Ladies: What do you think of guys who start dancing for better dating prospects?

Loki said:
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When will people learn?

Be yourself and go do the things you like to do with NO expectations of meeting / mating / whatever.

IF you meet somebody, it will be based on common interests and compatible personalities, which will go a fungible lot farther than begging like a puppy or playing a role so the pretty or rich or socialites notice you. A** clowns get no respect.

If you crap out, at least you've spent time and money on something enjoyable and hopefully enriching to you.

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Eh, I agree to an extent, but it still makes sense to make a point of finding at least some activities that involve other people. Before I found dance, it was far too common for me to stare at a computer at work, stare at a computer at home (or sometimes curl up with a book), sleep, repeat. It doesn't matter how much I might have enjoyed my home time or how enriching I found it, I was never going to meet someone on that path. Please don't misunderstand me - I'm certainly not suggesting one should spend one's time in leisure activities one has no interest in. But putting oneself in a situation where one *can* succeed on one's goals, whatever they might be, is still important. In this case, it's probably healthier anyways. Even severely introverted people like me are still monkey people who benefit from spending time with other people.

Of course, this may be so glaringly obvious to everyone else that it didn't bear saying. I just know it's far too easy for me to lapse into full hermit mode.
 
I did start going to swing dancing because I wanted to meet women. And. . . I did. In a strict sense. Actually I ended up sticking with it because I certainly found it less lonely of a place than trying to go to a rave or club where I might dance similarly (exertion-wise) but I would end up feeling rather lonely because the question of having friends there was never guaranteed. As someone who is autistic, making friends is difficult and in raves and such very difficult. And as for meeting women for romantic purposes, I've given up. I admit it, I'm a horse. So. . . uh, let's dance.
 
Clarification: there's nothing wrong with finding an activity that has a social component, even socializing with the opposite sex. But I think you're setting yourself up for failure if you go in with the expectation that dancing will make you Joe Stud and / or you'll meet the perfect person. Be yourself, enjoy the activity and let happen whatever happens.

But that horse has been beaten numerous times here.

TIAIHTS.
 
^ Since you have met them, they are not generic women (all of whom are the same) but a specific woman.

I don't necessarily agree with this, but I think that is what Joe is saying.
 
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