Sisters - for all the female DFers and their friends :)

Pacion

Pacion

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Received this email from a friend today: :D

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day,
drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother. As
they talked about life, about marriage, about the
responsibilities of life and the obligations of
adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her
glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance
upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your Sisters," she advised, swirling
the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll
be more important as you get older. No matter how
much you love your husband, no matter how much you
love the children you may have, you are still going
to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now
and then; do things with them."

"Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women...
your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other
women relatives too. "You'll need other women. Women
always do."

What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman
thought. Haven't I just gotten married?
Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a
married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely
my husband and the family we may start will be all I
need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact
with her Sisters and made more women friends each
year. As the years tumbled by, one after another,
she gradually came to understand that her Mom really
knew what she was talking about. As time and nature
work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman,
Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world,
here is what I've learned:

THIS SAYS IT ALL:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.
BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how
many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away
than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you
have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life
will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on,
praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on
your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the
valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk
beside you...Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and
neither would I. When we began this adventure called
womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or
sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we
would need each other.

Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on
to all the women who help make your life meaningful.
I just did. Short and very sweet:

There are more than twenty angels in this world. Ten are peacefully sleeping on clouds. Nine are playing. And one is reading her email at this moment.
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Absolutely true - except the angel bit at the end maybe (I did a teeny bit of lopping before forwarding this to my best friend...).

Thanks for posting...
 
If you ladies don't mind, I would like to think of/call myself an angel... ;)


(Note, the lower case "a" :lol:)
 
Pacion said:
If you ladies don't mind, I would like to think of/call myself an angel... ;)


(Note, the lower case "a" :lol:)
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Of course, we know you are an angel.;) Just make sure you keep your halo on straight and it doesn't fall off.:oops:
 
quixotedlm said:
Such a jaded view of life and people. So sorry to see any agreement for this viewpoint...
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Well, I think it has a bit of a rosy view of women--have some great friends but have had trouble with women, too.

But quix, which of the following statements do you feel is not simply an objective statement of fact:

"Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end. "

Of course, the statements about men and colleagues are not universal, but they do happen.
 
waltzgirl said:
Well, I think it has a bit of a rosy view of women--have some great friends but have had trouble with women, too.

But quix, which of the following statements do you feel is not simply an objective statement of fact:

Of course, the statements about men and colleagues are not universal, but they do happen.
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The sum of parts is sometimes greater than the individual things that make up the whole.

The statements are factual. The despondent attitude conveyed by them is not. The statments, taken together, convey a sense of unreliability. It has an implication that with time, the things and people that enrich our lives will inevitably leave us in an undue manner and disappoint us, in contrast to the sisters who will be there despite.

You can argue semantics all you want, but the said rosy view of women does not cancel out the bleak picture about the rest of the world, nor does it justify it.
 
Well I dont know about all the sisters it talked about, but do I know of one sister who has been with me for 33 years and who has not and will never pick anyone over me. She has been there for me when men and friends and even a real sister found someone else they would rather spend time with. That would be my lovely mother. She is my one true sister and friend. I have yet to find anyone else who equals her in her devotion and love to me. She is the one person who would never pick anyone over me. Everyone else in my life has always done so....not that I mind people changing and growing and evolving past me. But no matter what happens, people should still stick by you and still make even a TINY bit of time for you, whether in a phone call or email or whatnot. Yet they dont and never have. My mother is the one person that I can depend on, not only as a mother but as a friend. Perhaps this is a jaded view, but I have found it to be true in my life. Life is not always rosy...its hard as can be. And bad things happen more often than good ones do. My world WOULD be rather bleak without my mother. So perhaps it is a jaded, bleak view on life, yes. But its so true for alot of us. I'm happy for the people that life has been good to. But they are few and far between. So why not let us keep our happy thoughts of people who always stick with you, and books about true loves that dont leave you, and silly emails about the good of womankind. Because alot of time thats all we've got....
 
anp... I understand.

confession - i'm more jaded than anyone, and i have to work hard to be an optimist. life sucks. poeple lie. every one of them is untrustworthy - no exceptions. that's my story. i don't have that one sister or brother who's always there no matter what.

so my perspective comes from that place - that if you start believing that there is some magical trust in a sisterhood (or whatever) and everybody else will be not-so-dependable, you are bound to be disappointed someday - because the sisterhood might also let you down. on the other hand, if you simply work on believing that there willbe people in our lives who will be always there - and they could come in any shape, size or form - then we will learn to invest our trust discerningly and not risk the calamity that might befall us when blind trust goes sour.
 
trust and love are placed...they are best placed knowing and understanding that people are people...if they are given away unconditionally, suffering, though great, is still minimized....men, women, whatever...my very depreciated 2cents
 
i have only one such "sister" friend in my life who's remained unconditionally a part of my life thru the years, although i don't get to see her often. have experienced far more in the way of female friends disappearing when men come into their lives, or when an inconvenient relationship issue comes up, requiring unconditional love & trust.

truly, real abiding friendship seems to be a rare & precious thing. if there are women surrounded by masses of "sistahs" in their life, they are very lucky.

my closest friend right now is a gay woman, who recently introduced me to her circle of friends. that's a very cool vibe... interesting. never hung out with a group of lesbians before. felt a bit like charlotte from sex & the city this past weekend... loved being around all that female energy, but must keep in mind it's different from hanging with my non-gay female friends.
 
quixotedlm said:
anp... I understand.

confession - i'm more jaded than anyone, and i have to work hard to be an optimist. life sucks. poeple lie. every one of them is untrustworthy - no exceptions. that's my story. i don't have that one sister or brother who's always there no matter what.

so my perspective comes from that place - that if you start believing that there is some magical trust in a sisterhood (or whatever) and everybody else will be not-so-dependable, you are bound to be disappointed someday - because the sisterhood might also let you down. on the other hand, if you simply work on believing that there willbe people in our lives who will be always there - and they could come in any shape, size or form - then we will learn to invest our trust discerningly and not risk the calamity that might befall us when blind trust goes sour.
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Although I hate to admit it, I am so much like Quix. I have learned to expect the worst. I try to be optimistic as I don't want to be a 'downer' all the time but deep down.... Have had more 'tragedy' in my life than anyone would believe and if I wrote a book about it people would think it had to be fictional. But, one has to soldier on, and I do, but basically alone. I am not the 'woe is me' type, just very realistic and there isn't much, unfortunately, that I haven't experienced.
 
Wow! I expected many things, but not so much "jade"! (And, it is not even the jewellry kind!)

I know "women" are not perfect, and "men" are not perfect. I also know/have experienced being let down very badly by both male AND female. Similarly, I can well imagine (but I am not going to do so ;)) that there are males and females out there who would say I have let THEM down badly. I am also very aware that in times of "trouble", support can from all directions, male and or female.

However, my take on the message contained in what was written is this... many women, when they get into a romantic relationship/marriage let the partner become the complete focus of their lives and ignore the "females" around them. Therefore, the message I received was... not to take the females in your life for granted, to nuture those friendships so that if things do get a bit tidal wavy, you have a potential support network.

Besides, very few men (unless he is gay) will be interested in discussing the latest season's colours or go "ooooh" over what the actresses (or even the actors!) wear to the Oscars! Slightly banal examples, but hopefully, I have managed to convey why female relationships are important to nuture, even if you "agree to disagree" with me. ;)
 
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