twnkltoz
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As a teacher, I avoid terms like "putting pressure" and "resistance" because they are generally misinterpreted and you have ladies using their arms to create their connection--this results in a very heavy follow and a tired guy!
Don't put downward pressure on his arm. Hold your arm in position with just enough muscle tone that you can react to his movements with your body--don't be rigid. Connect to his arm with your hand, allowing your hand to rest slightly on it...this will give enough weight to the connection without him feeling like he's holding you up...however, it should only be the weight of your hand, not your whole arm or side.
When the ladies try to push, resist, or apply pressure, it feels like you're moving a mack truck. Her reactions will be slower and it will be harder to move and lead her. The lady should think about moving her body to keep up with her arm, not about what's happening with the arm. The man should be able to move you with his pinky finger to your pinky finger. In addition, I like to think of it as a "positive" connection: active, definitely there, solid, like the lady is always coming to the man...I don't want to feel her pulling away.
Does that make sense?
Don't put downward pressure on his arm. Hold your arm in position with just enough muscle tone that you can react to his movements with your body--don't be rigid. Connect to his arm with your hand, allowing your hand to rest slightly on it...this will give enough weight to the connection without him feeling like he's holding you up...however, it should only be the weight of your hand, not your whole arm or side.
When the ladies try to push, resist, or apply pressure, it feels like you're moving a mack truck. Her reactions will be slower and it will be harder to move and lead her. The lady should think about moving her body to keep up with her arm, not about what's happening with the arm. The man should be able to move you with his pinky finger to your pinky finger. In addition, I like to think of it as a "positive" connection: active, definitely there, solid, like the lady is always coming to the man...I don't want to feel her pulling away.
Does that make sense?
...am finding that standard in contact is helping me with this though...I understand why people don't start out that way but I really wish I had to have averted such bad habits in frame...though I think I am correcting them admirably