Stolen from Salsa forum: What are we missing?
- Thread starter spectator
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I have grown so weary of people who are content to live in their little bubbles. There is an entire WORLD out there, and many dancers (and *gasp* TEACHERS) are more knowledgeable and skilled than you! Don't content yourself to slip into the 'comfort zone' of your little milonga hang-out where all the newbies say you're 'really great.' For God's sake, expand your horizons! LEARN!!!!! Why are people afraid to LEARN???? Why avoid a class when you are too wrapped up in the fear that others around you might see you struggle to expand, to learn?
Pride needs to take a back seat. Otherwise, you are there for another reason, and I (and others) are NOT impressed.
I'm serious.
Okay, I'll step off my little soap box now.
spectator
Member
You see that girl across the room who keeps winking and wiggling her eyebrows at you?
and now, oh look, she's holding up a sign... can't quite read... oh yes now I can because she's shining a torch on it... "i want to dance with you salsamale will you meet me on the floor? nod your head if you are on your way..."
Dave Bailey
Active Member
See, women love the cabaceo 'coz it's the exact way they communicate all the time.
Men hate it, for the same reason.
That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.
spectator
Member
How dare you not know exactly what I'm thinking?????
What the hell is wrong with you? If you don't know why I'm upset I'm not going to tell you...
etc etc.
things i have heard/ inferred from women or from... sulky men?
Always makes me laugh...
If she's winking and blowing kisses she wants to dance with you.
What the hell is wrong with you? If you don't know why I'm upset I'm not going to tell you...
etc etc.
things i have heard/ inferred from women or from... sulky men?
Always makes me laugh...
If she's winking and blowing kisses she wants to dance with you.
newbie
Well-Known Member
Once saw in a milonga a young lady circling around the dance-floor, walking slowly.
"What is she doing?" I asked to my neighbour after she passed us, "exercizing her walk ?"
"She was trying to get dances."
Doh.
Yeah I was at a nice milonga this weekend and doing an awful lot of sitting at the beginning - my fault for choosing a table rather removed from the crowd, but I was enjoying watching others dance. Once I got the bug and couldn't take it anymore I went and grabbed a man up by the scruff. 
Then I got asked to dance loads of times after that. I think sometimes when you're sitting alone and away from the action, guys assume you don't wanna' dance, yes?
Then I got asked to dance loads of times after that. I think sometimes when you're sitting alone and away from the action, guys assume you don't wanna' dance, yes?LOL! She was just... wandering around? Waiting to be picked up? This is a dance social, not a street corner!
AzureDreamer
New Member
She probably got a LOT of dances though. "Normal Guy" psychology will always be to take the easiest option available. For example, if a guy sees two girls that he thinks would be nice to dance with... 99.8% of the time he will ask the CLOSEST one... and someone STANDING is also much easier to ask (and more likely to accept) than someone sitting.
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but the original question.... "People who are -playful- when dancing"
bastet
Active Member
"...but the original question.... "People who are -playful- when dancing"
*sigh* We don't get much of this in my area. Only one or two. Most of the leaders seem to be a a little stodgy and a repressive around here, the kind that think if you do a carisias (sp?) you've just done an unled boleo...kind of kills the playfullness in a person...
*sigh* We don't get much of this in my area. Only one or two. Most of the leaders seem to be a a little stodgy and a repressive around here, the kind that think if you do a carisias (sp?) you've just done an unled boleo...kind of kills the playfullness in a person...
Peaches
Well-Known Member
*sighs contentedly*
We've got one lead who's so unbelievably playful. I love dancing with him (and, luckily for me, he seems to like dancing with me as well). He's just the absolutely sweetest, most good natured, playful guys. I first met him a while ago when I was still pretty new to it. He had the best attitude when I'd mess up (would make a joke of it, and usually try to get me to mess up again...but led...so it wasn't really "messing up"), and has consistently asked me to dance since then. Nice not to be written off as beginner, but to have someone encourage you like that.
Sometimes we'll just get to playing around to the point where both of us have a hard time dancing b/c we're laughing too much. This past weekend I messed up a gancho early into a tanda, which was immediately met with a cry of "Dissention in the ranks!!!" It was all down hill from there.
*sigh* Good times.
We've got one lead who's so unbelievably playful. I love dancing with him (and, luckily for me, he seems to like dancing with me as well). He's just the absolutely sweetest, most good natured, playful guys. I first met him a while ago when I was still pretty new to it. He had the best attitude when I'd mess up (would make a joke of it, and usually try to get me to mess up again...but led...so it wasn't really "messing up"), and has consistently asked me to dance since then. Nice not to be written off as beginner, but to have someone encourage you like that.
Sometimes we'll just get to playing around to the point where both of us have a hard time dancing b/c we're laughing too much. This past weekend I messed up a gancho early into a tanda, which was immediately met with a cry of "Dissention in the ranks!!!" It was all down hill from there.
*sigh* Good times.