Adjusting the embrace

opendoor said:
Hi LoveTango, ...the one sliding up and down has been me. I´m sliding all the time, and I will tell you why! The followers I dance with really are experienced, outspoken and frank, but the mentioned reaction never occured. So there may be other reasons? Do you find it could be a dirty like pass eventually? I do not need to dance tango to have the opportunity to touch women, but for some men the situation might be that way.

When I dance (and I prefer lyrical pieces as from Donato, Rodriguez, Calo, some Fresedo, and Malerba) I am going to interpret especially the melody. So when walking and projecting I put my hand round the woman´s right shoulder blade (so called abrazo profundo). When doing rebotes, I put it at her waist, and there always are passages I put it lower, as well. Embrace is a living thing, as your steps, your head, your mouth corners, your eyes, and your breathing. Should start a thread on interpreting dramatically by breathing...

And (vice versa) I really find it annoying and nasty if a follower keeps her left hand and arm always at the some position. I simply expect that the woman emphasizes cadences, or sequences by fondling my neck tenderly, or by pressing her palm with outstreched fingers on my spine right between the blades when the melody becomes really dramatic, and of course that the follower slides down onto my upper arm in colgadas or giros.

And please take a look at the attached photo: I chose that one because you can read in my face how the melody actually went. A stoic look was as annoying as could be. http://www.dance-forums.com/album/photos/photo-3524.html
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Well, yes, the embrace should not be rigid. I noticed most leaders don't have rigid embrace. However only the minority cause discomfort. Some make me worried that their hand would eventually goes down to my hip, while the others make me worried that my shirt would eventually been pulled up.
 
Tango is a small world. So a minority among an already small community in really not many, you're able to remember all the worrying ones and to decline their invites.
 
others make me worried that my shirt would eventually been pulled up.
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How's this for an embrace problem?
Being on the tall side, I sometimes find that the right side of my shirt is being pulled down, creating a substantial gap at the collar skewed to the right. I guess I should be thankful that no one has pulled a button off yet.
 
LoveTango said:
.. while the others make me worried that my shirt would eventually been pulled up.
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By the way, and thats really not a joke (honestly): yet so often it happens that unknown women begin to open absentmindedly my upper shirt button between the pieces on the dancefloor. (It also happend that one did button up my shirt again, when too much were open). Actually I find it great, I have an inner smile then, and arrange my shirt again when the cortina comes. Can someone share similar experiences ...
:p
 
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