Dave Bailey
Active Member
Mahdalia's not a beginner, and I think she's pretty good at this dancing stuff personally; so it may be a question of interpretation...From what you've written, it sounds like you're a beginner
Looking at the queries:
Or, if the woman suddenly gets an attack of the dreaded GrrrrlPowerItis...I don't think much "play" happens until after technical issues have been thoroughly sorted out. "Play" mainly happens when people are feeling relaxed and natural with the dance process and each other.
Ochos are tougher in close, definitely. Not sure what the answer is here - "take smaller steps" seems too obvious...For me, close embrace sets up a lot of new technical problems, such as:
*He wants an ocho. How can I disassociate my body enough to carry it out without disrupting the embrace too much and find the space to step without kicking him?
I agree with Peaches - the embrace invitation / re-invitation is up to the leader. He needs to pause, get comfortable with the embrace change, then start again.*So he opens out the embrace to give me space - how do I settle back into it smoothly and seamlessly?
Left arm? Are your leaders making you hold it up or something?*How can I find a comfortable place for my left arm that won't ache before the end of the tanda?
Ummm. Not sure.*How can I relax my upper body when my back is aching from the effort to match my partners's posture and maintain a connection? Help me out of this strait-jacket!
I'd guess, at your stage, you can maybe ease up a bit on the leaning-by-default thing in close embrace, and get a bit more on your axis?*As I am in a very slight leaning position my core muscles are working far harder to support my posture than they do when I am upright in my own axis as I can't use balance to support my spine as much.
Mmm. Dunno. Ask me again in 5-6 years.Very little chance of play with all that going on in my head! But I'd like to know what people would suggest for fostering play in close embrace.