What about your prof?
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quixotedlm
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DragonFyre
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The instructors at my school make it a point to seek out beginners and dance with them during social nights out. They also do ask the more advanced dancers and that’s when they up the ante dance-wise. We’re all also free to ask them to dance anytime – but they are free to say no: eg if they need to cool down, was about to ask someone else, don’t like the song – we don’t take it personally. Of course, we don’t monopolise them either so we don’t ask them to dance 3-4 times in a night – it wouldn’t be fair to the other students.
Personally, I would have stopped classes with an instructor who danced with everyone else but me, especially if I’m taking private classes. But I would also ask him straight out why he was being discriminatory. You never know, it may be for a reason that never even crossed your mind, like he’d gotten the idea you have a crush on him or something which is why he’s avoiding you.
Like, one recent night out my instructor asked me to dance and I commented that it was a rare thing for him to do so (it seemed for months that I was the one asking him to dance all the time), and he replied that it seemed every time he turned around I was already on the floor. That possibility had never occurred to me. So, I guess you never know until you ask. But be prepared in case it's an answer you don't like!
Personally, I would have stopped classes with an instructor who danced with everyone else but me, especially if I’m taking private classes. But I would also ask him straight out why he was being discriminatory. You never know, it may be for a reason that never even crossed your mind, like he’d gotten the idea you have a crush on him or something which is why he’s avoiding you.
Like, one recent night out my instructor asked me to dance and I commented that it was a rare thing for him to do so (it seemed for months that I was the one asking him to dance all the time), and he replied that it seemed every time he turned around I was already on the floor. That possibility had never occurred to me. So, I guess you never know until you ask. But be prepared in case it's an answer you don't like!
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BugBear
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My instructors dance all the time. Sometimes it's hard to keep them off the floor 
And still one of the female instructors was complaining lately that we rarely ask her to dance. Especially on bachatas...
Still I love dancing with her. She's so easy to lead and such a hottie!
Her sister - the other instructor - mostly dances with her husband or with her partner.
And still one of the female instructors was complaining lately that we rarely ask her to dance. Especially on bachatas...Still I love dancing with her. She's so easy to lead and such a hottie!
Her sister - the other instructor - mostly dances with her husband or with her partner.
saludas
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As long as you realize that instructors are at a social as a paid business situation, and not for the same reasons you are, then go ahead and 'dance' with the instructor. Otherwise, please remember that the instructor dances at an entirely different plane than you do, has his own social circle, and is there for the money. The salesmanship of a techer at a social cannot be underestimated, even if the teacher never says a word to the student about more lessons...
Josh
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I agree with the overall gist of your post saludas... but I know many instructors including myself who go to salsa socials primarily for the fun of it. Will some business come from it? Perhaps. But that's not the point.