Stopping in the middle of a dance?

Interesting. I have actually never walked away from a dance because I was being hurt. I just suffered through the dance and resolved never to dance with the guy again.

The two times I have left a guy on the floor were because he was being unimaginably creepy. Both of them were older. One of them was staring at my chest and appeared to be touching his own genitals while dancing. The other one was trying to dance a cha-cha way too close in this weird, jiggling, I-don-t-know-how-to-dance way while staring fixedly at my right kneecap. That was the one where I overreacted to the injury. (The first one I left without an excuse.)
 
Oh.dear.god. That's just...ICK!!!!!

I hope you told management or something about the first guy. Sounds like the guy is a genuine problem they need to deal with.

Eeeew. Makes me feel icky just reading that.
 
yep...oh...oooow...sorry.....somehow I've hurt something badly...it might pass...but for now I need to sit down...insert speeding car emoticon here
 
Peaches said:
Oh.dear.god. That's just...ICK!!!!!

I hope you told management or something about the first guy. Sounds like the guy is a genuine problem they need to deal with.

Eeeew. Makes me feel icky just reading that.
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Tell me about it. It makes me feel icky remembering it. No, I did not tell management. First of all I should have been a little more cautious as I already know that venue is populated by creepy guys. Second of all I never saw that particular creep again anyway. (Although I don't go to that venue frequently and when I do I make sure to bring a male dance friend.)

Interestingly, neither creep actually asked in such a way as to give me the opportunity to turn him down. They both just took my hands and started dancing with me. This is pretty rude in itself IMHO and I should have torn away from them right away, but in both cases I was so surprised and taken aback that I just went along.
 
I had a guy in Chicago watch me do a really sexy bachata with a guy who really knew how to bachata, so decided that he could have his way with me on the dance floor, literally. He got right up close, kept doing this seizure-like vibration up against me (he was really short too, and I'm really tall), and then he took me down into this dip and started DRY-H***ING ME. I couldn't get up cuz he had me past my point of balance. I was disguuuuusted and when he finally lifted me, he went in for a kiss and i slapped him in the face and turned around and walked away. First time I've ever done that. Only time I've had to. Uuuugh.

As far as leaving a dude on the dance floor, I've been pretty clear about the foot hurting. I got a toenail hit (the big one) by a frankenshoe. The nail later came off. It hurt so much I really DID go down, I was so tired and mad from being exhausted, and having been hit in the face the previous week that I just lost it and went to the bathroom. The guy isn't a bad guy... he's quite nice actually. He just needed to be more aware of his feet. He's very cautious about asking me to dance now, and I actually have to ask HIM to dance if I ever feel like mending fences.
 
Seems like intent is important in how to respond? I've been tagged with many elbows in the chest or face and the lady sure didn't intend to whack me while doing her turn. I've had a number of ladies catch me with their heal and I don't think any of them were part of the DF death by stiletto attack team :D
 
mamboqueen said:
You_are_hurting_me. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is. You can't be responsible for how he feels once you tell him; life is too short to suffer through it!
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In my opinion this is the best,why let a person go on and on in there bad/poor/ill manered call it what you will,at least you give a person a chance to know and we dont hide with silly, fake lies,its (there problem) they are hurting you..tell the truth.sure sometimes in public we dont like to do this i know, but i think we have too and im speaking more (for you ladies) im a guy and i had some women hurt me and never said mum but if its a repeat thing im a gona tell
 
We had a guy once at the studio who was attending classes, learning to dance, but he'd then he'd come to our parties and start dancing stupid. Jumping around, pulling and jerking on arms, and doing nothing of what he'd learned. Nothing ballroom whatsoever. He'd even yeehaw and such. It was embarrassing. The first time he did this to me, I did stop in the middle of the dance and told him that if he wasn't going to dance what he'd learned, then don't bother asking me to dance anymore and I exited the dance floor. He was more than shocked, though I was very nice and quiet about it...

After that, he would still ask me to dance and always did his best to dance well. With me anyway.

And we remained friends.
 
thespina13 said:
I had a guy in Chicago watch me do a really sexy bachata with a guy who really knew how to bachata, so decided that he could have his way with me on the dance floor, literally.
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Oh yuk thespina. That is an awful story. Bleh.

I've noticed this effect too. I have one dance friend that I like to get really flirty with - we are most definitely just-friends but know each other well, have danced a lot, and we probably look a bit over-the-line to outsiders.

(Lately we have developed this game where the point is to pinch the other person's rear end during the dance. Rules are that pinching 1) cannot interrupt the lead/follow and 2) must fit gracefully into the flow of the dance.)

Strangers watch me dance with this guy, then come ask me for a dance and try to do the same thing. Ick!! First of all they usually can't dance a tenth as well as my flirty friend, and second of all I don't want to dance that way with someone I don't know, regardless of dance ability. Ick, ick, ick.
 
noobster said:
Oh yuk thespina. That is an awful story. Bleh.

I've noticed this effect too. I have one dance friend that I like to get really flirty with - we are most definitely just-friends but know each other well, have danced a lot, and we probably look a bit over-the-line to outsiders.

(Lately we have developed this game where the point is to pinch the other person's rear end during the dance. Rules are that pinching 1) cannot interrupt the lead/follow and 2) must fit gracefully into the flow of the dance.)

Strangers watch me dance with this guy, then come ask me for a dance and try to do the same thing. Ick!! First of all they usually can't dance a tenth as well as my flirty friend, and second of all I don't want to dance that way with someone I don't know, regardless of dance ability. Ick, ick, ick.
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women do the same, perhaps i"ll dance sexy with a girl then some newbie or someone who"s not part of the dance world will start grinding on me etc.. ehhhhhh ick ick for me too
 
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