Rejections

[Angel HI]

A wee late... Welcome, Vade, to the DF.

 

[dchester]

But you can modify it to something that does.

I find that in the US, when the cabeceo doesn't work, walking up and asking if they would like to dance, does work.

 

[bastet]

One big difference is that there is enough seating (with tables) for everyone at the milongas in BsAs. They wear their glasses until they get a nod. Then they take them off and leave them on the table, when getting up to dance. You often don't get a seat of your own at the milongas here, and it's even less likely to get a table.

The worst case for this was at a milonga I attended at the Yale Tango Festival. The seating was in a separate room from where the dancing was. It was a real cluster [something] when the tanda ended. People left that room for the other room to find a new partner, and of course the people who weren't dancing that tanda were standing by the doorway to try and ask for a dance. I didn't care for that setup at all, thus I won't likely ever return to that festival. (It's a shame as the classes were good)

The bottom line: I'm a big believer in following the local customs. When in BsAs, use the cabeceo. In other places, do whatever is the accepted practice. I will say that the cabeceo (nod) is worth trying, though.

so true- i am at Tangofest right now and it is much that case. there is genrally a (one) row of tables at the edge, and seating in back. After day one I just didn't bother with bring my glasses for fear of losing for breakage and resorted to milling about looking for people I already knew from class or elsewhere.

 

[Peaches]

I find that in the US, when the cabeceo doesn't work, walking up and asking if they would like to dance, does work.

LOL @ dchester. Nice.