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I am happy at your joy and delight :)
And I'm happy at your confidence with him too! You've definitely leveled up as a student.

You should continue to share your stories so I can live vicariously through you!

I think, maybe I'll end up going if my secondary warmfuzzy studio opens up soon with no touching, even if they're not very good technically. At this point, I just miss being in a studio and the camederie. I really very much miss my primary studio and teacher but they won't open till June at least.
 
So I said yes, & declared, “we’ll work on smooth tomorrow.” (Before our enforced separation, I would probably have phrased that as a question.)
Hahaha! Well, THAT didn't go quite as I expected. Pro is clearly still the one in charge. I arrived today for my double lesson (already masked), washed my hands, and put on my smooth shoes. But before I could even walk all the way across the dance floor to greet Pro, he looked down at my feet, shook his head, and said "no, no...we need continuity...we need to reinforce what we worked on yesterday with your Latin movement. So put your rhythm shoes on, please."

Sigh. Of course I obeyed.

Yesterday, he asked if I wanted to move into the small ballroom where we used to always have my lessons. I said nah, the main ballroom was fine, since there was only one other couple there. Today, however, he said, "let's go in here instead," and bcs there were 2 other couples in the main room, I agreed.

He said we'd spend the second lesson on smooth, but explained that because we hadn't done much actual dancing yesterday, he wanted us to work on incorporating the Latin body movement into the various dances. And we did - but we only got thru rumba, the tiniest bit of cha cha, and a tiny little corner of salsa, in the 50 minutes after my 40-minute lesson started. He suggested we take a break before the second lesson. I said I was fine going straight thru & just ending early, but he said he needed to go take off his mask for a few minutes (I totally get that!!!!).

We did waltz during the second lesson; reviewed the figures I've already learned, tidied up some rough edges, and at one point I missed his lead on something bcs I was actually dancing with my eyes closed, a big smile under my mask. It just felt so good to be dancing with a partner, even if said partner was only holding me by my right hand and my left forearm.

Second lesson also ran about 50 minutes. This is nuts. I've NEVER had a lesson with Pro run over before that I can remember, until this week. And now I've just had 3 in a row run long.

Between lessons, each pro goes to whichever table where his/her last student's belongings were during the lesson, and sprays down the table and all chairs at that table with disinfectant, and wipes everything down. Ditto for the restrooms, including the doorknobs and light switches. There are also signs up ALL OVER the studio, about washing your hands (including how often and for how long), leaving your mask on at all times, and so on.

It's weird having the studio so empty. Studio Mgr wandered in during my second lesson to check on things (from a distance). I was glad Pro & I weren't touching each other right then...I had this absurd flash of adolescent guilt - "oh-my-gosh-did-he-catch-us?" Like, WTF? Catch us doing what? (The voice in my head is booming, "[Pro]! I saw one of your fingers move a quarter-inch past [PNP]'s elbow, almost to her bicep - how dare you violate the social distancing rules! Ye are both hereby banished from the kingdom!")

He offered me another lesson tomorrow, but I said no. (My schedule is actually free, but 3 lessons in one week is plenty, even though I'm still in withdrawal; and I do need time to practice also [and I do actually work full-time...just not during the hours most people do].) I told him I was surprised he wasn't booked up...that I had expected to get no more than one lesson every other week, and certainly no doubles. He said "yes, that's what we expected too! But a lot of students say they can't dance in masks." I asked, "can't?" He shrugged & said, "or won't. Whatever. Same thing. Some say claustrophobia. Some say not comfortable. Some opposed in principle. Anyway, it means my schedule is very open."

Sure, the mask is uncomfortable, especially when you're waltzing and need to take deep breaths...and when it shifts to bump the lower eyelid (maybe that only happens to me, since I have a small face)...and when the straps pull on your ears or strands of hair get caught on them - BUT WHO CARES??? It's a temporary inconvenience. A very small price to pay, IMO.
 
A very small price to pay, IMO.

Especially when one is paying a substantial price for the lessons in the first place!

They're going to have a rough time staying in business if most of their lesson slots stay open even on their reduced schedule. Maybe they should take pictures or short videos of people having fun taking their lessons and post those to their Facebook page.
 
Sure, the mask is uncomfortable, especially when you're waltzing and need to take deep breaths...and when it shifts to bump the lower eyelid (maybe that only happens to me, since I have a small face)...and when the straps pull on your ears or strands of hair get caught on them - BUT WHO CARES??? It's a temporary inconvenience. A very small price to pay, IMO.
Could you wear a headband with buttons sewn on, and hook the straps from the mask around the buttons instead of around your ears?
 
Could you wear a headband with buttons sewn on, and hook the straps from the mask around the buttons instead of around your ears?
There's a big market for these in the nursing community. Etsy has stepped up to the plate, naturally, but if you have the materials and tools they're pretty easy to make yourself.
 
I talked freely (and happily) about IFP and details of what we’re working on. I demonstrated several of the practice exercises she gave me, and he nodded approvingly... A couple times, though, he frowned, & said, almost accusingly, “she does international!”
So...at my lesson yesterday, this came up again (the difference between american & international, & the fact that IFP does international). He mentioned, “I’ve watched her dance. I mean, I looked her up on YouTube.” That pleased me. No matter how you interpret it, it means he is paying attention to me. It does NOT mean he’s possessive or jealous, or that he would care if I left him to dance exclusively with IFP’s studio. But it means he knows I’m taking lessons with someone else and he’s curious enough about that to look her up.
 
It is very nice when you feel your pro is truly invested in your dancing.
I’m sure it would be.

But I can’t say that about Pro. I think maybe he’s paying a bit more attention than he used to, but that is likely from boredom after being out of work for 8 weeks.

Out of curiosity, how many of you believe that your instructor is “truly invested” in your dancing? If so, at what point in your study did that happen? (E.g., from the very first lesson, or as you prepared for your first showcase, or after the first comp at which you placed well, or after 3 years of lessons, etc.)
 
Having now resumed in-person lessons with Pro, the disadvantages of virtual lessons are more noticeable to me. For example, IFP & I spend probably a total of 5 minutes throughout each lesson in adjusting our respective devices. Pause to move the angle up or down; pause to put it on the floor or table; pause to zoom in or zoom out; pause to relocate it to get a wider angle view focused on a different part of the room; each time asking “is this good? Can you see my feet/hips/frame? How about now? Is this better?” All of that takes longer than one might expect. However, since she usually runs over by at least 5 minutes, I don’t feel at all like I’m being “shorted” in my lessons...I’m just pointing out what I’ve noticed.

A much bigger annoyance is that there seems to be a time delay for our audio. We use FaceTime; we haven’t bothered with Zoom since it’s just the two of us & we both have iPads. It is a REGULAR FREQUENT PROBLEM that my steps are not in sync with her counting the beat out loud. As a musician, this drives me crazy. It is particularly frustrating because it makes me look like I can’t follow a beat, or that I don’t know the difference between the quicks and the slows - BUT I DO, gosh darnit!! The problem is solved if I do my own out-loud counting for her. When she can see that my step is occurring on the correct beat, because she can hear MY counting, the two line up perfectly. But when I instead listen to HER count, it never works.

Another audio-related frustration is that we often have to repeat ourselves, due to inadvertently talking over each other. She says X, I ask a question about X, but as I’m asking it, she has already said Y. We both realize what has happened, and pause - so I again ask my question about X, she answers it, then she says Y again. I have found that using hand signals works well. Double thumbs up (ok, yes, understood, no questions)...one index finger raised, facing her (wait a second - I have a question or I need to process what you just said or I’m thinking about or trying to remember something)...entire hand raised, wide open, palm facing her (stop! You’ve lost me!)...double thumbs down (ugh I know I just did that wrong).

Anyway, due to the progress I’ve made while working with her, it’s obvious that these annoyances are not significantly hindering our lessons. But it does make me wonder how much MORE effective they would be in person.
 
Out of curiosity, how many of you believe that your instructor is “truly invested” in your dancing? If so, at what point in your study did that happen? (E.g., from the very first lesson, or as you prepared for your first showcase, or after the first comp at which you placed well, or after 3 years of lessons, etc.)
By the second lesson or so - lessons consistently running 10-15 minutes overtime (if the slot right after is clear)
 
Out of curiosity, how many of you believe that your instructor is “truly invested” in your dancing? If so, at what point in your study did that happen? (E.g., from the very first lesson, or as you prepared for your first showcase, or after the first comp at which you placed well, or after 3 years of lessons, etc.)

I think to some extent this varies with the personality of the coach. I worked with a variety of local teachers and traveling coaches over the years.

Some of these were truly great teachers, and also invested in each of their students. These were a joy to discover, and I worked with them whenever I had a chance, back when I was able to invest time and energy in my dancing. I saw them do this not just with me, but with their other students as well. I was bronze and later silver level, and was impressed that they would put that sort of mental effort in my development when they had much higher level students to work with as well.

Others were great teachers and not so invested in their students in the way that's been described in this thread. They were certainly professional and knew how to teach effectively, though. Maybe this second group was highly invested in their top students, I don't know. They were still useful to work with to gain technical skills, but it felt a bit more obviously fee for service, and less like you had a guiding team member in your corner.

And of course, not all were great teachers, so there were other combinations here, too. But I definitely ran into both "types." The ones that were more invested in their students just seemed to do that naturally (part of who they were). Same for the ones that weren't, in a different way. So I wouldn't necessarily expect one type to turn into the other type, though I suppose it could happen.
 
Out of curiosity, how many of you believe that your instructor is “truly invested” in your dancing? If so, at what point in your study did that happen? (E.g., from the very first lesson, or as you prepared for your first showcase, or after the first comp at which you placed well, or after 3 years of lessons, etc.)
I'm not sure I know what "truly invested" means. I think that between lessons, my pro thinks about what would help me and his other students. I think he wants to help me reach my goals. But I'm sure he is more "invested" in his own dancing with his competition partner who happens to be his wife. In fact, I hope he is!

I tutor high school students, and I'd see his level of investment is me is more-or-less my investment with my students. An individual instructor should at least try to gauge the personality of a student, what things they do well, poorly, have ideas of how to deal with it.

Roughly a year ago, my old pro left the studio where I took lessons. That left only the male studio owner as male dance partner. I had taken a few privates with the remaining studio-owner pro and my impression at the beginning of any lesson was that he not only hadn't give one second of thought to me as a student, he didn't even remember what we had done the week before. So, I would have said he wasn't invested in me. I decided to look around.
 

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