FallOutBoiii
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hey whats up. I have a high school dance coming up and I have a question. what is a good approach for dancing? do I ask the girl, or just begin dancing with her? thanks i advance
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fascination
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asking is th polite thing to do
A lot of guys these days think it's cool to just walk up the girl and start dancing. Uhh... well. I'm just an old fart, so feel free to disregard what I say. :lol:
I think walking up to a girl and just dancing is a two-edged sword. A lot of girls these days will dance back. So I guess you've accomplished your purpose, right?
The only problem is that it's kinda disrespectful, IMO. It may work, short term. The girl may dance with you, right then, because she doesn't want to make a scene.
But, if you're looking, at any point in the future, to be friends with this girl, why not invest the 15 seconds it takes and just ask? It may be old-fashioned, but it'll still make a good impression.
Besides, as much as I don't want to freak you out, the risk of rejection is there regardless of which approach you take. Stinks, doesn't it? :?
So why not take the polite approach? :wink:
I think walking up to a girl and just dancing is a two-edged sword. A lot of girls these days will dance back. So I guess you've accomplished your purpose, right?
The only problem is that it's kinda disrespectful, IMO. It may work, short term. The girl may dance with you, right then, because she doesn't want to make a scene.
But, if you're looking, at any point in the future, to be friends with this girl, why not invest the 15 seconds it takes and just ask? It may be old-fashioned, but it'll still make a good impression.
Besides, as much as I don't want to freak you out, the risk of rejection is there regardless of which approach you take. Stinks, doesn't it? :?
So why not take the polite approach? :wink:
motardmom
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Definitely ask. A simple "would you like to dance" is polite and a good way to start. If you are nervous to talk, or you don't want to actually hear her say, "No," you could hold out your hand in an inviting way, nod your head towards the dance floor, raise your eyebrow(s) in a questioning expression, and smile. That works too. But I'm with the others, just starting to dance is a little... eh. I don't think it really reflects well on you and it is presumptive. You can't go wrong with asking. She may say no, but that rejection is small in comparison to you sending out vibes that you are too aggressive. Girls may avoid you but you won't know why.
And if you really want to watch a girl melt, ask her if you can kiss her (after you are sure she would say yes, of course...).
And if you really want to watch a girl melt, ask her if you can kiss her (after you are sure she would say yes, of course...).
GalacticDancer44M
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motardmom said:
All great advice motardmom, but this last piece surprised me. I can recall asking a young lady that I started dating years ago if I could kiss her and her response was "Don't ask, just do it!"
I guess it depends on the person. In your case, I'll remember to ask!
GalacticDancer44M
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motardmom said:
Would you like to dance?
(BTW, I got the idea of cropping my picture from seeing yours. But don't worry, yours still looks much better!)
GalacticDancer44M
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motardmom said:
Great! I hear there's a nice little town out your way called "Sun Valley". Any good dance spots up there or shouldn't we worry?
GalacticDancer44M
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motardmom said:
Just called my pilot and told him to get the jet fueled and have our flight plan in place for Idaho Falls pronto! No time to pack anything but dancing shoes. Figured we can go on a shopping spree in Vegas first. Is that ok?