Single on Valentine's...

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quixotedlm

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If you are single today, did you make any resolutions for not being single the next time around.. ;)

This is not a 'give me advice' thread. This is more like a 'share your funny ideas' thread ;)
 
I've been single my whole life for valentine's day:mrgreen:

So yea... I'm pretty much getting used to the idea by now. Hence, no resolutions!
 
My 30-year relationship (married the last 28) officially ended about a year ago (though separated 2.5 years ago), so I'm still trying to sort myself out over this new being-single thing and I'm not yet squared away. Still suffering phantom pains in amputated mental limbs. Currently dealing with the fear that she was actually the norm, so in another relationship I'd end up having to suffer through a lot of the same kind of c*** as she had dealt me.

So my position is that I'm not going to go looking for trouble; I'm sure it'll find me soon enough on its own. And my 7-day-a-week dancing schedule should keep me too busy to consider doing anything foolish, like dating.
 
ballroom4life said:
I've been single my whole life for valentine's day:mrgreen:
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Same here. I don't really see the point in setting a goal along the lines of, "By this time next year, I'll be married." What, am I going to reach 2/13/08 and suddenly rush out to marry the wrong person? That's ridiculous. I'll get married when the circumstances are right and enjoy myself in the meantime.

I admit, there have been stretches where I wasn't dating anyone and went to social events that really expected one to bring a S.O. Now, most of these circumstances involve dancing, which I've got covered, and I have several good female friends from the dance studio who may enjoy an evening out as friends, esp. when there's a group of us involved.

Which just goes to prove: Dancing cures all ills :wink:

- John
 
quixotedlm said:
This is not a 'give me advice' thread.
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Some advice from http://match.engb.msn.com/matchscene/article.aspx?articleid=7508&TrackingID=523976&BannerID=568008

Top 3 post-Valentine’s Day resolutions

Michael Tresser, match.engb.msn.com

So Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and it wasn’t exactly what you had hoped for. Maybe you went out on a date with someone boring just to be on a date. Perhaps you commiserated with other single friends over one too many cocktails. Or maybe you stayed home and watched Eastenders with a meal for one from Sainsbury's. In any case, what should have been the most romantic day of the year didn’t include roses, dinner or future possibilities.
Take heart! Better times are around the corner.
To ensure you have a better chance of making next year’s Valentine’s Day a winner, make some resolutions. No, not those unattainable ones you make at the beginning of every year like, "I will lose 75 pounds in a week" or "I will wipe out all my credit card debt." Make resolutions that are easy to keep and have lasting value.
Here are three resolutions to help you develop a more active dating life.
  1. I will make better choices. Just a guess, but the married convict with intimacy issues probably isn't your best prospect. If you always date a workaholic and break up because you never spend time together, isn't it time to self-evaluate? Take a look at your relationship history and see if there is a pattern; learn from past mistakes. Who we're attracted to and what’s good for us are often very different.
  2. I will network more. Some people think that networking is a dirty word, especially when it involves letting people know you're on the market. There’s nothing wrong with telling colleagues, friends and family that you're single. People aren’t mind readers; if you don’t tell them what your situation is, they won’t know. And think about it: everyone loves to help out their friends in the romance department.
  3. I will take more chances. You'll have to do more than wish for an active dating life before it will actually happen. Going to the same happy hour every Friday night and meeting the same people every week will probably not fill up your social calendar. Do things you’ve never done before: join a club, take a class or online. The more you put yourself in new environments, the better your chances are of meeting someone new. Keep your eyes open to all possibilities; inevitably you'll find that special someone where you least expect.
 
Top 3 post-Valentine’s Day resolutions

1. do not do anything different from any other day

2. Ignore the Pink Fluffy Brigade

3. Vow to stay single for another 365 days
 
Any resolutions???

yeah, eat more chocolate on V-Day next year.... barely ate any this year, and that's one of the days I convince myself that I have a valid excuse to eat lots of it :)

As for the single part... eh, why force something? let things happen as they may.
 
RIdancer82 said:
As for the single part... eh, why force something? let things happen as they may.
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Ocasionally I meet someone nice....but then I fast forward to dull boring bits of relationships and all the compromises
one is obliged to make; getting on with 'outlaws', arguing over stuff, etc etc and I think, 'no I just can't be bothererd. its not worth the hassle.'
 
Shooshoo said:
that's a bit difficult
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Don't you think its all becoming a little bit cliched this Valentine stuff?

1. Women are indifferent to romantic gestures however original; if they don't like you it doesn't matter whether you swim through crocodile infested waters to bring her her favourite flowers ; she's still gonna cr* p on you.

2. To paraphrase Groucho Marx: I wouldn't want to go out with the sort of women who would have me.

3. the inevitable disillusionment; either she don't live up to your expectations or you don't live up to hers.

frankly if you are single and are determined/resigned to being that way it saves a lot of money and energy that you might waste chasing after unavailable/disinterested members of the opposite sex.
 
cliche does indeed bore me...

but i tend to find relationships... adventurous... i suppose.
wouldn't want to swear them off, that's for sure.:cool:
 
quixotedlm said:
If you are single today, did you make any resolutions for not being single the next time around.. ;)

This is not a 'give me advice' thread. This is more like a 'share your funny ideas' thread ;)
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Not single, but even when I have been without an SO on V-Day, like 7 out of the last 20 years or there abouts, no resolutions for the next time around have been made by me. My resolutions usually develop after the breakdown of a relationship. :cool:
 
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