what would you ask? what would you answer?

fascination said:
to be honest I wouldn't be terribly concerned about making a pro that I hadn't yet selected feel defensive
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My bigger concern would be getting truly honest answers. If you phrase it in such a way that either option can sound positive you can get an answer to a question like "are you late and frequently cancel lessons" without making them feel like they need to tell a lie or bend the truth to get your business.
 
well right, I'd never ask that.....IF I would ever ask, it would be much more like "you know I have had circumstances before where I danced with folks who I didn't realize had very different perspectives on what normal expectations look like so I was wondering if I could ask you a few things about your scheduling and your viewson cancellations, both yours and mine"....and only if I got the green light would I say something like "I was wondering how often you find yourself needing to call off...I understand that this can vary depending upon life circumstances, but I tend to be a person who really needs/likes a lot of continuity so I struggle with have alot of schedule changes"...it wouldn't be about not making them defensive, but it would be about explaining where I was coming from
 
One other item to scope out, if you are interested in competing with the Pro: first of all you need to know how *you* approach competitions, and then ask how the Pro approaches competitions. For instance, do you like to be in the ballroom way ahead of time to get a feel for the energy in the ballroom, or are you the kind that just wants to whiz in 10 minutes before your events line up? What is your Pro's view on that? It can become stressful if you and your Pro are mismatched in that way.
 
agree...although my pros and I have always been mismatched on that but I never expected company so it wan't an issue...now, if it is closing in on that half hour mark where they are supposed to be there and aren't, THAT will tend to stress me out ...but I agree that expectations like that can be important...my second pro didn't warm anyone up or speak much and students who cam to him from more doting environments had a difficult time adjusting.....
 
Cal said:
One other item to scope out, if you are interested in competing with the Pro: first of all you need to know how *you* approach competitions, and then ask how the Pro approaches competitions. For instance, do you like to be in the ballroom way ahead of time to get a feel for the energy in the ballroom, or are you the kind that just wants to whiz in 10 minutes before your events line up? What is your Pro's view on that? It can become stressful if you and your Pro are mismatched in that way.
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I've been mismatched with my pro on this too- but it would not be a deal breaker for me....everyone is allowed their little idiosyncrasies- some pros like to chat during comps in between rounds, another may not...some may like practice and warm ups before, another may not...etc... this is as individual as we are...speaking for myself, I take care of myself during comp and do not require hand holding or coddling...I also do not expect and do not get feedback during comps...we do that later, back in the studio, and I prefer it that way.
What's more important for me to know is how many comps and which ones he wants to go for...what entries, how many etc...and defining our expectations and goals before we go.
 
yep, I have to say, other than polite reminders of what could be easily corrected at a comp on the fly...things that I am capable of improving with just a reminder, I would prefer that the rest of the assessments during a comp be either positive or non-existant, otherwise they begin to yield a negative result
 
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