What attributes of women attract men at a social dance

[bordertangoman]

As someone who prone to procrastination and indecision I find the best way is to start in one corner of the room and work from left to right.
Thus all the issues of will she won't she or is she the one I want to dance with. I spend ALL my evening on the dance floor only stoppping for refeshment or if I need a break.

Pamela Lee Anderson is not to my taste. Now if it was Jerry Ryan that would be a different matter entirely

 

[KevinL]

Guys are guys, and we would probably pick the cute one over the homely one everytime, if all things were equal but that.

Sure, if all things are equal, I'll ask someone I think is "cute" before I'll ask someone who I think is "not cute". But all things are never equal.

Oh, and I also use the, "ask my way around the room" strategy as well.

Kevin

 

[tsb]

Come on guys . . . tell the truth!

If a Pamela Lee Anderson look-alike was at a dance wearing a miniskirt the length of a woman's belt and a crop top that was cut to her waist and her boobs falling out the bottom . . . we'd all be breaking our necks to get over there, in-line, to ask her dance.

Guys are guys . . . no matter waht you say . . . and if you say you wouldn't do this, you're full of BS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

when there's a really attractive woman (and generally a complete beginner), i generally let the 'wolfpack' descend and do their five dances in a row/try to teach thang, wait until they're done and get a single dance in near the end of the evening, no teaching, just simple figures that they can be lead through smoothly. more often than not i get an email address or phone # before they leave. even when not, invariably they look for me on a subsequent evening.

The attire you describe is culturally unacceptable for the kind of social dances I attend. (Unless of course everyone else was mostly naked too, but I don't really see myself ever attending such a function.)

some of the women i see at certain salsa venues dress pretty provocatively. i suspect they wear more when they come home and go to sleep! but i tend to avoid asking these women to dance, regardless of how attractive they are. that midwestern (ohio) upbringing, i think.

 

[Jmatthew]

- I do not perceive someone sitting down as wanting to dance, particularly someone sitting and talking with a group of other women. I am much more likely to ask someone standing near the dance floor and looking around for a partner herself.

That's probably the biggest pet peave I have. Girls who sit in a back corner chatting then get upset because they don't get asked to dance. If you want to dance, be on the floor. The only time I'll ask someone sitting and chatting is if I know them well enough that's forgive-able for me to interupt.

As for a super-sexy dancer...

You know, I might be a freak. Honestly. Maybe. Or Maybe it's just the Lindy scene. But hottie-ness is definately not any kind of consideration for me when it comes to who I dance with. I certainly NOTICE when the girl I'm dancing with is a hottie, but I'm certainly not going to work to get to the hot girl to dance with her. I'd MUCH rather dance with a decent follow than the hottest girl in the most revealing clothes who's only dance skill is grinding herself against me.

Now, if she wants to get together AFTER the dance, that's another story. But when I'm dancing I'm dancing, and what I like in a girl is good dancing.

 

[youngsta]

Come on guys . . . tell the truth!

If a Pamela Lee Anderson look-alike was at a dance wearing a miniskirt the length of a woman's belt and a crop top that was cut to her waist and her boobs falling out the bottom . . . we'd all be breaking our necks to get over there, in-line, to ask her dance.

Guys are guys . . . no matter waht you say . . . and if you say you wouldn't do this, you're full of BS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can call me full of BS if you want but on my salsa nights all I care about is great dancing. The girl you described wouldn't attract my attention as a dancer...period.

Now if I was at one of those meat market clubs hanging with the guys she (not Pamela Lee, say Kate Beckensdale :lol: ) would catch my eye for sure.

 

[NeoDevin]

Now we just need a club that combines the meat market, and the good dancing...

 

[Vin]

Sorry to bust your bubble, but Pamela Anderson is ugly. Britney Spears on the other hand...

PS. Yes I do sometimes choose dance partners because they're good looking girls about my age, I'm not trying to deny that.

The other great thing about Britney is that she will be able to dance.

 

[mhgroove]

Attract men? As in what do we look for in a dance or in a woman?
I too agree that our opinions here will be bit on the unrealistic side as opposed to the regular man frequenting clubs. Most males only care to play “free-eels” (Free feels) with the ladies, hence going for the easier/sexier looking ladies. God, that reminds me that the other night, I extended my hand out to a lady for a dance and she grabbed it and rubbed it all over her road bumps. Man!!! YUCK!!!!! What up girl, stop drinking ( I didn’t know she was drinking until I smelled her breath)

I'm never one to believe that the leaders are the sole reason a woman sits the night out. If you look uninviting, you will sit there for the rest of the night.

I ask women who are obviously there to dance, and I don’t mean the ones sitting in the last seat against the back wall with her arms crossed with an “ I don’t want to be here face”. Make yourself inviting, move up next to the floor, show some life…

If you don’t have dance shoes on, or proper attire to dance with, you’ll be sitting all night. I’m here to dance not look at your sexy thigh-high dress and strap-less shoes.

If I see you dance, and you look like it is the last place you want to be on earth, I won’t be asking you to dance.

If you haven’t danced all night, I’m going to think that you might just be there for watching entertainment. How about taking the initiative and letting everyone know that you are ready to get it on…

Dancing community is very small, if you are snot, complain about leaders, are a rough follow, are a solo dancer, have horrible hygiene, Imma choose to stay away from you this night.

Don’t let me catch you having a new drink every time I look your way. You’ll be watching the rest of the night too.

If you are a shy person, then lets not blame others for the issues we have. This is about dancing, if you are as eager to dance as you say you are, then get up and do something about it. Don’t just sit there and complain with a mean face that no one dances with you, because you haven’t shown interest to dance with anyone either.

You can even do what shy girls do to me. They stand besides me and tap their feet, or walk around me until I get the hint that they want to dance with me. Gosh, why not just ask, what is all the pride/shyness about?

Boriken..that 1st paragraph in this post was too funny! I just laughed out loud when I read it.

I have to agree with Vince A...guys are guys! If there's a beautiful women..most men are going to want dance with her.

However, I like women who are approachable and wants to dance. Also, a woman who enjoys dancing, has a great attitude, and dress nicely.

 

[Genesius Redux]

I was at a studio where one unspoken expectation of the more advanced male students was that they'd be around to dance with the ladies at parties and would make the rounds. I was, in fact, introduced to a new student by one of the instructors at one point as "one of our more advanced males." I practically howled with laughter and said, "You make me sound like I'm in your breeding program."

My criteria--looks friendly, and looks like she won't fall and break her hip if we do a tuck turn. Dancing really is dancing for me. Footwear is really a key signal--but there's an open body language as well. Would I be falling over myself if some super model walked in, clambering to dance with her with all the desperation of the Average Joe? Not really. Because I'll tell you what, she's going to lean on my left arm, collapse her frame, insist on looking into my eyes on a waltz and everywhere else in a rumba, and spend the whole dance trying to stay in her slides and getting stepped on. That sounds like a nightmare.

Will I flirt with her *off the floor*? Maybe. That depends on whether she has anything interesting to talk about--but I don't think I'm going to be believed anyway!

 

[tsb]

boobs

in case of a water landing your partner can double as a flotation device. this of course is more relevant when the dance is on a plane or on the titanic. yes, it's late & i'm going to be drowsy during service tomorrow morning.

 

[Jack]

I'm not picky on who I ask to dance but, I do not ask a woman who is a lot more exp than I am at this point.maybe I should.

 

[cupojoe2]

I'm not picky on who I ask to dance but, I do not ask a woman who is a lot more exp than I am at this point.maybe I should.

I’m with Jack, I see the frustration in their eyes when I dance with advanced dancers… it makes me more nervous and more likely to screw up…

...but those close to my level seem more forgiving…

Now, on the other hand, if the woman asks me to dance, I don’t feel as nervous – I feel like they know what they are getting into… and are probably insured…. :wink:

 

[Bronzestudent]

As far as dancing goes, I'm more attracted to women that I am slightly intimidated by. If there's a girl who is obviously a great dancer, I think to myself "hey, she's really good, I want to dance with her." But I'm a little concerned because I don't want to goof on anything, and I want to give her the best dance I can, so it's a little intimidating. So I'm really attracted to skill and variety of moves on the floor (which has plenty to do with her leader too). The drawback is, until I actually know a little about the girl, and get in a couple decent dances with her, it's difficult to actually enjoy dancing with her. But it's eventually worth it.

 

[Sabor]

if i never seen her dance b4.. i would say its mostly here smile.. the one on her lips and more importantly the one in her eyes.. (i'm a good observer that way) .. on a dance floor i'm all senses .. my awareness increases many folds .. i notice every little thing to detail.. very exilirating .. enjoying the physical aspect is one thing.. the sensual is not that simple and easy.. its rarer.. more valuable .. value is what i like

 

[hobrien]

Need to get my input here,

Getting down to basics, in order of priority

1 Hygene; take a look in the mirror before you go out,
whould you want to dance with your equivalent, you should have fresh clothes, washed neat hair, be freshily showered, freshly flossed/brushed teeth(a real biggy for me!), smelling nice or smell free.

Really how important is it: VERY, I draw the line here.

2 Dancibility; Is she a good follower, does she grab me too tight, ok her skill plays a part here,

Really how important is it: Mmmm well 50/50, great if she is a good dancer, but I dance with beginneers on purpose too, I remember when I started, if a dancer danced with me it made my night !

2 Availibility; Yea it helps if she is "there",

Really how important is it: not so much, seriously though if I know her, and she is there I will wiggle my way in politely to get a dance.
If I dont know her but shes standing tapping her foot, ready centimeters from the dance floor edge then yes(as long as I feel the hygene issue is sorted).

If she is in the company of a guy who is not a dancer and obviously the current life partner, and who looks annoyed that they are there, then no (she should have left him at home).

If she is sitting down with arms folded looking grumpy, chances are small and slim, but it depends on the night and whos there. But as I said I always ask 2 or 3 beginners a night.

If she has been drinking more than a few.... no no.

If her name is Pamela Andersson, well if I spin her she is so top heavy she will fall over ! so no !. And if I was looking for meat I know where to go.

My personal ideal dance partner, well whe is as decribed above and about ten centimeters shorter than me, and slim (well I am a skinny guy of average height). She would also be latin looking, with longish but tied back hair. Well I can dream cant I !!! I am white and pale.
So would she dance with me.....well I can try and persuade her !

Sorry for the typos,

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