VronskyWasSoVain
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It's been exactly 2 years since I started dancing. Someone on this forum told me that any sort of hobby/activity has a 2 year window where after the 2 years, it either just becomes a part of your life or you give it up. I'm pretty much heading towards the latter at this point.
Why? Two reasons and I'm being brutally honest:
1. I found a girlfriend.
2. I got injured.
I got into dancing because I was hopelessly single. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. That was the main motivation. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Didn't end up finding anyone in the dance community but I went through a physical transformation. I lost about 20 pounds which is a lot considering that I'm about 5'5. I started dressing better (a necessity in ballroom dance if you're gonna compete). Most of all, I developed something resembling "confidence."I found a girl willing to date me amazingly. She isn't connected to dance. She doesn't dance and doesn't want to. We are homebodies and like to do nerdy things indoors. Cause I'm a geek at heart and always have been.
Prepping for my last competition, I got injured. I exacerbated an old back injury I had before. I went through some physio and chiro and I was told that I should not dance for six weeks. Six weeks went by. Went back to some lessons and realized how tough it is to get back to the state I previously was in.
I've lost the motivation to dance. I'm busy with my career. I found a girl. I don't know if she's the one but if she's not, I'm fine with being alone since that's the way I was for most of my life. The only thing that bothers me. I'm starting to gain weight as a result of not dancing. It's the only thing that makes me want to reconsider quitting dance. I seriously was in the best shape of my life when I was dancing.
A part of me wishes I was a true dancer but at the end of the day, I'm just another guy who got into dance cause he was lonely and dance was the last hope and once he found someone, he quits.
Why? Two reasons and I'm being brutally honest:
1. I found a girlfriend.
2. I got injured.
I got into dancing because I was hopelessly single. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. That was the main motivation. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Didn't end up finding anyone in the dance community but I went through a physical transformation. I lost about 20 pounds which is a lot considering that I'm about 5'5. I started dressing better (a necessity in ballroom dance if you're gonna compete). Most of all, I developed something resembling "confidence."I found a girl willing to date me amazingly. She isn't connected to dance. She doesn't dance and doesn't want to. We are homebodies and like to do nerdy things indoors. Cause I'm a geek at heart and always have been.
Prepping for my last competition, I got injured. I exacerbated an old back injury I had before. I went through some physio and chiro and I was told that I should not dance for six weeks. Six weeks went by. Went back to some lessons and realized how tough it is to get back to the state I previously was in.
I've lost the motivation to dance. I'm busy with my career. I found a girl. I don't know if she's the one but if she's not, I'm fine with being alone since that's the way I was for most of my life. The only thing that bothers me. I'm starting to gain weight as a result of not dancing. It's the only thing that makes me want to reconsider quitting dance. I seriously was in the best shape of my life when I was dancing.
A part of me wishes I was a true dancer but at the end of the day, I'm just another guy who got into dance cause he was lonely and dance was the last hope and once he found someone, he quits.
) Hubby and I danced on weekends at weekly practice at the gym. We finished our degrees, moved someplace with no active dance scene, did not dance regulary for decades. Then when we moved here tried some lessons (at places that did not work out). Eventually, at age 58, I found a studio near by, took lessons, got to the "hooked" level. Followed that teacher to a new studio.. and I'm still hooked.