Stuff I'd like to comment on...
This is from some 15 year old sweep of what I thought were good source of information on AT.
Apilado Style - See Milonguero Style. The term Apilado can be interpreted loosely as “put yourself forward” for the leader or “lean towards the leader” for the follower, which describes the kind of close embrace used by the milongueros from the centre of Buenos Aires. As the dancers lean towards each other (more or less according to preference) they share a third axis, creating, vertically from the heels, a /\ formation in which the apex of the /\ corresponds to the upper part of both bodies where the couple are in contact. In addition the follower embraces the leader by putting her left arm around his neck towards his left shoulder.
This is how I think of apilado, as does Tangogal.
The partners are leaning towards each other and are at tipping point or beyond. They require complete trust so as not to fall.
It's awful hard to know for sure from the outside, if a couple is there. You can sure feel it, though, from the inside.
In an apilado embrace the two vertical lines from COG to the floor, which are separate when partners dance on their own axis, merge into one; making the use of the term "single axis" appropriate. Also note, though, that each dancer still has an axis from their COG to the "point of contact" with the floor.
And I think the scientific heavy hitters have something to say about that, too, as do I.
It sounds like Susanna Miller has gone through some sort of evolution in her teaching. The part about no step until you can't feel her is in direct contrast to what I've read for years about Portenas (sp) not moving until there is enough "energy directed towards them." (I think my dance was far enough along when I had my limited experience in BA that I didn't really notice. )