Match-ups, Fix-ups, and Blind Dates

[fascination]

That depends. There're a whole lot of not-obvious gay people in the world. You never who might start calling.

yea but at least her mom would back off

 

[pygmalion]

:lol: True.

 

[fascination]

i mean I just can't envision" hello darling, I've found the perfect woman for you"

 

[pygmalion]

No. Somehow I can't see that happening, either.

 

[alemana]

i wouldn't call the 'gay thing' 'brilliant' by any stretch. more like 'tired.'

 

[Twilight_Elena]

Most of the time the solutions we find to parental problems are tired. And overdone.

Twilight Elena

 

[lynn]

b/c it's an age old problem - so we've got age old solutions...

 

[pygmalion]

Most of the time the solutions we find to parental problems are tired. And overdone.

Twilight Elena

Yup. Took me til I turned thirty to realize that I should just tell it to 'em straight, parents or not. They were startled at first, but now they're used to my being a pain in the butt. I'm sure that, when I'm done "correcting" them on whatever the rant of the day, they just shake their heads and say to each other, "She'll learn." :lol: Hey. They're still my parents. At least they're not saying it to my face anymore.

 

[lynn]

What can i say? I'm still on the road to independence :lol:!

 

[fascination]

i wouldn't call the 'gay thing' 'brilliant' by any stretch. more like 'tired.'

yeah I dont think its brilliant either...but, aside from lynn personally, its not tired if its true

 

[pygmalion]

Yeah. If it's true, that's one thing. Have at it. But, if it's not true, you're just changing one set of problems (what to do with a blind date) for another (how to deal with coming out when you're not even in. :?)


Personally, I prefer the direct approach. Just say no to bad dates. :lol:

 

[lynn]

Personally, I prefer the direct approach. Just say no to bad dates. :lol:

Then you risk shattering the guy's very fragile self-esteem. That's the hardest part, some guys prefer the direct approach so they can move on while others prefer the subtle approach - the "don't tell me, just don't return my calls and I'll get it".... it's difficult figuring out who belongs to which group.

Well, a little story from last night's party - i was treating everyone with equally attention and was accused of being not passionate enough to my blind date! Apparently, I was expected to throw myself at him and pretty much jump in his lap ! *end rant*

 

[Joe]

Believe me, if you're not interested, just give it to 'em straight. It's better for both of you.

 

[fascination]

yep....with the guy...the direct approach is best...dont we all want to be levelled with...I only advocate messing with maniplative parents when one is an adult as a sanity preservation device...the guy tho deserves a fir chance and and honest response

 

[Shooshoo]

I think the direct approach is best, then there won't be any misunderstandings. Honesty is the best when is comes to relationships.
It's better than him not understanding where he stands. I'm sure it's easier for him to move on.

risk shattering the guy's very fragile self-esteem.

huh ?, did any of the guys who stopped wanting to see you ever think/consider YOUR self-esteem?