Breaking up sucks!!!!

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SalsaGeek

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The only thing that keeps me going is dancing. I can't wait until this weekend. Just wanted to vent since I don't have much to do besides reading dance forums. :? How do you guys/gals deal with it?
 
breaking up

ooh, i know it does. sorry to hear you're going through it. it's painful and there's no way around that; either you bury the pain with various distractions or you breathe deeply and feel it, and love and accept yourself for who you are, knowing that everything happens for a beautiful and kind reason and you don't need to know why things happen as they do, but you can look at the patterns that played out, and see if there were any that you've done before that didn't work for you. i think one way of letting go of any resentment or anger for the other person is to imagine that you only have 2 weeks to live, or they do, then all the negative emotion fades away and you can appreciate their essence. also, this is a time for you to gather your strength and figure out what really makes you happy in your life. and remember you're not alone, that everyone has gone through these feelings as well. i'm sending you a prayer right now that you can use this time to grow more into who you were born to be. hugs, meagalita
 
Thanks meagalita

Thank you for your prayer. It's been hard and I've lost my appetite. I get this funny feeling in my stomach kinda like butterflies when you are nervous. it just turns me inside out. :(
On the bright side is that I can spend more time and money on dancing. Maybe I will find me a new partner/girlfriend with my new skills. 8)
 
It is tough SalsaGeek! It's good that you have the distraction of salsa dancing to keep your mind away somewhat. There really isn't much that one can say to make it better. It happened, but it is in the past, and the present moment, the next, and the next....are all meant to be fully lived. I'm here now but tonight I walk out and get struck by a drunken driver!! Who knows?
 
Wow megalita, where've you been hiding the past month and a half or so? I've *so* needed to hear something like that... :(
 
My tip: Get your mind on something else. Don't sit at home being depressed, just browsing the net doing nothing but waiting for you next dance-fix that will only get you high for a few hours before you're back into your own emptiness agaian.

Instead, use your spare time to start doing something new. Something you've wanted to before, but never got around to. Be active, and you may also meet some new people in your life. And with new people always come new potensial partners. :wink:
 
What was is now over. You probably have some nice times and good memories to look back on. You have some experiences, good and bad, that has thought you something about yourself. So, when entering your next relationship, you know more about yourself and stand better prepared for any challenges that will come with it.

It's called life, and we all go through it. :)
 
Busy yourself with hobbies! Do that housework you've been neglecting! I remember, oh so many years ago when I was single, a couple of long-term relationships left me in a wretched state. What did I do? Go out and buy new towels and bedsheets- stuff for the house. It made me feel like I was getting a fresh start(& I wasn't spending a lot of money because Macy's was having a White Sale! :lol: ). You'll most DEFINITELY meet nice, new people through dancing! Good luck!!!
 
I'll restrain my initial bitter-thinly-vieled-in-humor response and say instead that you're not alone. Today I had my first full meal in a number of days... and it finally didn't feel like it was going to come back up.

It's not easy... learn... then proceed with your life of happiness

easier said than done I know
 
Hmm. This is all good advice. For me, each time has been different. I guess the one thing I've learned is to respect the fact that you're going through a grieving process. And everybody's grief looks and feels different. Do whatever you have to, to get through it. That might be staying at home feeling sorry for yourself, or it may mean breaking things to channel anger, or it may mean crying, or calling your friends in the middle of the night and talking endlessly, or it may mean hooking up with a rebound girlfriend. Do whatever you need to let yourself experience the negative emotions, so that you can let them go.

(If you pick a rebound girlfriend, be honest with her. 8) )

You'll be okay. Probably not as soon as you want, but you'll be okay.
 
:( I sowwy you are feeling that way but don't worry....your a dancer and that's something you can smile about no matter what. Dancing is something everyone can do but it isnt something everyone can do well. We are a few among the few of artist that are special and have a very unique talent, it's not normal for a humans body to bend and twist and stretch in different ways and it's weird to think that because us dancers think it is normal....so when your down about the "normal" ups and downs that the world gives us, just think...HEY I know how to touch my toes or I know how to do grande plea correctly or I know how to kick my leg higher then my head...were abnormal to the world...but unique to ourselves so if a girl passes that up...she wont ever find another person like you again. :D
 
DF is a great place to start your healing process. Many of us have been through what you are going through, more than you think, I bet.

That's the reason why those relationship/dating related threads are popular......we all need a place to vent.

Take care. These things have a way of blowing themselves over. Human spirits are stronger than we sometimes feel.
 
Yes, salsachinita. I was going to suggest other healing alternatives:

1. Torch her apartment :shock:
2. Find gorgeous and buxom beauty to take as a date to someplace the ex is sure to be :twisted:


And, best (and most legal) or all: 3. Say really mean things about her on the internet. DF is the perfect place for alternative #3. :wink: :roll:
 
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