Re: Sack of cement
In my experience with argentinean followers (and interestingly enough followers who just came back from trips to BA) they indeed seem to go for a somewhat heavier lead - though i wouldn't call it manhandling. It is more provinding a grounded, solid connection to the floor for the leader through her body.
For me this larger degree of resistance feels actually very nice - the connection is more solid, and i feel like i can place her feet to the milimeter where i want to place them, or if she does an adornment i still know exactly where her weight and balance is at any point of time.
It is to me much more trust inspiring than followers who i can't feel when they follow. I have danced with a few followers where i had absolutely no tactile feedback telling me which foot they were on, or how far they were stepping, or anything, and it was deeply disconcerting - i was continously afraid of stepping on their feet. Especially when i try to do sandwiches, or saccadas, or set up off axis turns i prefer if i don't have to look down to check where her feet exactly are.
But as kiero said, there is a huge difference between "providing more resistance allowing for a more dynamic dance" and "hanging on the leader and needing to be moved around". It is in some ways the exact opposite of being heavy. I have no idea how they teach this in argentina, but it is a very distinct feeling. It is in some ways exactly like the standard walking exercise for women - i provide forward pressure, and the leg without weight extends, and extends, and the tension builds till the foot grounds, and as a leader i can feel this as if my own foot had hit the ground, and then the tension transforms into smooth movement of the center. Every beginner class i have been stresses this quality of movement, but i didn't experience what it can feel like for a leader until the time i danced with a friend of mine who just had returned from a 4 week tango vacation. It was really eye opening, and it vanished after her being back here for a while, and now she is as light and responsive as she was before, and a wonderful dancer, but i miss that energy.
Gssh