clean, sanitised, elevated
To me, all of the above sounds like Tango Hell!
Let me be clear: I shave, shower, tie up my (hair-metal length) hair, use mouthwash and deodorant, wear clean clothing, show up with extra shirts to change into when sweaty, wipe my face and wash my hands if sticky, etc. I avoid all strong-smelling foods on dance days. You could say that
my person is clean – maybe even sanitized.
But every man in a jacket and tie? Every woman in a gown? Formal handshakes? A safe distance between partners? The whole thing an illusion of an old-timey ball? Except at an
actual ball, that would drive me nuts!
I'd say that 99% (not exaggerating) of my dancing is at ordinary weekly milongas. These are local social clubs with dancing – not balls. People often come directly from work or (after a shower) the gym. Having seen even the best dancers and teachers show up in clean T-shirts, I've adopted the habit for its airiness and comfort; sure, they're costly, fitted bamboo rayon T-shirts that I replace every month or three, but they aren't eveningwear and they are very, very practical for dancing. The women I dance with wear the same skirts they'd wear to a nightclub or slacks they'd wear to work, and aren't above T-shirts, either. I don't worry about their brightly-dyed hair, piercings, tattoos, or other non-conservative decorations. And when I greet tango friends, it's with hugs, kisses on the cheeks, smiles and laughter.
When I think it through, this is "my life for decades: the tango version." It'd never occur to me to change any of it for tango, beyond wearing trousers and shoes optimal for dance.
but this doesn't seem to market it.
Every now and then, somebody here tries to run a more formal, more dress-up milonga. They can make it work a couple of times per year, as a highly affected novelty event. They cannot make it work more often, as a regular event. Several of the longer-running and more successful milongas here are what I'd describe as "casual to very casual."
That appears to be the sustainable model for the market, probably because it's affordable.
A few — though I was speaking of the milongas in China (and Korea, come to think of it); gathered from anecdotes by friends, and videos I found online or shown to me by said friends.
For whatever reason, I am friends with and dance with a great many women of East Asian origin – many expat Chinese, almost as many expat Japanese, and several each Korean and Vietnamese. All have danced in their countries of origin, and all have confirmed that the level of dance there is high, but also sterile. It is, as you said, as if people think they're competing in the Mundial.
One of my expat Chinese tanguera friends recently returned from a visit. She said that guys there dance more precisely than me, but that none of them are as fun, as expressive, or as original as me – they are like (to quote) "cloned ballroom robots." I have also danced from visitors from East Asia, and I find their personal-space issues and visible discomfort with humor get in the way of my dancing.
Of course, this is all anecdotal. Maybe people I don't know and haven't met are nothing like this. Perhaps my tanguera friends all left East Asia for the same reasons, and don't fit in there. I have no clue.
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DJ calls Last Tanda and La Cumparsita (instrumental only) is the last one played of the set.
I know most of our local DJs. They announce, "Last tanda!" / "Dernière tanda!", and then play a four-song tanda that consists of three pieces followed by
La Cumparsita, all by the same orquesta in the same era. Occasionally, if the last tanda falls where a vals or milonga would be played, were the evening to continue, the DJ digs out a vals or milonga arrangement of
La Cumparsita, and plays a three-song tanda of two valses/milongas followed by
La Cumparsita-vals/milonga.
It happens that the final cortina of the night is too close to closing time to squeeze in a full tanda, but the normal response to shorten the tanda. Shortening it to just
La Cumparsita happens, but is viewed as an unfortunate necessity. Avoiding the cortina and tacking
La Cumparsita onto the last tanda as a fifth piece happens almost never, and when it does, is regarded as an actual error – people pause dancing and stare in the DJ's general direction.
However, this might be peculiar to our scene, because this . . .
Of course, it's a signal for packing up and farewells, so some don't dance it but pack up to leave.
. . . isn't the case. Most milongas here take place in dedicated tango studios, not in rented spaces with the clock ticking. "Closing time" is functionally a suggestion. Nobody at an event scheduled for, say, 8 p.m. to midnight cares if
La Cumparsita is at 12:09 a.m., or if dancers aren't packed up and gone before 12:30 a.m. In fact, many organizers hang out and chat with dancers well past the official end time. A few milongas in practice continue "until the last couple leaves the floor," and I've attended some where the DJ, organizers, and their friends wait for that and take a 10-minute pause, and then the DJ plays more tandas for the night owls.
So, there's no pressure. Everybody knows that
La Cumparsita marks only the end of the organizers' promise to play music, and isn't a "Pack up and get out!" signal.
There are a couple of exceptions where the space
is rented and people
are pressured to leave, but I dislike that dynamic, so I've stopped going there. That level of structure bugs me just as much as trying to turn a local social club into a formal ball.
Personally I never used to like it as a strange mishmash, and I found interpreting it trying. Then someone chose the D'Arienzo version and that version has now become a firm favourite. We have given up occasionally on some other versions.
I actually really like Solo's vals version, too. But yeah, I'm a D'Arienzo diehard for the most part.
I've never met anyone, inside or outside Argentina, who refuses to dance it for this reason.
As I said, it seems to be a Bizarro World tradition that hasn't made it to where I live.