we should be.....
 
this definately sounds like it needs new management to get it back on the right track...or that it needs to end...just my opinion
 
Hmm, sounds like 3 different issues here. Which dance style would you rather work on given your time availability with your coaches? If you want to do both, you can alternate each week between the two styles. Neither coach will be happy with the frequency, but it will make life less hectic for you.

The partner relationship can be worked out through anger management. It's also natural for other people to inquire into your dancing status. Just gotta take it all in stride. You said that you don't care about what other people say and that's good. In the end, all that matters is you.
 
I guess I'd ask who's paying these coaches? You are the customer and they're there to help *you*. I know learning dance is about relationships but it doesn't sound like your coaches are being professional. If I had one style coach ragging over the time I spent on another style, I'd be gone from there.
 
dancingirldancing said:
This is more about my latin coach and standard coach fighting about who should get priority over us. I would say something positive about one coach and the other coach would turn it around and use it against the other coach. I would say something to pacify the situation then it get used against me like I am saying something bad about one coach or another.
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I would not mention anything about one coach to the other one even if it is a positive thing. It sounds that some tension is going on between two and I don't think your mentioning about one to other would do any good. It would backfire you.
 
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