Way of doing things...

I agree with the others Squirrel. Hold your head high and don't say anything. It can be frustrating but "an ugly person can't insult a beautiful woman".

Who is the teacher that will be doing the workshops? Is there a student that you are good terms with who you could ask for feedback from?
 
Wow - what a petty insecure jealous man!

You're better off not being around him.

And I think it's better to turn the other cheek. He'll get his in the end even if you don't retaliate and go down to his level.
 
I'd agree with everyone here and just say forget him! He sounds very petty and insecure. If he can't handle healthy competition and has to resort to personal attacks, then he is not worth your time.

If he has put restrictions on his students attending your class, then don't put any restrictions on your students. If they do decide to try him out and he gives them a hard time, you may even score some new students if his existing ones see his true side and are sick of his controlling attitude!
 
mambochino said:
hello dear lil squirrel, i just read your article. The best advice I can give you is that: Silence is GOLD. Keep on teaching and let him be.

The more he say, the more he is in self destruct mode. u know what i mean?!

Trust me, in time, things gonna go your way. Stay strong! :P
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mambochino is right. If you enter the argumant, you'll look just as bad as he does (even if all you do is defend yourself against his attacks.)

Stay cool. He'll destroy himself. In English, the expression goes, "give him enough rope to hang himself." In (I hope) universal translation, that means stay quiet, and give him freedom to say whatever he wants to say. Eventually, through the things he says and does, he'll destroy his own reputattion. Stay cool. You don't have to do anything. This situation will work out in your favor. 8)
 
I agree with what everyone is saying here. When people say revenge is sweet, that's not true in reality. Most of the time, it will backfire. And, why should WE go down to their level anyways? Just make sure you teach well, you are nice to everybody. A great instructor from Toronto told me once "don't worry, good people will attract good people." Which is true. They will see who is good or not. Why would we want to attract bad ones anyway? :wink: :wink:
 
Thank you guys for the support and advice...

I shall do as you suggested (one of the options I had anyway and teh best to my opinion).

I told people yesterday why I am not coming to the workshop (many asked - as instructors we have to set an example). And I told them the truth. "I was banned by the organiser"... they were all surprised at this attitude and couldn't believe it!

I am going to talk no more to people about him... And of course I have had my classes open to anybody and whoever wants to come, is welcome! (his girlfriend came once and she was treated with all due respect and we danced with her).

I'll keep you posted about the workshop.

But let me tell you one more thing: people weren't thrilled last night when the instructor came... they had a show (sort of) in our club. And they did some free style dancing... the songs (one of them was Dejate querer by El Canario) were not fast and had a romantic touch... still they did fast footwork and lots of complicated moves... I was sort of dissapointed...

Then I talked to the people around... ours is a very small yet very competitive scene... people are impressed by Mayan-type dancers... and all said they didn't really like the dancers... :( . They needed a show... and the instructor and organisers made the mistake of not giving them one... :(

I'll say more when I find out what happened :)
 
But let me tell you one more thing: people weren't thrilled last night when the instructor came... they had a show (sort of) in our club. And they did some free style dancing... the songs (one of them was Dejate querer by El Canario) were not fast and had a romantic touch... still they did fast footwork and lots of complicated moves... I was sort of dissapointed...
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Well there are more than 1 way to express the music. but this is another subject.

Most viewers/patrons like to see some kinda flashy show or some kinda shock and awe hollywood dips & flips. May be you can bring those kinds of performers to your town. Folks like Salamon & Liz Lira, Melissa Fernandez & Luis Vasquez, Francisco Vazquez and Monica. :P
 
Just read this thread now and that seems like a pretty childish, insecure person who will most likely end up losing all his friends and students if he continues like this. My first reaction would be to invest in some hand grenades and go over and give him a surprise attack, but my better judgement would stop me and make me realize that this insignificiant little person is not worth it(and grenades don't run cheap nowadays...). Raluca, it seems you have a good grip on yourself and your life and have many who respect you as an instructor, and a littel dweeb like that should not or could not have any influence on your life. It is a shame that he is telling things to your students behind your back but in the end, they will figure out who is the genuine person and who is the tale-telling slimeball. We're rooting for you! Don't give in! :D
 
cocodrilo said:
My first reaction would be to invest in some hand grenades and go over and give him a surprise attack, but my better judgement would stop me and make me realize that this insignificiant little person is not worth it(and grenades don't run cheap nowadays...).
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:lol: :lol: :lol:
 
I think I owe you guys an update:

My partner and I were not allowed in the end... the same was valid for another school in Timisoara (for the instructors).

4 of my students went... they were pleased with it...

And I am pleased I remained a lady! :)

Thanks for your advice and support!
 
You were barred from attending? :shock: Oh my goodness. There is absolutely no limit to some people's bad manners. :x I'm glad you feel good about yourself. Everything will come out fine in the end -- maybe not yet, but eventually.
 
I couldn't say it better myself.

Sagitta said:
We are with you Raluca! :friend: :together:
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/luc


ps.

I have heard a rumour that a male and a female teacher in my town has the same kind of sweet relationship. But here it is the lady that is the dancementor. I guess the secret is in the business and creativness. They fight like cat and dog.....
 
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