Jealousy and permission to dance

[dancin_feet]

Not being in a relationship myself, I really don't know. From the other side of the coin, if I know the couple, then I don't bother asking the woman if I can dance with her partner. It's just expected that they'll dance with other people. If I don't know the couple, and she is not dancing, I'll ask, just so you don't put the woman offside.

Just recently at a party, a husband / wife couple that I also do groups with came off the floor, and she was limping slightly. She said that she had a twinge in her ankle and need to sit for a couple of songs. A samba came up next and I immediately turned to her husband (being about the only non beginner male there that could samba) and said to him "samba me"! He looked as his wife sitting there with a sore ankle and she just said, "oh just take him, he's worn me out, maybe you can wear him down a bit before I get him again!". :lol:

We had a good old laugh about him being passed around for the rest of the night!

 

[Pacion]

I always ask doesn't matter if they are my best friends. I don't do jealousy very well, even if it is from "best friends". So, I ask

 

[salsachinita]

:idea: This inspires me to start a new thread......

 

[DancePoet]

Agree with GR!

My SO has never put me in a position where dance has threathened our relationship. The SO doesn't dance, there is no asking, nor checking, and I regularly go social dancing without the SO in attendance. We trust, respect, understand, and stay loyal.

 

[Sagitta]

Agree with GR!

My SO has never put me in a position where dance has threathened our relationship. The SO doesn't dance, there is no asking, nor checking, and I regularly go social dancing without the SO in attendance. We trust, respect, understand, and stay loyal.

That's the way it should be. Even if the SO is a dancer.

 

[Vin]

I don't need permission and I don't require it of my gf. In fact often times I have gone to the restroom and when I come back that great song is playing and unfortunately she has been taken to the floor by someone else. On rare occasion I have had women ask me to dance while I was with my gf and once a girls bf asked me to dance with his gf.
I rarely dance with a girl that is there with a bf unless I know him or her. If I know her well but don't really know him I will sort of ask if he minds, I think this is even more important if he is not a dancer himself.

 

[youngsta]

I'm not in a relationship right now, but there is NO way I could be with a woman that wanted me to do that.

 

[dancingdragon]

I think dancing with a variety of people helps to improve your dancing, so there's no way I'd stick with someone who wouldn't let me do that. It makes me sad when people won't ask me to dance because I'm with my bf. Dancing is a social activity, it just goes without saying that we will dance with other people from time to time. As long as we save the last waltz for each other!

 

[SDsalsaguy]

As long as we save the last waltz for each other!

What if you're at a salsa club? :tongue:

 

[Sarah]

As long as we save the last waltz for each other!

What if you're at a salsa club? :tongue:

You'll be waiting a long time for the last waltz. Either that or you'll have to get really creative with the timing.

Cheers
Sarah

 

[dancingdragon]

As long as we save the last waltz for each other!

What if you're at a salsa club? :tongue:

Unfortunately we don't have any salsa clubs in my neck of the woods. We have to go out of town for salsa so we don't do it too often. But I guess the principle would remain the same, he could dance with other people but I'd like him to save the last salsa for me!

 

[johnnywalker]

My wife insists I dance with other people. It's a good way to learn to lead (not that i've mastered that yet); especially when the people you dance with are of varying abilities, sizes and shapes.
My wife actually brought this up in her wedding speech. She had said that one of the things she was attracted to was my indiscriminate behaviour toward new dancers. Where others in the class would avoid dancing with the newbies or those who were obviously 'problem' dancers I didn't seem to care. It's not as altruistic as it sounds though; I just love to have a chat and anyone new is fair game for my rambling
Neither of us ask permission; we're comfortable in our relationship, independant yet very close.

 

[etchuck]

I think that the old rules of social etiquette required that men get permission from husbands in asking their wives to dance with them. I am not sure whether that extended to people dating (although I'm sure that it did apply to engaged couples). With our more libertine society, that permission is considered rather archaic, but sometimes it might be nice to ask to clear the air of any other intentions.

Of course, I doubt it would ever happen... especially if the significant other were not at the dance hall.

I say this after having gone dancing lindy with this one woman. She's married but in the area without her husband for a fellowship. I wound up dancing with her a lot and had a lot of fun. I didn't need permission from her husband to dance with her (or so I hope), but she did remark how many other men paid no attention to key flag words like "husband" and "married." She didn't dance with them so much or obviously with as much flair as she did with me... mostly because she knew I was safe and can be relied upon as a good friend who at least respects the fact she has a husband. It's a shame that some dancers out there probably SHOULD get permission to dance with someone so that they can get the ulterior hormonally-driven goals out of their minds.

 

[cocodrilo]

I thoroughly agree with you, Genesius!!!!

 

[D-spot]

Hhmm, jealousy and dancing. Well, I dancehost (ladies pay me for dancing with them) occassionally. None of them have dancing partners and most are considerably older than I am. I don't make much money and need the income from this job. However, the GF refers to me as a gigolo. Joke she says, repeatedly, after using the same 'joke' time after time.
I even had to give up an offer of a free holiday in Florida over winter (a Canadian winter, mmm Florida). One lady has trouble finding IS dance partners and was willing to pay for my flight and accommodation if I would dance with her a couple of times a week. She also indicated that I could probably make more money by dancing other nights with ladies in the area. Sounded good to me. She is trustworthy a lovely lady (aroun my mothers age) and there is no other relationship between us.
Still having problems understanding this jealousy thing.
D-spot
typical man.