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I love ballroom. I love competition. I don't really like the competition itself but more of the preparation. It brings everything into focus. I discovered ballroom dancing by accident. I went into it because I thought learning to dance would be a good way to meet women. I was coming out of a...

Lately, I've been in a rut in my dancing. I trained hard for a competition before the summer and since then, I'm just not mentally and physically "there." I struggled in my lessons and in practice and it seems like my brain and body were just not in sync. It seemed like I was starting all over...

Look, you guys all are familiar with my posts. I'm a fraud. I had no interest in dance whatsoever for my entire life. I was the guy in my friend group who hated it when we elected to go to a dance club for the night because I knew I had no moves and could not dance. I also saw it as a way to be...

@c955 You brought up a very good insight. Yes, I am one of those people that require actual tangible proof that I've achieved something. Although I can feel it when I've improved or hit a new milestone, somehow I require that external validation from an authority. It's just how I roll and the...

@bia Interesting perspective. I've always been an all or nothing type of person. Moderation has never been my thing. I have an addictive personality for sure. When I'm into something, I'm all in. I guess it's no surprise that after months of being all in, I'm burnt out. @RiseNFall @FancyFeet...

I completed this major competition a few weeks ago that I was training months for. I did ok. It didn't go as well as I imagined it in my mind (yah i know it never does). Around the time of my training, some external non-dance related stresses came into my life. I have some career related...

People don't know they're addicted or refuse to acknowledge their addiction until it becomes a real problem. I wouldn't say my addiction to ballroom has become a real problem yet but I acknowledge that I am somewhat addicted. It's like ballroom dance was designed for the type of person I am...

Lessons are expensive. If I'm taking more lessons with an instructor, it means I'm appreciating her skills as a teacher and that it's working. At my school, the instructors take pleasure in seeing their students improve and succeed. I've seen instances of mild frustration when some of their...

Big kudos to this. As a guy who has had a ton of personal experience as well as observing other guys' experiences, this is so true. We live in a culture where the man feels like he has to be the aggressor, even if its not welcomed and there's that whole thing about how a woman's natural...

I was looking back at some old threads regarding franchised dance studios. There seems to be some snobbery amongst some dancers that these studios are like a little pond or even a cult that exists outside the realm of mainstream dancing or whatever that is. And that it's format is too...

@Wannabe Triple Threat I never said social media is an excuse for inappropriate behavior. How did you deduce that from what I wrote? I am saying that in the past for guys who lack social awareness, at most they'd be banned from the venue and that was it. They learn their lesson and move on...

The thing about common sense is that it's not that common. Creeps usually fall into two categories: those who know exactly what they're doing and those that lack social awareness. For the guys in the latter category, it does not just extend to their interactions with women but to their...

@IndyLady Thanks for clarifying. I myself have found in these situations where I'm interested in a particular lady and would like the chance to get to know her more and I was wondering what the correct protocol is. I would NEVER ask her to come home with me just because she was...

@RiseNFall Suppose it was a man you were interested in and attracted to, what if he did the exact same thing? Is it still creepy?

@RiseNFall How old was this man? If he was young, he may have just been inexperienced with women. I know plenty of guys who are just inexperienced and clueless and so may come off as creepy but they didn't actually have any bad intentions. Also, I'm curious, what if he instead asked you out...

In an activity where physical contact between the sexes is basically a requirement, ironically, I've rarely seen or heard of any male "creeps" in the dance community. Women also seem forgiving of the odd accidental touch that do happen, particularly to newer and clumsier male dancers. It's kinda...

I've grown to respect my instructors for their talents. I would never want to put them in a position to compromise their careers even if they were interested in dating me. I see how hard they work and how devoted they are to the art of dance. I also have dance goals of my own that I want to...

And that's my entire point. If I've got a very talented instructor who is helping me make breakthroughs in my dancing, I want to show my appreciation by doing more lessons with her. That way, it's for our mutual benefit. Giving her gifts is like saying now she owes me something. But if I do more...

Thanks Lucia. Welcome to ballroom dancing. I'm sure you and your husband will find much joy with it. I think for my situation, it's different. See, I'm quite young. I'm in my 30's but I look like I'm in my mid 20's. The female instructors at my school are in their early to mid 20's so if I...

I'm gonna try "meditating" if you could call it that. Sit in a dark room with my headphones and listen to the music of my routine and try to visualize each step in my mind in as much detail as possible. It's really really hard. I just don't have enough space in my apartment to be able to do...