Speeddating

[DWise1]

I've never participated in one (never had to until now), but from TV news features here's how I understand it to work:

Usually there are tables-for-two set up.
One gender (usually the woman) remains seated while the other gender rotates from table to table.
They have a set amount of time (what? 5 minutes? I dunno) in which to converse.
From what I've seen, each person has a set of questions (apparently usually) and a score-sheet (ouch! that sounds worse when I think of it) on which they note down how each person did. Whether it's a number of marks or a single score for each person, I don't know.

Plus, I don't know how it all gets wrapped up at the end. But I would assume that there is some way for you to get back with your top scores (that's sounding worse and worse) and, assuming that you scored high with them as well, for the both of you to pursue matters further.


My counselor has a rigorous training regimen of dating lined up for me in another month or two, so I might be learning for myself how those things are run.

 

[pygmalion]

Oh. That sounds hideous. Can you imagine the pressure you'd feel, if you were more introverted, or took a little while to warm up, conversationally?

I know I'm showing my age, but what the heck! This sounds like another one of those instant gratification things that seems to be so popular these days. Meaning, if you can't produce scintillating conversation immediately, buzzz you're dead? That's not how relationships work, to me. *shakes head sadly* At least, drinks last an hour. Give yourself an hour to strike the poor person off your list of existing humanity. And how do you come up with the questions? And what if the person answers "wrong?" The longest-lasting relationships in my life have been with people who have fundamentally different ways of looking at world than I do (friends and more-than-friends.) So what if I'd "speed dated" them? I'd never even have gotten to know them. :?

 

[cl5814]

I've never participated in one (never had to until now), but from TV news features here's how I understand it to work:

Usually there are tables-for-two set up.
One gender (usually the woman) remains seated while the other gender rotates from table to table.
They have a set amount of time (what? 5 minutes? I dunno) in which to converse.
From what I've seen, each person has a set of questions (apparently usually) and a score-sheet (ouch! that sounds worse when I think of it) on which they note down how each person did. Whether it's a number of marks or a single score for each person, I don't know.

Plus, I don't know how it all gets wrapped up at the end. But I would assume that there is some way for you to get back with your top scores (that's sounding worse and worse) and, assuming that you scored high with them as well, for the both of you to pursue matters further.


My counselor has a rigorous training regimen of dating lined up for me in another month or two, so I might be learning for myself how those things are run.

At the event that i attended, there were no score cards. You just indicated that you wanted to see mr X, Y, Z again but not mr A B C. If both your and his score cards indicated yes, then e-mail addresses were exchanged. So, no real scoring, only a yes or no.

If you take a while to warm up conversationally, you are dead. you are correct.

 

[Lockstep]

i imagine that for 5 min conversations u'll just be targetted with all kinds of fancy one-liners, opening liners, jokes that have been tried out on the previous 50 candidates,...but hey, should be interesting to check it out right? if all else fails, i'll just stick to the salsa party going on

 

[pygmalion]

It's certainly worth checking it out, especially if there's dancing involved. 8)

Actually, I think I'd probably be very good at speed dating. I can pretty much strike up a conversation with anyone quickly. It's no problem for me, since I'm such an extrovert. I can see where it'd be a nightmare for some people, though. :?

 

[BrookeErin]

My counselor has a rigorous training regimen of dating lined up for me in another month or two, so I might be learning for myself how those things are run.

:lol: I'm the counselor suggesting the same to one of my clients

 

[peachexploration]

You can't tell if you will love someone in 8 minutes. But you can tell if you won't..

That's quite true, Bob. :lol:

 

[Sagitta]

My counselor has a rigorous training regimen of dating lined up for me in another month or two, so I might be learning for myself how those things are run.

:lol: I'm the counselor suggesting the same to one of my clients

I wonder if you are seeing each other...hmmm...


never done, don't think will do..

 

[DWise1]

My counselor has a rigorous training regimen of dating lined up for me in another month or two, so I might be learning for myself how those things are run.

:lol: I'm the counselor suggesting the same to one of my clients

I wonder if you are seeing each other...hmmm...


never done, don't think will do..

Not unless she's spoofing her location and posting somebody else's picture as her avatar.

Besides, my counselor is not a dancer. Though she's starting to show some interest and keeps mentioning movies she's seen with dancing in it and asking me whether that's what I do.

 

[pygmalion]

Good luck with the dating scene, Dwise1. Sounds like your counselor's a wise lady. 8)