Law of Attraction

[Pacion]

Sometimes, when there are peeps in our life that make us nuts, it is because there is something about them, that is reminding us, on some level, about something about ourselves that we dislike. This can be so very disturbing at times, especially when I have had peeps in my life that make me crazy. I'm thinkin' in no way do have one thing in common with them. But if you try and step back and look at the sitch from an objective point of view, without emotion, (I've heard this referred to as witnessing) sometimes you see what it is you need to see. And then again, sometimes it's just painful!:headwall:

I hear you. I am also familiar with the saying/belief that often when there is something we dislike about a person, it is a characteristic of ourselves that we are in fact disliking. But that is not the case in this instance. :?

 

[saludas]

Yeah, I guess all those starving children in Africa are just simply not 'wanting' that food enough to get it.

 

[Pacion]

Yeah, I guess all those starving children in Africa are just simply not 'wanting' that food enough to get it.

Ah, but Saludas, without getting flippant about it, starving children in Africa is an extreme case. I have often heard/read that Africa is a natural disaster (drought) compounded by man*kind* (wars).

In my opinion, this is a bit different.

 

[mamboqueen]

I hear you. I am also familiar with the saying/belief that often when there is something we dislike about a person, it is a characteristic of ourselves that we are in fact disliking. But that is not the case in this instance. :?

Interesting observation and I totally agree!

 

[DancinAnne]

I hear you. I am also familiar with the saying/belief that often when there is something we dislike about a person, it is a characteristic of ourselves that we are in fact disliking. But that is not the case in this instance. :?

Just playing devil's advocate.... are you sure about that?

 

[DancinAnne]

Yeah, I guess all those starving children in Africa are just simply not 'wanting' that food enough to get it.

There are a million tragedies in life.... many in our own back yard... that I can't fathom or explain.

But that is not exactly where we're goin' here...

 

[Pacion]

Just playing devil's advocate.... are you sure about that?

Yes :roll:






No




Maybe :mrgreen:

 

[samina]

There are a million tragedies in life.... many in our own back yard... that I can't fathom or explain.

But that is not exactly where we're goin' here...

yes. and who is to say what personal miracles & healings occur for anyone going through any apparent tragedy... to see the externals and judge it all as "bad" involves a lot of assumptions and conclusions drawn while being completely removed from the situation.

i've experienced more than one person's share of travesties... at least, that's what they appeared like on the surface. i came to regard them differently...

 

[DancinAnne]

Yes :roll:






No




Maybe :mrgreen:

:uplaugh:

 

[Shooshoo]

:kissme: don't feel bad Pacion.

The Law of Attraction has also always puzzled me as well. But I guess when there's attraction in the beginning, it's usually physical. One is then blinded not able to see clearly. And after some time and/or certain incidents one becomes more rational seeing more clearly.

You shouldn't worry that something's wrong with your judgement, unless you've been attracted to the same type of person many times :eyebrow: .

I remember getting this message once saying that things happens in your life for a reason, sometimes for a season and some for a life-time. So to make it easier for myself, I look for a reason or accept it's a season and try to enjoy all other life-time people in my world.

Of course I question myself if I'm stuck in a pattern, that's normal. I also question if I should do something differently. It's not bad. I guess this will always be happening with different people, but of course the degree of intensity of emotions would differ according to the type of relationship, but what can one do. It's life .

Now I wanna see your dancing bananas.

 

[DancinAnne]

yes. and who is to say what personal miracles & healings occur for anyone going through any apparent tragedy... to see the externals and judge it all as "bad" involves a lot of assumptions and conclusions drawn while being completely removed from the situation.

i've experienced more than one person's share of travesties... at least, that's what they appeared like on the surface. i came to regard them differently...

Well said and insightful.

 

[mamboqueen]

I remember getting this message once saying that things happens in your life for a reason, sometimes for a season and some for a life-time. So to make it easier for myself, I look for a reason or accept it's a season and try to enjoy all other life-time people in my world.

I subscribe to this theory entirely, but it may be because it is more appeasing to the mind. I won't even seek out a reason...I just figure it will dawn on me sooner or later. Even a bad experience has some educational value, imo (although the educational value of losing someone you love escapes me). Might be hard to accept at the time, but you live and learn, right?

 

[Shooshoo]

(although the educational value of losing someone you love escapes me). Might be hard to accept at the time, but you live and learn, right?

That I'm sure is difficult, loosing someone you love who loves you, and you both have shared something.
But if you're attracted to someones/love someone and they did not turn out what you thought they were, or they did not give you anything in return, then that's not love. Disappointing.

 

[Shooshoo]

I subscribe to this theory entirely, but it may be because it is more appeasing to the mind.

I know if I didn't think about it like this, I would have become bitter. So in the end it makes me feel better.

 

[SPratt74]

The Law of Attraction has also always puzzled me as well. But I guess when there's attraction in the beginning, it's usually physical. One is then blinded not able to see clearly. And after some time and/or certain incidents one becomes more rational seeing more clearly.

Ok. This is a very good point. Usually... the one feature that we come liking to in another person is there physical appearance whether some of us admit it or not. Case in point. I'm going through this transaction now with an x boyfriend that I've known for over ten years. He wants to come down and see me. And I got to thinking that it was all about the physical attraction when we were in college. Now though, it's all about the emotional attraction. We haven't seen each other in over ten years (not even through pictures as he doesn't care for the Internet etc.), but we are so excited to see one another what I can see is based on emotional feelings through means of great communication.

But to me, communication is the key to anything in life. We have great communication! My mom thinks we are going to get married despite us dating different people over the years. I don't know about that, but she does make a good point. Why would you want to marry on just looks alone? You wouldn't be able to live very long with that person if that were the case even if married.

But I think that it all boils down to maturity too though. So, while one might call it law of attraction, I think it's more like if you are mature enough to finally be able to see what people are really like (and I don't mean age wise maturity, I mean relationship wise maturity).