This is very personal, but maybe someone can relate. I haven't been told verbally anything extremely rude or mean for me to remember, but I have dated guys who would not dance with me at the clubs. They would dance with a range of women, so I know it was not because of my level of dancing. At first, I thought it was just a social thing, they wanted to dance with other friends. But after a while, it was hurtful. They were wonderful in private, but out at the club, they were not attentive. Obviously I am not dating these men anymore, and have learned my lesson.
Whats the meanest thing someone's ever said to you mid dance?
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cornutt
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SPratt74 said:
Well, there's two things that may look similar on the surface, but actually there's a huge difference between them. One is becoming a regular at a club or studio, getting to know a range of members of the opposite (preferred?) sex, and then at some point saying to one of them who seems favorably disposed, "I'd like to get to know you better". That's one thing. The other is going into a place for the specific purpose of walking out with a hookup. If one is looking for a potential mate, getting in with a good social group is an excellent way of doing it.
Going around hitting on people one has just met is a terrible way of doing it. 
cornutt said:Well, there's two things that may look similar on the surface, but actually there's a huge difference between them. One is becoming a regular at a club or studio, getting to know a range of members of the opposite (preferred?) sex, and then at some point saying to one of them who seems favorably disposed, "I'd like to get to know you better". That's one thing. The other is going into a place for the specific purpose of walking out with a hookup. If one is looking for a potential mate, getting in with a good social group is an excellent way of doing it.
That's true. I've been under both circumstances as most people have. So, I understand what you are saying.
Twilight_Elena
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hello said:
Those guys sound like players to me. Bastards. Don't feel bad, hello. They're not worth a dime.
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deewoman
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Dancedance said:
I guess this wasn't mean, but I didn't think it was very nice. Someone I was dancing waltz with said , "that was a develope' opportunity." I mentioned it to my group class teacher, and she said if he'd led it using contrabody motion like he should I'd have recognized it for what it was.
Shooshoo said:You can? I can't, so I assume all the players until proven otherwise.
It's a fine line to walk: I try not to judge other people by their first impressions, but I try not to be naive either. Funny, I did stay away from these guys at first, but over time, and certain circumstances, I gave them a chance, and still got burned! Interesting, one infamous player would flirt with my friend, and ignored me, so I thought he didn't like me. But one night about 9 months after I met him, he approached me in a very positive and seemingly sincere manner. I did see a very human side of him, he shared a lot of meaningful and personal information with me. That's what sucked me in! Well, never again. :headwall:
wooh
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I was having back problems for a while and worst part was I basically couldn't kick my left leg. Both my husband and dance teacher well aware of that, and reminded quite frequently when they'd forget. But they'd try leading me into "develope opportunities" constantly. So that would fall under probably meanest things done to me middance (and 1/3 in and 1/4 in and to end it and usually walking off the floor too. Stupid men!) (And I'm totally stealing that phrase, hmmm..."Oh crap, I missed a develope opportunity!" "Thanks so much for the develope opportunity!" Bwahahaha!!)
MacMoto
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I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a songTwilight_Elena said:
.When I went to a milonga, it felt strange that songs were soooo short. You have a wee walk, you start getting used to the lead, and the song's over. No wonder AT people dance three in a row with the same person...
Twilight_Elena
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MacMoto said:
Over here, our DJ plays songs that last 2-3 minutes. *shrug* Competitive style. :lol:
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MacMoto said:I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song
That is a normal length for a song lol. I was trying to find a short song for my Swing dance this coming weekend, and that was like pulling teeth. The maximum length he wanted was two minutes, and I was lucky that I found one that was a little above two minutes, which ended up working very well actually.
MacMoto said:I thought 5 minutes was a normal length for a song
When I went to a milonga, it felt strange that songs were soooo short. You have a wee walk, you start getting used to the lead, and the song's over. No wonder AT people dance three in a row with the same person...
In my salsa scene people still dance threes in a row with the same person even so the songs last 5 minutes each.
thespina13
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That's really regional. I hear they do that in Denver too. Oot here in Iowa (I know it's really happening), two songs is usually the max, and that's not consistent either. Even so, I still can't get one guy to dance with me. He insists it's because of my height. I dunno though...