post competition disorder

OK so that conversation did not go well, as expected, though the way it went badly was not entirely expected.

All those social media memes I keep saying about "sometimes you need to make a change even if you don't know exactly what it will be" seem very applicable right now. It's really just decisions and logistics.
yeeeek sorry about that. That's rough. maybe come back to it after the holidays and just let yourself breathe for a bit.
 
Phew! First competition in over a year done! Closed silver latin B. I almost cried after I finished my last heat- I wasn’t sure I’d be able to compete again ever, but I made it and was still standing at the end! New style, new partner, made it through and met my goal of not being tense and stiff in frame. And I had so much fun! Nice to have that joy again.
Update: i was pretty exhausted the two days after this - but still able to move a lot more than i had been after exertion earlier in the year, but also minor brain fog for about 5 days and then for two weeks after i was like GIVE ME EVERY CALORIE PLEASE. i had actually dropped a couple of pounds ahead of the competition and now i have gained that back PLUS MORE because i was SO HUNGRY. not trying to reset this overeating too much now that it's holidays, but sheeeeesh.
 
yeeeek sorry about that. That's rough. maybe come back to it after the holidays and just let yourself breathe for a bit.
I would normally agree, but it's definitely time for an exit strategy. There are some things that have been bubbling under the surface for a while. The universe is sending me a thousand flashing red warning lights. And things are burning to the ground in other aspects (i.e. that could unfavorably impact me).
 
I would normally agree, but it's definitely time for an exit strategy. There are some things that have been bubbling under the surface for a while. The universe is sending me a thousand flashing red warning lights. And things are burning to the ground in other aspects (i.e. that could unfavorably impact me).
that's so unfortunate! i'm sorry - hopefully you can find some resolution and then enjoy some holiday time.
 
@IndyLady First, thank you for sharing your experience at OSB. All experiences are always good to share. A lot of folks like tooting their own horn; as someone who doesn't have much of a horn to toot, its nice to hear about the full picture, not just the bright spots.

It is too bad the conversation went poorly in a way that wasn't expected. The unwarranted advice I can offer is its time to "cut line or fish". Seems like the fishing is dried up, so time to cut line and find a new honey hole. Knowing when to leave is a skill.
 
please table the patronizing pep talks
Ok, let’s calendar those for a bit and start engaging some other actionables, if you still have enough bandwidth to take the lead on the talent acquisition process.

I volunteer to head a steering group to consider a working party to investigate the possibility of setting up a committee to monitor developments and put together a set of guidelines for future discussion prior to formulating a hiring plan. Ping me when you think you may have solutioned a strategic fit & we’ll schedule an ideation session.
 
Ok, let’s calendar those for a bit and start engaging some other actionables, if you still have enough bandwidth to take the lead on the talent acquisition process.

I volunteer to head a steering group to consider a working party to investigate the possibility of setting up a committee to monitor developments and put together a set of guidelines for future discussion prior to formulating a hiring plan. Ping me when you think you may have solutioned a strategic fit & we’ll schedule an ideation session.
I have no idea what you mean by any of that, but I'm fascinated by the fact that you can turn the noun "solution" into "solutioned." Wow.
 
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I have no idea what you mean by any of that, but I'm fascinated by the fact that you can turn the noun "solution" into "solutioned." Wow.
I'm not trying to bring PnP down, but she did not invent that. "Solution" as a verb is already a thing in Corporate America. I hear it all the time at my job. My jaw almost hit the floor the first time someone said that (I even remember who it was). Corporate jargon is so ridiculous it's almost comical - like what nouns can we make into verbs. All the catch phrases she used are legitimate things said in offices these days.
 
Here’s a hilarious demonstration:
DF Corp speak thread
Thank you. I was going to mention that thread, but I knew you would take the lead on locationing* it and sharing it out to the team. :)

Line was cut yesterday. I sent a brief, polite text. Received a comparably brief, polite text back but also with one of those statements that both mildly insults and tempts the reader to respond with a justification. Not taking the bait. I need to worry about my own self, I'm not going to waste time and energy trying to convince or make someone understand (especially since, not surprisingly to anyone who knows me, if you really need more explanation, you haven't been listening).

I've got a session scheduled with another pro this coming week (yes I know this seems like it moved kind of quickly). I'm looking forward to the next chapter in my dance journey.

*OK, "locationing" isn't really a thing yet. Give it time, I'm sure it will surface eventually. Maybe I should use it as a sentence at work to see how it is received.
 
Ok, let’s calendar those for a bit and start engaging some other actionables, if you still have enough bandwidth to take the lead on the talent acquisition process.

I volunteer to head a steering group to consider a working party to investigate the possibility of setting up a committee to monitor developments and put together a set of guidelines for future discussion prior to formulating a hiring plan. Ping me when you think you may have solutioned a strategic fit & we’ll schedule an ideation session.
There is a 'new" person at work that sounds like this on every call. All I can do is roll my eyes and tell her not to schedule an ideation session until she has a fully vetted solution. (Don't waste my f'ing time!)
 
Interesting mix of results this past weekend.

On the upside, things generally went well in our "true" category. I would give the team a B+ or better on executing the Dance Thought of the Day, we made finals in all styles, and were on the downside of several tiebreakers and close calls to place higher. A very solid performance.

On the downside, we had a remarkably weak showing challenging up a level. Not only did we fail to make it past the opening quarterfinal round, but in both Standard and Latin we placed last...and even earned zero recalls for Standard! This despite 20-30% of the field overlapping with the level below.

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Some of this I have a good explanation for.

In Standard, Partner was worried about her stamina. She feared that going all-out in the 4-dance would exhaust her for the Viennese Waltz single (traditionally our best dance by far), and she very much wanted to go "elephant hunting" in that event. So she deliberately held back from fully executing the crazy woman dance thought that served so well earlier.

(I should acknowledge that her tactic worked--she did execute powerfully in the Viennese single, and we did slay a number of elephants and make that final.)

In Latin, we were both mentally worn down. The event started at 11:30 PM, we had first danced at 2 PM, and Partner had been up since 6 AM doing team-captain things. Our bodies were strong, but proprioception and attention to detail were lacking. So the dance was sloppier and less visibly energetic than usual, even though we felt we did reasonably well under the conditions.

But in Smooth, it is harder to trace reasons for the lesser result. It was the first event in the evening, so we were fresh. Wife and I both felt we executed just about as well as in the lower event. And yet we were soundly defeated by some of the same couples over which we won convincingly at the lower level. What was so different?

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As I sat pondering the results, what I first concluded was this:

At the Open level--even the early stages where I am laboring--the differences on which we are judged are quite small.

It does not take much of a "bad" day to make a big difference in results--either my own, or my opponents'. So there is a great premium on being able to consistently access our highest potential.

But on further reflection, I think that maybe the explanation is even simpler.

Before advancing to Open, I was at the top of Gold. And my Gold studies fell mostly during the pandemic, with very few competitions, so my prior significant comp experience was at the top of Silver 2-3 years earlier. Thus, my comp record had been consistent high results for a decent length of time. By converse, last year, at the bottom of the category, we also had consistency...just in the more-unpleasant form of never advancing.

Basically, I just haven't been in the middle of a category in a while, and I've forgotten how noisy the results can be.

Either way, lots of good data gathered. Plenty to be satisfied with, and plenty more to work on.
 
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Interesting mix of results this past weekend.

On the upside, things generally went well in our "true" category. I would give the team a B+ or better on executing the Dance Thought of the Day, we made finals in all styles, and were on the downside of several tiebreakers and close calls to place higher. A very solid performance

On the downside, we had a remarkably weak showing challenging up a level. Not only did we fail to make it past the opening quarterfinal round, but in both Standard and Latin we placed last...and even earned zero recalls for Standard! This despite 20-30% of the field overlapping with the level below.

**********

Some of this I have a good explanation for.

In Standard, Partner was worried about her stamina. She feared that going all-out in the 4-dance would exhaust her for the Viennese Waltz single (traditionally our best dance by far), and she very much wanted to go "elephant hunting" in that event. So she deliberately held back from fully executing the crazy woman dance thought that served so well earlier.

(I should acknowledge that her tactic worked--she did execute powerfully in the Viennese single, and we did slay a number of elephants and make that final.)

In Latin, we were both mentally worn down. The event started at 11:30 PM, we had first danced at 2 PM, and Partner had been up since 6 AM doing team-captain things. Our bodies were strong, but proprioception and attention to detail were lacking. So the dance was sloppier and less visibly energetic than usual, even though we felt we did reasonably well under the conditions.

But in Smooth, it is harder to trace reasons for the lesser result. It was the first event in the evening, so we were fresh. Wife and I both felt we executed just about as well as in the lower event. And yet we were soundly defeated by some of the same couples over which we won convincingly at the lower level. What was so different?

***********

As I sat pondering the results, what I first concluded was this:

At the Open level--even the early stages where I am laboring--the differences on which we are judged are quite small.

It does not take much of a "bad" day to make a big difference in results--either my own, or my opponents'. So there is a great premium on being able to consistently access our highest potential.

But on further reflection, I think that maybe the explanation is even simpler.

Before advancing to Open, I was at the top of Gold. And my Gold studies fell mostly during the pandemic, with very few competitions, so my prior significant comp experience was at the top of Silver 2-3 years earlier. Thus, my comp record had been consistent high results for a decent length of time. By converse, last year, at the bottom of the category, we also had consistency...just in the more-unpleasant form of never advancing.

Basically, I just haven't been in the middle of a category in a while, and I've forgotten how noisy the results can be.

Either way, lots of good data gathered. Plenty to be satisfied with, and plenty more to work on.
The fact that you approach all this so methodically instead of going with your immediate, and inevitable and human, emotions, speaks volumes of your professionalism and forward-looking, "let's see what I can learn from this and then move on and apply it" attitude. All champions have that, if you analyze their behavior.

Translate: you will get there, it's just a matter of time.
 
On the downside, we had a remarkably weak showing challenging up a level. Not only did we fail to make it past the opening quarterfinal round, but in both Standard and Latin we placed last...and even earned zero recalls for Standard! This despite 20-30% of the field overlapping with the level below.

If the level separation is working properly, that 20-30% overlap is at the bottom of the field in the upper level, since they are the part who are, in that level, competing "up". Was the cut more than 30%? Then anyone from that 30% should be surprised if they make the first cut.

Zero recalls just means you were consistently in the 30%, rather than inconsistently showing moments of brilliancy and and of disaster. Remember, the objective to dancing "up" is floor experience, not results, even if you are used to focusing on results.

But in Smooth, it is harder to trace reasons for the lesser result. It was the first event in the evening, so we were fresh. Wife and I both felt we executed just about as well as in the lower event. And yet we were soundly defeated by some of the same couples over which we won convincingly at the lower level. What was so different?

Presumably you would prefer for your better placements to be in the event where you made the final? I'd say that mean you were doing it right.

With respect to the results in the higher level, the first thing that jumps to mind given those circumstances is that you might not have been as warmed up for the first event as some of the other couples. Some of them probably stayed to practice during any dinner break; I assume you had dinner? And if I'm reading this correctly, your wife perhaps had no events during the daytime session in which to warm up? My experience is that better warm up contributes to better placement - presumably due to better dancing - even when the "feel" is the same.

Note that that's a hypothesis, not advice. For example, I wouldn't advise skipping dinner for practice, especially since it sounds like you may already have done significant dancing.

I wouldn't take this as a reason not to do it again. I assume the lower level was later? So the warmup from one round of the higher level may have contributed to a stronger placement at the lower level.

I also suspect one other possible cause in this case. To get marked by a judge, the judge first has to see you, then has to decide you are good enough to mark, all in the course of a few seconds. In a final, the judges typically try hard to look at all the couples, and the deciding factor is how good look are once they see you. In preliminary rounds, especially if they are crowded as is often the case at collegiate events, the limiting factor can be whether the judges see you in the first place.

If your wife is still wearing the black ballgown, I would expect that to hurt you more in a preliminary round than in a final. In addition, if I recall correctly, your choreography includes a significant amount of closed position work - maybe to meet USA Dance rules, which might not apply in collegiate competitions? - which can contribute to quality, but doesn't tend to draw the eye as much. In the lower level, your dancing was good enough to get marked through anyway, and in the final, you were seen anyway. In the higher level, you might have needed more flash - including ballgown color - to get marked.

In the long run, continuing to improve the dancing is of course the solution. Whether your wife wants to invest in a more brightly colored dress in the meantime is up to her - or she could do that and also do the "change dresses for the final" thing if she wants.
 

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