Oh, crap.

Peaches

Peaches

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Oh crap oh crap oh crap.

Does anyone else know the feeling--most noticeable after buying a house, I've found--that sick, sinking, wanting to either pass out or throw up, OHMIGOD what the hell did I just do, feeling right after you've committed to something and realizing that you really can't back out. I mean, sure...it's something you want, and it's a good decision and all that, but still...

Yeah. So, I agreed--in lieu of competition--to medal testing with my teacher. Oh crap oh crap oh crap. I'm kind of excited...I guess, and it's good to have a goal, and medal testing seems way more up my alley than comps, but...

Oh crap oh crap oh crap. I'm still in that stage. Oh dear god what did I agree to. (Note to self: be plenty rested and awake--or at least highly caffenated and awake--before agreeing to crap.)
 
Give yourself some time. The first 100 years are the rough ones. After that you get totally used to it. :lol:
Seriously. "Oh crap" is my mantra. I know the feeling, we all do. But if you weren't ready for medals your teacher would have told you so. Getting certified is always nice. Breathe, smile and dance.
Huh. Now that's a better mantra. :D

T_E
 
I'm with T_E. If you weren't ready, you wouldn't have been invited to test for them. Medal exams really aren't bad. Honest. Especially if you're taking the student exam. All you have to demonstrate is your part. Depending on how the exam is administered, you either demonstrate your part solo or dance it with your teacher. Neither is bad. I've done both.

Find out how the exam is administered, so you can be mentally prepared. Then stop worrying. There's no "oh crap" required. Really. :cool:
 
Um, definitely not ready. I only want to test in standard, and I don't know squat about standard. Except for some QS, but that's not close to ready.

It wasn't so much a "you're ready, you should test" as I need a goal, desperately. Comps and showcases I emphatically vetoed...medal tests were left. I agreed. Definitely the student exams--no way I'm going the teacher route. Now I just need to learn to dance standard...
 
Ah. I misunderstood. Thought the exams were imminent.

In that case, let me say that your teacher won't schedule your exams until you ARE ready. I think medal exams are a very good, motivational goal that'll help keep you on track, which can be a very good thing.

And the other stuff I said still stands. You can do it.

The student exams are there, IMO, to give you something tangible by which to measure your progress. They're not there to make you nervous or to humiliate you or even (get this) to fail you. They're there to document, for you own satisfaction, how far you've come. And they work.

You go, girl! :D
 
Peaches said:
Oh crap oh crap oh crap.

Does anyone else know the feeling--most noticeable after buying a house, I've found--that sick, sinking, wanting to either pass out or throw up, OHMIGOD what the hell did I just do, feeling right after you've committed to something and realizing that you really can't back out. I mean, sure...it's something you want, and it's a good decision and all that, but still...

Yeah. So, I agreed--in lieu of competition--to medal testing with my teacher. Oh crap oh crap oh crap. I'm kind of excited...I guess, and it's good to have a goal, and medal testing seems way more up my alley than comps, but...

Oh crap oh crap oh crap. I'm still in that stage. Oh dear god what did I agree to. (Note to self: be plenty rested and awake--or at least highly caffenated and awake--before agreeing to crap.)
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Funny...I had this happen to me about an hour after I said "I do". A house can be sold in a couple of months....
 
When it happens after buying something, I believe the term used for that type of feeling is "buyer's remorse". It isn't fun, but you'll get through it. :friend:
 
mamboqueen said:
Funny...I had this happen to me about an hour after I said "I do". A house can be sold in a couple of months....
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That thought crossed my mind, but figured it'd be best not to mention that scenario. Oddly, I didn't get that feeling after "I do."

But I got it really bad each time we submitted a contract on a house, and after our 2 closings.
 
Maybe it's because I've been in the real estate biz pretty much since the day I started working (100 years ago), I don't really worry about it. I have had lots of experience doing closings for very nervous people, though. In fact, I once had to go to a large hospital in Boston and do a closing in a hospital room because the woman was in her 9th month and her nerves were causing her problems. Buying a big house and having a child at roughly the same time is not something I would particularly recommend....but, some people handle it better than others, I guess.

When my husband and I look at our wedding video (which we haven't in a looooong time), he always says if he had known that my eyeballs were pretty much popping out of my head every time the JOP said something alluding to commitment or permanency, he wouldn't have gone through with it. He calls it my Lucille Ball video.
 
So if you fail your medal exam do they never allow you to dance again? Do they kill a puppy for every missed step? No? Then follow the advice I'm better at giving than taking, keep in mind that the worst case scenario isn't really all that bad!
 
"the secret of a long life is knowing when to leave." Michelle Shocked.

Nobody is forcing you to do anything. As someone is has gotten bored by the education system where you have to be awarded a certificate to say that you did an evening class that you enjoyed, and having left a system that was forcing some very knowledgeable and interseting amateurs to get a teaching qualification, even if they'd been teaching it for years, I say phoeey to medals.

Dance is about art, interpretation, feeling, enjoyment not a horse jumping show.
 
Well, to be fair, I've been looking for a goal. I respond well to tests.

No one is forcing me. I agreed to it perfectly willingly--I'd actually been secretly toying with the idea for a few months.

I don't want to back out. It's just an, "Oh crap what did I just do?!?!?" kind of feeling. I know it passes--the important thing I have to remind myself is not to make any decisions when I'm in this phase, b/c I know I'm not thinking rationally.

And what's this about a horse jumping show? (Sorry, slight nerve touching--I used to ride, and loved it. And felt it was about art, feeling, and enjoyment. Not interpretation, so much, but I was never good so maybe it was just that.)
 
Peaches said:
Oh crap oh crap oh crap.
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I have a theory that most of our best learning and personal growth occurs when we are thrown into situations that are completely and utterly over our heads. :shock: Several years ago, due to a smart-aleck answer I gave in response to a manager's question, I got appointed to be our group's "expert" in a very specialized area, of which neither me nor anyone else in our group had no knowledge at all. Man, did I have to come up to speed quick! And the worst part was, there are no written manuals or textbooks for this specialized area; you have to learn by talking to people, watching, and doing. I went to meetings, demos, training sessions, and I actually did gain a substantial amount of knowledge in this area. So much so, that a few months later, I was not only able to write working procedures for it, but to cross-check a Russian translation. That was quite a heady experience.
 
bordertangoman said:
"the secret of a long life is knowing when to leave." Michelle Shocked.

Nobody is forcing you to do anything. As someone is has gotten bored by the education system where you have to be awarded a certificate to say that you did an evening class that you enjoyed, and having left a system that was forcing some very knowledgeable and interseting amateurs to get a teaching qualification, even if they'd been teaching it for years, I say phoeey to medals.

Dance is about art, interpretation, feeling, enjoyment not a horse jumping show.
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I think having some goals or some measuring standard to estimate your progress is good, too. My personal goals are tied to competitions, but I think medal test is a good goal.
 
His opinion doesn't particularly surprise me...it's such a characteristically AT thing. (Said knowing, full well, that I've got one foot planted firmly in the AT camp...so I'm not knocking you, BTM. :-) )

But, yeah, I like measuring and goals and seeing progress. Without the competitiveness.
 
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