One dance partner all night?

[quixotedlm]

When I was in that situation, what I did was to dance with the guy (my maybe-date) for a while then asked for a break so I could have a walkabout and dance with others. I promised I would come back to him for more dances later (and I did). I wouldn't be interested in men who couldn't take it anyway. It may be a bit more difficult for guys to do this and leave the maybe-date alone to fend for herself if she's not the type who's happy to ask men to dance (I understand I'm in the minority).

That's what I had in mind too - to keep it flexible and easy while paying plenty of attention to the maybe-date. But that's a moot point now.

 

[Big10]

When I was in that situation, what I did was to dance with the guy (my maybe-date) for a while then asked for a break so I could have a walkabout and dance with others. I promised I would come back to him for more dances later (and I did).

If I'm on a date or a "maybe-date," then I would leave her only if I get asked to dance by a known acquaintance/friend, or if I see a specific friend with whom I want to dance. I'll tell my date something like, "I'm going to say 'hi' to my friend Monica and dance a song with her." I wouldn't leave my date just to see who I could randomly find out of the pack of dancers at the venue.....well, unless I've come to the conclusion that this date just isn't working out.

Would never go on a date to a club where I knew people and would get asked to dance. Maybe a live gig.

If I take a date to a Salsa club, then it's usually a place I know. In other words, I'll already know where the hardcore dancers stand (most clubs have de facto areas like that), and I deliberately choose an area away from them, so there is much less chance of getting asked.

 

[RugKutta]

I in the rare situation that I bring a "date" when I go out to dance, I always have some sort of conversation w/ her as to what we expect from each other during the night. You can never go wrong w/ the right amount of communication. If the person who gets upset already knew what the deal was before hand, said person has no one to blame at but her/himself.

 

[samina]

i haven't mixed dancing & dating -- had many non-dancers who wanted to "take me out dancing" and i'd never ever go there. they wouldn't understand the culture of dancing with multiple partners all night... and i LIKE that culture!

now that i'm in a relationship with a dancer, we go to the same socials and mix it up the same as before... although we do dance together more often. he enjoys dancing with other women as much as i enjoy dancing with other men. i don't think it'd ever be a problem.

i generally only dance one (sequential) dance with someone, tho... on rare occasions, i may dance two sequential dances.

i've experienced sensitivity around asking a man to dance while out at a club, if his GF is nearby. has happened a couple times where i've asked the lady permission to allow me to steal her man away for a dance, and once the woman was very pissy about it. but she found me a few months later and apologized.

i don't worry about any of it, tho. i'm polite, and if someone has an issue, well... it's their issue to sort out. i don't believe i've ever given reasonable cause for anyone to take offense.

when i go latin dancing at clubs by myself, tho -- which is how i've almost always gone -- i tend to follow certain "rules" i've discovered which prevent one man from digging his talons in & trying to claim ownership for the evening. LOL

 

[samina]

I in the rare situation that I bring a "date" when I go out to dance, I always have some sort of conversation w/ her as to what we expect from each other during the night. You can never go wrong w/ the right amount of communication. If the person who gets upset already knew what the deal was before hand, said person has no one to blame at but her/himself.

yeah, well, said, rugkutta!