What single attribute do you most value in a follower?

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jon

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I was talking with my new favorite dance partner on the way home from a swing dance last night, and she asked something which I've translated into this topic.

This is kinda similar to the old What attributes of women attract men at a social dance, but rather than focusing on what makes you ask someone to dance, the question this time is, what single attribute do you most value in a follower? (followers, feel free to start a parallel thread asking the complementary question). I am trying to restrict it to a single attribute as otherwise we'll end up with an unprioritized laundry list of things we like about dancing with followers.
 
And to lead off...

My own answer is effortless connection on the dance floor - whether physical, emotional, or psychological connection.
 
Flexible arms; so much easier and smoother when executing certain turns. 8)

But not too much that you have "spagetti" arms.
 
Okay; along the same lines, I'm curious to know.....

Do leaders here tend to avoid a woman if she's married (and, for these purposes, the husband is a non-dancer).

I ask this because every now and then I bump into a leader who seems to avoid me, and we're pretty much at the same level, and he'll say "so where's your husband"? and I"m guessing that he doesn't feel comfortable dancing with a married woman. Maybe it's just my perception.....
 
mamboqueen said:
Okay; along the same lines, I'm curious to know.....

Do leaders here tend to avoid a woman if she's married (and, for these purposes, the husband is a non-dancer).
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Suggestion -

You should start a new thread for that topic. I'm sure there are others who would be interested in that subject - I would. You'll get a better response if it has a thread all to itself. :) (And this thread will stay on topic. :) )
 
jon said:
(followers, feel free to start a parallel thread asking the complementary question)
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Done :lol:.

I'm watching this thread with great interest. Leaders, keep your answers coming!
 
mamboqueen said:
Okay; along the same lines, I'm curious to know.....

Do leaders here tend to avoid a woman if she's married (and, for these purposes, the husband is a non-dancer).

I ask this because every now and then I bump into a leader who seems to avoid me, and we're pretty much at the same level, and he'll say "so where's your husband"? and I"m guessing that he doesn't feel comfortable dancing with a married woman. Maybe it's just my perception.....
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Probably true for a lot of guys.

Not exactly the same but... A friend was visiting me a few weeks ago, and when we were standing/sitting next to each other, no one would ask her to dance. As soon as I wasn't around she'd get all sorts of attention.

Guys tend to ask single/available women more, IMHO.
 
Danish Guy said:
mamboqueen said:
Do leaders here tend to avoid a woman if she's married (and, for these purposes, the husband is a non-dancer).
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Only if you are talking, holding hands or otherwise flashing a "do not disturb" sign.
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Totally agree with Danish Guy.
 
To answer the original question. The ability to have fun and actually enjoy the dance. Of course she should be able to stay on beat as well.
I try and give everyone a chance, maybe even a few chances but if I dance with someone who consistently seems bored or as if she is doing me a favor by dancing with me then I won't go back for more.
In my opinion dancing ability is just an added bonus, if she is good and has the ability to enjoy the dance then that is just better.
Even when I didn't have the best connection with someone if we were both laughing and smiling then the dances have been memorable and I will gladly dance with her again.
 
mamboqueen said:
Okay; along the same lines, I'm curious to know.....

Do leaders here tend to avoid a woman if she's married (and, for these purposes, the husband is a non-dancer).

I ask this because every now and then I bump into a leader who seems to avoid me, and we're pretty much at the same level, and he'll say "so where's your husband"? and I"m guessing that he doesn't feel comfortable dancing with a married woman. Maybe it's just my perception.....
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If the person is someone I know then I will dance with them. If I don't know either person I will not just approach a random girlfriend and ask for a dance.
 
jon said:
the question this time is, what single attribute do you most value in a follower? (followers, feel free to start a parallel thread asking the complementary question). I am trying to restrict it to a single attribute as otherwise we'll end up with an unprioritized laundry list of things we like about dancing with followers.
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Patience
 
Um-m-m-m-m . . . the tightness of those balck spandex pants ot how low-cut her top is . . . I'm J/K . . . none of that matters!

Her smile . . .
-A twinkle in her eyes . . .
-Whether I've danced with her before or not . . .
-If she looks like she can dance, she probably can . . .
-Doesn't appear to very "eager" or "hungry to dance," becasue she is probably a beginner who just got out of a group class and is ready to try something new . . .

And I don't care if she is with her husband who doesn't dance. If she is at a dance and is seated - she is there to dance. So ask her! She has already had a discussion about this with her huband.

Bottom line? If someone is there to dance . . . you should dance with her. No two followers are alike. Dancing with them can bring a smile to both your faces . . . plus give you added experience with various partners, which only makes you better!
 
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