DM, so sorry to hear this. Sending sympathy.
Life is Hard Thread
- Thread starter TinyDancer109
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Very sorry you are going through this. Follow your heart and do what will help you and your mom. Sometimes just being in the room is all someone needs
Reach
Well-Known Member
Hoping you have more information now. And that your mother is doing better.
DanceMentor
Administrator
Well, I was able to have a clear conversation with my mom today. She is going to need a lot of time to recover. She needs speech therapy and physical therapy. I want to go see her, but my stepfather told me that he has enough to deal with right now and if I’m there, it will make you uncomfortable. I don’t like this, but I’m going to comply for now and hopefully talk to my mom wearing more and him more and more. And hopefully I can go see her soon.
Wow. I'm so sorry. That seems very controlling to me. Do you all have good relationships?
Just to think about this a bit more -- the fact that he didn't even tell you for a week makes me think that he is not making reasonable decisions.
raindance
Forum Master
Tough situation, DanceMentor.
Keep doing what you can to support your mom and take care of yourself in whatever ways you can. I'm not sure what to say about your stepfather, other than from what you've posted he is making things difficult for you and perhaps for your mom as well. On the other hand, presumably he is there supporting her through this.
None of us have all the details to really know what's going on, but just know I'm sending your and your mom good wishes through this. Wishing her strength and energy for her therapy. I hope she makes good progress.
Keep doing what you can to support your mom and take care of yourself in whatever ways you can. I'm not sure what to say about your stepfather, other than from what you've posted he is making things difficult for you and perhaps for your mom as well. On the other hand, presumably he is there supporting her through this.
None of us have all the details to really know what's going on, but just know I'm sending your and your mom good wishes through this. Wishing her strength and energy for her therapy. I hope she makes good progress.
DanceMentor
Administrator
Thanks everyone. Yes I do believe he is unreasonable, but I’m trying to work within what I have for now. Perhaps I could say that he’s sort of in his own bubble and I can’t really talk him out of that right now. But he’s at least being reasonably friendly with me. And I’m able to talk with my mom a little bit now as well as her nurses so it’s OK. I’ll hopefully go visit a little later.
DanceMentor
Administrator
Sorry to be the life is hard thread captain, but my mom collapsed today during physical therapy and was transported to a hospital and she has sepsis from a UTI infection. It seems very plausible that she had the UTI infection for a while and the hospital didn’t even notice it. She almost died from sepsis from a UTI infection in 2021. This time is not looking like she’s not going to be able to be taken off of life-support, but there is still some possibility. Did a lot of crying today and talked to my stepfather. This time he agreed for me to come to Atlanta so I’ll be on a plane tomorrow to go see him and my mother. Hopefully she’ll still be around.
I'm really sorry about your mom, and everything you are going through, DM. Keeping you and your mom in my thoughts.
DanceMentor
Administrator
Well, they excavated her today and she was able to say her name though very weak. So it looks like I’ll be able to see her tomorrow and that’s good. I’ll take a little bit of good news. My mother had been taking care of my stepfather and now he’s alone in the house so I have to assess the situation with him too. I think he may be a little resistant to anything challenging his independence so hopefully I can work together with him to find a good solution for both him and my mother.
fascination
Site Moderator
DM...I am sorry...I am glad you are going to be able to see her...and I am sure that you are right that some of his control is about fear... bless you for showing grace
I'm so sorry your mom's situation is unfolding like this. Like fascination, I'm also happy that you'll be able to see her again. These moments matter.
Your grace and concern for not just your mom but also your stepfather is also commendable.
You and your family will be in my thoughts. As you lean on each other to cope with all that's happening.
Your grace and concern for not just your mom but also your stepfather is also commendable.
You and your family will be in my thoughts. As you lean on each other to cope with all that's happening.