I really enjoyed reading everyone's posts on the matter. It was educational to hear the guys' side. For the follow (at least for me), the amount of analysis during dancing is inversely proportional to the quality of dancing. You can't think and follow at the same time, especially if you'r trying to follow the lead and the music at the same time. So maybe it's easier to play for the follow, provided that the lead lets her. He supplies the structure and she has the freedom to do whatever, as long as it fits, at least on some level, with what he's doing and the music. Doesn't sound so free when I write it down, but somehow we manage. :lol:
I think the idea that the woman's part is necessarily less creative is a misconseption. True, her ability to express herself depends on the sensitivity and the skill of her lead. Sometimes the lead is such a control freak that we couldn't play no matter how much we want to, and sometimes he's so tentative that we're afraid to play and intimidate him further. But when the lead is understanding and plays the give-and-take game right, we have all the freedom in the world, because the kind of structure he imposes is not there to limit us, it is to provide the framework within which we can elaborate and improvise, along with him. This is painfully difficult to describe in words, because words are the farthest thing from my mind when it's actually happening. Maybe that's why it's such a joy--when else do we get a chance to gracefully say nothing in a social setting?