What are the 5 top reasons that make a man ask a woman to dance? Beauty comes first?

LadyLeader said:
...One of our DJs started to play only 3 songs per tanda on practicas because he wanted to speed up the rotation. It was pity but his idea was not supported.
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I agree. I find that I dance more, and with more different partners, with 3-tune tandas. I think they mix the crowd better.
 
Zoopsia59 said:
And for those of us who don't, could you give us a few samples?
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Here is what Google Translate provided (with some minor edits).

Jon Milonguera!

MY space. MI catharsis. MY opinion.
Tango damn it give me much pleasure sometimes, and sometimes I just feel like cagarte to blows!

turn me bring me bring ME DANCE


November 12, 2010

Because a man takes you out but if you see "hello you re re"

You push the head
Warms your head
Esito is dancing with you.
Esito not dancing with you: s
The dance hall / milonga / new and you dance the opposite (see variations and crosses with each style)
This HUNTING
This caught * is married
Is the employer which fawn hiding in the bushes waiting for that nod to some "[baskside orifice]" and afraid.
Someone said he had something with you and as a male of the herd, who seeks another hermbra court. (Seek the turd you burned)
He does not like more
It apichona with your embrace.
Salis much on track and gets jealous (you you have to be petrified toooooooooooooooooda night waiting for him, if one now clear Galician contato!)
Fatten
Weight Loss
These too cute and sexy (as is well screwed up, while all the cabecearte huddle for you or recorded)
Do not stay comfortable for cabecearte.
Do not know nod
It has a diagram of pitching and you're in the position 21, wait che.
Just when you you see these scum with your friends and get angry, you do not understand because it gets you out the next 7 years! (Reason for this note back to the starting top)
Tenes [backside] face (it apichona more)
See that you fight with all the mines around.
You will have bad breath
You will have the smell of goat
You will have good smell and Esito
Very nice dance and Esito
He once claimed to not dance much and now I look like a 'desesperadita "
I shot wave (in their way and tells you you nor did you) and anger because they grabbed trip (re recalculate)
Got bored of dancing with you
Dancing evolved and you follow in the same.
Milonguiear got bored and now just going to jerk, suck morphs and sitting ...
You will not be singing.
This confident when you want cabecearte you going to come out (and rightly)
The next will not stop looking at it and is afraid that if you leave him you header from the other.
The back will not stop looking at it and is afraid that if you leave him you header from the other.
The front will not stop looking at it and is afraid that if you leave him you header from the other.
This former.
This current
Are all.
Smells like goat
This all sweaty and I'm ashamed that so touches the back wetback
Tired
Never saw
It is agreed that, to dance with you at another milonga.
It weights.
Do you hurt your hand.
You step
Knees collide
Planets collide? ... Better not get me out then, my life is pretty [crappy] to complicate us with love ...
​
 
Zoopsia59 said:
I don't think it is at all inappropriate to use tango as a subject to make small talk with strangers at an event where you are there to dance tango.
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I sometimes make conversation with strangers prior to asking them for a dance. Not so much to assess their standard of dancing but more to "break the ice" and to gauge whether they are looking for or open to a dance. Usually, especially if they are friendly, I would ask them for a dance (unless they appear busy/occupied/uninterested or indicated as such).
 
Hock Siew said:
I sometimes make conversation with strangers prior to asking them for a dance. Not so much to assess their standard of dancing but more to "break the ice" and to gauge whether they are looking for or open to a dance. Usually, especially if they are friendly, I would ask them for a dance (unless they appear busy/occupied/uninterested or indicated as such).
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Hock Siew, that sounds like a great approach! :cheers:
 
tangobro said:
For me, mastery is not the 1st reason, but beauty/or a very short mini-skirt are not even near the list.

1- I've danced with her before & feel we are compatible for the tanda being played.
2- I've seen her dance with other leaders who have a style I admire & I think we may be compatible.
3 - She seems available at the moment & responds to eye contact.
4 - She does not meet point 1 or 2, but the music is too nice to pass up a chance to dance, she seems willing & approachable, and meets point 3.
5 - We are friendly because we know each other from workshops or practicas and she meets point 3.
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bastet said:
I'm curious, just for my own edification and application for festival situations and so forth...

from what you imply in 4 and 5, you'd choose dancing with someone you don't know at all who is willing and approachable over someone you know from a class or workshop who is also friendly or approachable? That was how I read it.
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For me, when I want to dance, it sometimes depends on whom is available at the time. Sometimes, by the time you find the person whom you specifically wish to dance with, she might already be on the floor; or she might be unavailable (e.g. gone to get a drink, sitting it out, etc). I could just dance with whoever is the most easily available at the time, and dance with that other person later :)
 
LIFE IS TOO SHORT for all this argy bargy..

I go with the quote from The Liver Birds* (pronounced to match alive)
man: "Yer dancing?"
woman "yer asking?
man "I'm asking."
woman "I'm dancing."

The Liver Birds is a British situation comedy, set in Liverpool, Merseyside, North-West of England, which aired on BBC1 from 1969 to 1978
 
Dave Bailey said:
Right, this thread's a monster... OK, first things first.

That whole thing reads like something written by a man who wants women to think he's sensitive and caring. In other words, it's rubbish - I don't believe that "looks" come nowhere in the top 10.

My three criteria are, in this order:

  1. Attitude
  2. Ability
  3. Attractiveness
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Attitude and ability are broad categories, that I think the post tried to break down into less ambiguous categories, like the embrace, ability to follow, experience level, cabeceo, prior interactions, etc. While I might of added a few more selections to the poll, the word ability means different things to different people.

Out of curiosity, does attractiveness really matter to you, once you've danced with them? It doesn't to me. I'd much rather have the good embrace.

The funny thing is that some beginners (who might be perceived as young and pretty) figure out the embrace pretty quickly, and then get lots of dances over people that can do more steps. There are some "intermediate" dancers that either don't desire to, never learned, or don't remember how to simply give a good embrace and stay with their dance partner. Of course everyone is different, and that's one of the interesting things about tango, trying to adapt to who you are dancing with.

There are different strategies that people employ. Some will work hard to adapt to as many styles/preferences as possible, and thus get more dances. While others will not try to adapt their style to others, and thus, they dance less (and many of these people seem to be OK with this).
 
dchester said:
Out of curiosity, does attractiveness really matter to you, once you've danced with them?
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No, I prefer the inner beauty of... sorry, I couldn't keep a straight face there.

Looks matter, to everyone. And the key thing is that this factor is third on my list - why does everyone always ignore that placement?

From examining many local leads, I'd say that attractiveness is not only their first criterion, but it's their only one. I at least admit it.
 
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