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I do favor, much more, the notion of connection over lead and follow...as well as the concept of "suggestion" over insistance, particularly now that I am beginning open smooth...
West Coast Swing embraces the concept of "suggestion" more than any other partner dance. WCS can actually go completely the opposite direction when the follow hijackd. Perhaps that changes at higher levels than I dance but is seems to me that most other partner dances, especially ballroom styles, are more rigidly "lead-follow".