To date or not to date... is it specific to tango?

bastet said:
but almost everyone i know who has a regular partner (whether they are dating or not) says they argue about dancing....
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Haha...so true it hurts :)

I guess it's just like anything else in life...

- if you're lucky, you meet someone that's "no assembly required", rabid about dancing and generally pleasant to be around (to you anyway :)

- if you're lucky, you'll meet someone that sees the value in learning something together, is not overly critical, and makes a concerted effort to give *constructive criticism (and shut up the other 98% of the time).

As for me and mine...

Otherwise blissful life - the only thing that ever causes friction in our relationship is tango...precisely the points where we find ourselves incapable of "working out" a move, and where the conjecture begins.

What you want to hear is, "ok honey - let's do it your way"
What you end up hearing is, "No that's wrong, this is your part"
How you end up interpreting it, "2 yrs of private lessons and you can't do a simple gancho!!!! whatsa matta with you!!!"

And yes, I'm less critical with social dance partners, but when I dance with my partner partner, it takes a constant effort not to misinterpret what's being said. I'd like to say we're doing it the right way, because it's 6 months later and we're still taking classes together, and it's still one of the many things we look forward to doing together as a couple :)

fwiw
 
Woud I date a Tanguero

No. I wouldn't. A friend of mine earlier this year confessed his feelings towards me. It came as no surprise as I'd often times witness the mood if I didn't have the "last dance" with him or if I'd arrive back at the sofa beaming after a good dance. In the car drive home from a milonga one evening I detected a mood. I barely got out of the car and he was already tearing off down the road. Some days later he explained the reason behind his mood. I firmly explained that I did not feel the same way and that friendship is all he'd get from me. I left my local class and joined another and have limited myself to just one milonga outting with him a week. The others are now spent with my tango'ing girlfriends or by myself. I love dancing with different guys - no matter their race, age, size or even their level. Where is the learning (for me that is) if I commit myself to one dancer only. What say, an Antonio Banderas look-alike/dance-alike was to approach me and 20 minutes lates we're still exchanging sweat. The last thing I need to be worrying about is my husband/boyfriend glaring over from the sidelines. Ha, ha, ha.
 
Oooooh lemmie start the list!

1. Alan Rickman


*swoon*
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It may be detonating a bomb to say this here, but the divine Mr. Rickman actually can tango. There's a group (I've forgotten the name of it; I think it's because I'm jealous of the lead singer b/c she danced with him) -- they're Scottish, I think, and Dallas Austin directed a video of theirs where they're picked up in a chauffeured Jag and go to a gas station at what looks like 3 in the morning and tango. Then the Jag drops him back at his flat and takes her wherever else she was going. If I had known they ere shooting, I think I would have been sitting right there on the steps waiting for him to get back.

I'll try and find the link for the video.
 
basicarita said:
It may be detonating a bomb to say this here, but the divine Mr. Rickman actually can tango.
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The track is "In demand", by the band Texas (yes, they're Scottish!), and there's a video here:
http://video.leakynews.com/video/show/219

The tango stuff starts at about 2.15 minutes into the video - it's not really tango, it's just lots of dramatic looks and so on. Hmmm, maybe that is real tango :)

Although Alan Rickman definitely has "the look" in that vid.

The only celeb I know who's passionate about AT is Clive James, but I can't see many women swooning so much over him.
 
The celeb that I know of that truly studies, knows, and dances tango is Robert Duvall
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Whoa. :cool:

Speaking of tango and "The Godfather", I had a lesson once with Paul Pellicoro (one of the studios' claims to fame is that he's the man who "taught Al Pacino to tango" for "Scent of a Woman"). I don't generally tango (salsa/lindy and jazz/modern), but that lesson was pretty smooth.
 
basicarita said:
Speaking of tango and "The Godfather", I had a lesson once with Paul Pellicoro (one of the studios' claims to fame is that he's the man who taught Al Pacino to "tango" for "Scent of a Woman"). I don't generally tango (salsa/lindy and jazz/modern), but that lesson was pretty smooth.
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Fixed your quotes. ;)
 
I think there are more dating-dancer threads in the salsa forum than anywhere. Salsa is built to be a courtship thing I think. Definitely a flirt thing. Definitely sexy. It happens all the time. Dating runs rampant amongst salser@s. Marriage? Happens lots too... but I wouldn't be too sure of the stability of some of those marriages.
 
Really? I find most of the salser@s I know are perpetually single. It is like they are married to the dance. They spend all their free time dancing, dating another salsa addict would be too messy and they'll never find a non-dancer who would tolerate a relationship with someone who spends five nights a week caressing other people's sweaty bodies.

Tango, I can't tell what's going on since I'm really not in the scene yet. The crowd is definitely on the older side though. Maybe they're over all this business already. Then again, maybe not.

For me personally: when I started dancing I was in a relationship that has since tanked, for reasons mostly unrelated to the dancing. Now I am kind of in the same place as all the rest of the single salser@s out there. I am having too much fun dancing to want to give up any of my dance time towards nurturing a real relationship.
 
Not many young, sexy men tango in the places I do. It is a tragedy... How can we entice some lovelies into the lessons and then get them to stay?
 
jfm said:
Not many young, sexy men tango in the places I do. It is a tragedy... How can we entice some lovelies into the lessons and then get them to stay?
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you can seduce them. just pick anyone, and make up a rule - for every 5 hours he pracitces his skills on the floor, he can have an hour in the bed ;)
 
noobster said:
Really? I find most of the salser@s I know are perpetually single. It is like they are married to the dance. They spend all their free time dancing, dating another salsa addict would be too messy and they'll never find a non-dancer who would tolerate a relationship with someone who spends five nights a week caressing other people's sweaty bodies.

Tango, I can't tell what's going on since I'm really not in the scene yet. The crowd is definitely on the older side though. Maybe they're over all this business already. Then again, maybe not.

For me personally: when I started dancing I was in a relationship that has since tanked, for reasons mostly unrelated to the dancing. Now I am kind of in the same place as all the rest of the single salser@s out there. I am having too much fun dancing to want to give up any of my dance time towards nurturing a real relationship.
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sigh! me too :(
 
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